Angry Monday randoms

[billybumbler]

OK the angry part is maybe just me

My husband was such a dick yesterday. I'm so angry and not talking to him. He needs to go to therapy or I'm contemplating divorce. I wish I were exaggerating. I just don't have it in me to be patient with his issues with an infant and a 4yo.

[ellabee]

1st day back at work for me. Eeek!

Daycare drop off went alright. I'm going to miss eating Bs chubby cheeks all day. 😭

[ellabee]

So many ((hugs)) billybumbler.

[shellbell]

Good luck today ellabee!

[billybumbler]

Thanks ellabee. Have a good day at work! It's got to be hard going back so soon. B will do great at daycare!

[notagoddess]

I'm sorry billybumbler. Hugs.

ellabee good luck!! That flew by so quickly.

I need to do some paperwork today for my state's paid maternity leave. I know we're lucky to get it but they make it such a pain in the ass. For example they denied my initial request because of "lack of documentation" from my doctor, even though he kept the copy of the fax he sent. Apparently this happens all the time. And they have a customer service number that they never, ever answer. I'm convinced they make it difficult so they can avoid paying benefits to a large percentage of women to keep their budget contained.

[loves2shop4shoes]

billybumbler, hugs. In nearly 10 years together, the only time I seriously considered leaving my husband was in May... and then I found out I was pregnant.

It's been a long, hard road to fixing things, but we've both been in marriage and individual counseling and I can say we're at a MUCH better place now.

You can always PM me if you need to talk. I'm here for you.

I'm angry because of the thread on the parenting board. I wanted to give OP the benefit of the doubt, but I'm actually sick from what I've learned.

Today I'm going to the daycare to drop off the deposit. Then I'm planning a full assault on my closet.

[notagoddess]

I did some serious impulse shopping on Amazon overnight and this morning. I bought three replacement bands for my new Fitbit and a pair of earrings. I haven't decided yet whether I'm going to be apologetic about it or claim my right to treat myself when my husband inevitably asks me about it.

[billybumbler]

Thanks notagoddess and loves2shop4shoes.

loves2shop4shoes, maybe we need marriage counseling too. I've been in therapy on and off since I was 15 but H has never been. I really think he needs it.

I've been lurking the thread in parenting and agree with you.

[loves2shop4shoes]

Apr 3, 2017 9:25:23 GMT -5 billybumbler said:

Thanks notagoddess and loves2shop4shoes.

loves2shop4shoes, maybe we need marriage counseling too. I've been in therapy on and off since I was 15 but H has never been. I really think he needs it.

I've been lurking the thread in parenting and agree with you.

DH had never been in therapy either. In May I told him it was non-negotiable. He's made a LOT of great progress and found a very insightful therapist.

There are still times, like this past weekend, where he regresses some and I have a Come to Jesus with him. The good news is that now those tough conversations are more productive and were much more able to get to the root of the argument.

I'm telling you, marriage counseling can only serve to improve your communication.

[shawnabm1320]

Good luck today, ellabee!

Sorry about the husband billybumbler

I'm hoping we can get outside today. I also need to do laundry, but what else is new. It's supposed to rain almost every day this week, so today is our chance to get some vitamin d. Clara slept like poop last night, and I woke up in the motn with a headache, so that was fun. Im not sure I can last 2 more months with this 2-hour grunting session in the wee hours of the morning. I'm going to try gas drops tonight, and if that doesn't work, I'm going to cut out obvious dairy and see if that helps. We started probiotics on Thursday, so hopefully those will kick in too.

Oh, and Clara is 1 month old today! 8 more months until we're sleeping through the night (if she follows her brothers footsteps )😉

[staz]

We had a great night last night and an awesome morning. I'm loving this! I'm getting so much done today and I'm hoping the trend continues. H has to work late every night this week (except for maybe Wednesday) and he's working Saturday so I'm gearing up for solo parenting.

H and I have done the marriage counseling thing. I'm a firm believer in that it's only beneficial. I also think that everyone should do it at some point because I do think it strengthens communication, even if you don't think you have a problem. Our marriage is so much stronger for it, and we still go every now and then for tune ups.

I'm sorry you and your H are having a hard time right now billybumbler. I hope it gets better soon.

Good luck being back at work ellabee!

[flyinghorses6]

Oh no billybumbler I'm sorry you're so angry. Hope he sorts out his shit. Or at least doesn't take it out on you. Hugs.

Good luck ellabee it's so hard and being unfair leaving our babies so young. Love your way!

loves2shop4shoes I've been following that thread too. I find it ridiculously sad regardless of the truth. Nobody wins in these situations sadly.

shawnabm1320 I hear you on the grunt fest! R is 2 months Wednesday and she cannot settle into deep sleep from 3:30/4-past 5 most mornings. And I've tried everything.

AFM I'm just home from the gym. I'm 8.5 lbs from my goal weight! I am pumped. I'm feeling awesome despite poor sleep. I swear I feel 100x more energetic days I get to the gym. R slept about 4 hours, then 3, then was up about an hour trying to settle. Then slept and hour; and then we snuggled an hour. It was her first night in her crib. I was on a mattress on the floor. I didn't plan on moving her this soon, but she seemed more comfortable during her crib naps. I think the RNP was getting too small and she couldn't stretch out her legs. And the bassinet mattress is kinda sucky. So I'm hoping the crib sleep is better and better. Plus one less change to deal with when I go back to work.

Other than that I need to figure out who is invited to Ks 2nd Birthday because I need to get the invites out by next weekend.

[billybumbler]

Thanks everyone. Marriage is hard. I'm sad and angry.

[monicageller]

billybumbler so sorry about everything. I hope things get better.

ellabee hang in there mama!

Not much planned today. Maybe a walk and of course the aforementioned trip to kohls for the purpose of DQ afterwards.

[crazycatlady6]

billybumbler - (((hugs))).

ellabee - I hope today is going well for you.

My vag is angry but I am happy since I got into my OB today. The reason for the increased pain is that my stitches didn't dissolve and they were inflamed and pulling my skin, hence the increase of pain over the weekend. Stitches are gone, I am going home and doing a sitz bath, and I have a follow-up in 2 weeks.

[billybumbler]

crazycatlady6 yay for an answer about your pain! I hope it gets better quick now that the stitches are gone.

[ellabee]

The onsite daycare at work is "sponsoring" the pumping room and they've stocked it with Lactation cookies! How cool is that?

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@ellabee - Good luck today! Awesome in the free lactation goodies too.

billybumbler- Hugs!! Hope you and DH can find someone to talk to soon to start sorting things out.

[dancerspose]

billybumbler HUGS I'm so sorry for the troubles with YH.
ellabee good luck today, and score for free lactation cookies!
notagoddess sorry for the annoying paperwork, and I say keep all your amazon goodies guilt free!
loves2shop4shoes hmm I never visit the parenting board, but you've got me curious...
shawnabm1320 solidarity on the wee hours of the morning grunting. We're in that boat too. Gas drops and gripe water seem to only provide temporary relief. We started probiotics about a week and a half ago. There's been an improvement, but not total relief. I really don't want to cut things out of my diet (although I'm sure it would help me lose weight too...).
staz jealous of your great nights!
flyinghorses6 well done on getting your LO into the crib!
monicageller enjoy your DQ!
crazycatlady6 so glad you have a reason for the pain, and a hopeful solution!

AFM - we had a totally sucky night, or more accurately morning. I've basically been up since 3am. Z ate a whole 4oz then went back to sleep around 4:30, but by then I had to pump again and 5, and then I couldn't go back to sleep. I've had a splitting headache all day, probably from the lack of sleep.

We did photos this morning (waited so long because our wedding photographer who moved away was back in town this weekend). Given the lack of sleep I'm sure I look stellar...

I'm working from home a bit today, and other than that any hopes I had of being productive have been pretty much shot by the crappy night.

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Had to hit post because after spending most of G's nap reading the parenting thread I barely had time to reply before both babes woke up mad at the world hungry.

Really want to start some light workouts so that I keep trending downward weightwise or at least tone up. This belly is staying put this time and the csection pooch is real. I did some body weight stuff quickly this morning and figure if I can do something a couple times a day it will be better than nothing.

[ls2012]

Ugh at that parenting thread. That shitshow has had me in such a dark place since reading it yesterday and it's only gotten worse.

Hugs billybumbler. I'm so sorry you've got this on your plate. I hope it resolves well for you.

ellabee, good luck on your first day back! Hopefully it goes smoothly and quickly for you.

Sabine slept 7hrs last night/ this morning!!! Then another 3, and another 2. I feel like a new woman. I honestly do not remember the last time I got such a nice stretch.

A is shopping with Nana today for some fun. Got to take the other two grocery shopping in a bit. I was going to start potty training G today but there's just too much going on this week. I need a decent stretch of not going anywhere so we can tackle this! It's past time and only going to get harder.

[flyinghorses6]

dancerspose I highly advise not reading the thread on parenting. It is the most sad, infuriating and disgusting thing ever. I honestly don't post over there often but check in daily. I wish I didn't.

[flyinghorses6]

I'm watching the Big Little Lies finale while drinking my coffee and both kids are napping in their cribs. Hoping I get through the episode!

Ps. Highly recommend this mini series. I read this book and they are doing a great job. Plus awesomely cast.

[ls2012]

Apr 3, 2017 12:29:46 GMT -5 flyinghorses6 said:

dancerspose I highly advise not reading the thread on parenting. It is the most sad, infuriating and disgusting thing ever. I honestly don't post over there often but check in daily. I wish I didn't.

Definitely. Save yourself the heartache and nausea.

[pivot]

I had a dentist appointment this morning. DS was good the whole time & my teeth look great. Still hate going to the dentist though.

ellabee Good luck at your first day back!!

[shawnabm1320]

We are sitting in a used car dealers lot because H found a really good price on a 4-runner. This place seems sketchy to me, and two employees have stood by my car (which has the windows open) and started smoking. What the heck. Get away from my kids with your cigarette smoke! This car better be worth it.

Oh, and despite realizing that we should probably get a minivan, we're looking at the 4-runner. I think MH is not ready for a minivan. I don't want to push him. Lol

[staz]

We just got back from a lovely walk. I'm so happy it's finally starting to feel like spring around here! My dog is at doggie daycare today (yes I'm *that* dog mom) and I miss the little bugger. She would have loved our walk today.

[oldbaylover1024]

billybumbler - I'm sorry, friend. I hope today is a better day.

C did well last night and has been pleasant today. Thank goodness because I'm solo while MH is at opening day - lucky him. And I'm hoping C's good mood continues for the next few days because MH's vasectomy is tomorrow. I'm gonna need a happy, easy baby while MH is resting.

I'm also supposed to work from home the next few days. LOL sure...

[linewifekat]

I read a few pages of the parenting thread. Did the op's posts get deleted? I'm not following it.