Hump Day

[sanibel21]

Welp that coffee yesterday was not decaf like I had ordered. I was up all night long, and not just because of DD2. It's gonna be a fun one today!
What's everyone got going on today?

[hikingmama222]

Sorry for the rough night sanibel21.

No plans for today but I need to get us out of the house since they are still working on the roof. Might try a little "hike" down by the river.

I've really got to sit down and finish our taxes (due at the end of April in Canada).

[jillian]

DD sat and watched the baseball game with me totally silent for an hour last night. Every once in a while she would look up at me, smile and go back to watching the game. It was the cutest damn thing. Then she slept until DH got her up at 7:30.
I'm here at work. Bored out of my mind. Our computers are down, it's spring break, so no buildings to visit and nothing to do that I don't need a computer for. I'm half tempted to wipe down my desk. This is just nuts

[adouces06]

sanibel21 sorry for the crummy nights sleep
hikingmama222 have a fun hike!
jillian DD does the same thing with basketball - she loves watching it!

[adouces06]

Pumping at work. My supply is dipping a little, but I'm hoping it's just a fluke thing. Worse comes to worse, it'll just mean I will have to start weaning soon if it doesn't come back up. Not the end of the world, seeing as I didn't think I would make it past 3 months lol.
I want to start working out more, so I think I am going to try the Tone It Up bikini series. Has anyone ever done it before??

[smallpotato]

sanibel21, so sorry for the bad night.
jillian, that is adorable. N used to sit like that and watch baseball with me

N came into our room at some point overnight but then went back to sleep. I didn't realize he had been in there until MH got up and checked on him, then told me that N had fallen asleep on his knees with his head on his chair. G had a little trouble settling down last night, but slept until almost 7.

My new dining room set is being delivered sometime between 10:30 and 1:30 today. I am so excited to see it. Tonight we have some more cleaning to do.

[ksyknelvr73]

I am struggling with a horrible attitude today...I'm totally burnt out with the kids right now (thanks to DH's schedule) and work has me stressed with all the transitions and potential job change - even if I don't get the job, my boss is still phasing out of his and the work is getting dumped on me in the interim. I have told DH quite a few times that I've been struggling with the kids lately and the boys have been especially difficult when he isn't there - last night DH was home and somehow I still ended up fixing dinner, cleaning up dinner, and getting the boys bathed and in bed...I was so upset with him and I told him and he just had nothing to say. He apologized this morning but really, it didn't help. And I had yet another shitty awful morning getting the kids ready/myself ready/kids dropped off/to work on time.

I think we're about to have a really unpleasant conversation because if I do get this job, it'll be a point where I'm making so much more than him at my job that I don't think he can actually maintain what he is doing now with coaching. I have a feeling it's going to be a really big issue and I honestly have no idea how we are going to figure it out.

[adouces06]

ksyknelvr73 hugs lady. I'm sorry things are so rough lately. I totally get what your feeling re: husband's not helping to the full extent when they are home. My H does the same thing ("but I worked all day... I am exhausted" - like dude, so am I. Welcome to mom life.) I hope something changes for you soon to make life a little easier for you.

[iwantbacon]

I'm sorry ksyknelvr73. I hope things get better for you soon with spring baseball ending.

I am also having a hard time trying to manage everything going on and maintain my sanity. I'm just so tired of having most of the family and house stuff on me, along with full time work. Hell, even when I'm at work, I'm pumping. Ugh.

And along those lines, I don't know where to fit in exercise. At least not now when baby is still not STTN. I don't want to work out after the kids are in bed because I go to bed maybe an hour after them. If only we could afford a chef so I could work out and someone else would handle dinner...

[jwinct]

sanibel21- That sucks. I feel like employees at coffee shops don't give a crap if they give people the wrong kind of coffee, so they're not careful about it.

This is how my day has gone so far:
When I got home from work yesterday, DD1 was in the shower because the boy who sits across from her threw up in class and she wanted to wash any germs off of herself. Just before bed, she said her stomach felt a little off, so we prepared the puke bucket just in case. She was also unusually tired and went right to sleep (she usually plays in her room for a little bit before going to sleep). Nothing all night and when she woke up, she said she felt okay. Then she got dressed and came downstairs and her face was all flushed and blotchy and she just didn't look good. She said her stomach was really upset and burst into tears, which is NOT like her at all. I texted DH, who was already at work, and he offered to come home so I could go to work. In the meantime, DD2 has gone to the bathroom several times and then when she tried to eat breakfast, she had to run to the bathroom and had diarrhea and was crying, saying she was feeling really sick to her stomach. Awesome. So, I got each kid situated with their pillows, blankets and a puke bucket. Thankfully we have two rooms downstairs that each have a TV and a couch. DH got home and I took off with the baby to drop him off at daycare. I drove right by the daycare and got about 1/4 past before I realized he was in the car, so I had to turn around. After I got to work, I spilled coffee on my pants (dark jeans, so not noticeable) and oatmeal on my shirt. I should have just stayed home!

[ksyknelvr73]

Apr 19, 2017 8:38:26 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

I'm sorry ksyknelvr73 . I hope things get better for you soon with spring baseball ending.

I am also having a hard time trying to manage everything going on and maintain my sanity. I'm just so tired of having most of the family and house stuff on me, along with full time work. Hell, even when I'm at work, I'm pumping. Ugh.

And along those lines, I don't know where to fit in exercise. At least not now when baby is still not STTN. I don't want to work out after the kids are in bed because I go to bed maybe an hour after them. If only we could afford a chef so I could work out and someone else would handle dinner...

Ugh, preach. Working full time, maintaining and running a household - kids, husband, actual house stuff, schedules....it's all just so much. I haven't been exercising lately because of this issue either, yeah I could do it when they go to bed but OMG that's the only time all day I have to myself to sit and do NOTHING for an hour or so!

[becole]

I exercise on my lunch break.

[adouces06]

Apr 19, 2017 8:42:00 GMT -5 ksyknelvr73 said:

Apr 19, 2017 8:38:26 GMT -5 iwantbacon said:

I'm sorry ksyknelvr73 . I hope things get better for you soon with spring baseball ending.

I am also having a hard time trying to manage everything going on and maintain my sanity. I'm just so tired of having most of the family and house stuff on me, along with full time work. Hell, even when I'm at work, I'm pumping. Ugh.

And along those lines, I don't know where to fit in exercise. At least not now when baby is still not STTN. I don't want to work out after the kids are in bed because I go to bed maybe an hour after them. If only we could afford a chef so I could work out and someone else would handle dinner...

Ugh, preach. Working full time, maintaining and running a household - kids, husband, actual house stuff, schedules....it's all just so much. I haven't been exercising lately because of this issue either, yeah I could do it when they go to bed but OMG that's the only time all day I have to myself to sit and do NOTHING for an hour or so!

I am actually contemplating waking up early to exercise. I loathe waking up early, but I think it might help jumpstart my day a bit. I really don't want to do anything after they go to bed, because that is my only time with my husband to just relax.

[jwinct]

ksyknelvr73 - I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Have you talked about counseling with him?

[adouces06]

Oh! I forgot to mention, I think we finalllllly have a tooth. I see white and it feels a little hard, but I don't think it has fully popped through yet. I'm guessing it'll will be fully visible in a day or two. Explains the immense amount of drool lately.

[ksyknelvr73]

Apr 19, 2017 8:53:28 GMT -5 jwinct said:

ksyknelvr73 - I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. Have you talked about counseling with him?

No, not at this point. We've done it in the past and I know he'd be open to it - and honestly if something can't change, that's where we're headed, again. I know that I can portray him as awful but he is actually very patient with me and is good about letting me have "me time" when he is not in season. But his season ends up lasting almost 6 months (pre-season starts in January, then actual spring season, then summer tournaments) and now having 3 kids, I'm really just finding myself totally unable to shoulder the burden of doing it all for such an extended period of time. Tack on the morning getting ready and drop off duties for 9 months out of the year and I'm just....losing it. He emailed me a few minutes ago asking if I could talk soon so I suppose he will call and maybe this discussion will lead to further possible resolutions for us. I hate it because I know he loves me and I do think he cares, but he is 100% a dreamer and caught up in living his life dream of coaching which is just really not working for our family as it is right now.

[smallpotato]

ksyknelvr73, I'm so sorry. I hope things improve once baseball season is over.
jwinct, sorry for the rough morning. I hope the girls feel better soon!
iwantbacon, I'm in the same boat for exercising. Getting up early to do anything wouldn't work for me because N wakes up before I do half the time. I'm tired by the time they go down, so after bedtime won't work either.
adouces06, yay for a tooth!

[ksyknelvr73]

@kitchen this is ideally what I would prefer, but I don't think it's an option. If he could just be an ASSISTANT instead of a head coach, that would cut his responsibilities enough that I think we could handle it. Unfortunately, and I don't know if this is a regional thing, when you are a male teacher here you are expected to coach a sport. Obviously some sports are more time-consuming and "more important"/more pressure than others (typically football and baseball are the big name sports). We just have NO balance. I've told him many times if he could just at least work in a school district where their start time is later so that he could help in the mornings (get the kids ready, drop off, etc) it would make a HUGE difference. I do feel that in the teaching world this is easier said than done. We don't have unions here, either.

[jcrewgirl]

ksyknelvr73, so many hugs. I hate when DH and I aren't on the same page. It's really the worst because that feeling just bleeds into everything else you have going on that day. It sucks. I really hope you get the position you interviewed for - do you have the option of hiring anyone to help you out? When I was in college, I would get up early and go to a family's home to help the kids get ready and take them to two different schools for drop-offs twice a week before heading to my morning class. Maybe you can find someone to assist? And maybe assist you after school? Any local colleges in the area? Maybe a child development major or something?

[jcrewgirl]

DS went to bed at 7:30 pm. I went to bed before 11pm and woke up around 1:30 am with the leakiest boobs and my right one felt so lumpy. It hurt so badly and I had left my pump at work. I picked up DS for him to nurse. I felt bad at first, but the kid didn't even wake up. He nursed both sides and I felt so much better afterwards! The kid then slept until 5:45 when my alarm went off to feed him again before I get ready for the day.

Going to a yoga class at noon. Working. In-laws coming into town tonight and staying with us through Monday. The grandparents are taking DD out of school tomorrow and have a fun day planned for her including a boat ride on the Potomac, the merry-go-round on the Mall, and one of the kid-friendly exhibits at one of the museums. She is going to come home exhausted!

[iwantbacon]

Apr 19, 2017 8:45:54 GMT -5 becole said:

I exercise on my lunch break.

I used to do this and LOVED it. Now, I only get 30 minutes for lunch which is lame.

[erien22846]

ksyknelvr73, It's good to keep the lines of communication open regarding your schedule and needs with your husband. Glad to hear you're standing up for yourself and being honest with him about possible changes in your career that will impact him, too. I've found with my husband that I need to vent my frustrations and then give him time to process everything before he responds. It's never a one conversation and done deal.

jwinct, wow, what a start to the day. I hope the worst is over!

iwantbacon, I've been running at 4:00 in the afternoon before picking up the kids from daycare. We don't have a shower at work so noon time workouts aren't an option. As the afternoon temps warm up, I'm not going to want to run in the heat of the day so I'm going have to come up with an alternative. We're getting to a point where I could probably run in the morning as DS2's wakeups are more predictable and I can plan around it.

When I started running after the first of the year, I was running after the kids went to bed. That was really depressing in the winter months running in the cold and dark. It'd be better now that it's warmer and not dark at 5 PM. I guess my point is that I just had to make time for it. There's always something else I could be doing, but I make myself carve out the time three times a week to go running.

[ksyknelvr73]

@kitchen and jcrewgirl, if I do get this job, I think we can afford to get a mother's helper. ANYTHING just to make some aspect of my life easier. I can't decide which time of day would be more beneficial, but at this point ANYTHING would be better than what it currently is. I know we have plenty of teenagers in our neighborhood who do babysitting so maybe I can set up a more permanent arrangement - at least for baseball season.

DH called me also and while I don't feel there was some amazing lightbulb moment or definite resolution, we did agree that he will be figuring out a way to take the boys to his games 1-2 times a week (he typically has 3 games/wk) which would make a big difference for me - just having the baby to feed, bathe and put to bed.

[jwinct]

I just called to see how the girls are doing and DH said they seem fine now. WTF.

The guys are there trying to finish painting the trim. It's supposed to rain later, but the paint only needs like 90 minutes to dry before it rains. They had finished all the trim in the back and on one side of the house yesterday. Even though the siding isn't painted yet, you can already tell how much better it's starting to look, just having the trim painted white. the previous owners just sprayed everything the same color before putting the house on the market. The painter didn't realize how much trim we actually had that needed to be painted. We are totally getting a bargain on this job - ha!

[fem]

iwantbacon I'm in the same boat with exercise. I know I need to do it but can't find the time + energy.
sanibel21 sorry for the crappy sleep, I feel ya. It really affects your mental health being that tired.
jwinct of course they feel better now! Kids save the crappy stuff for Mom.


It's rainy and I just want to curl up and nap. I'm having a slow week at work so that's not helping my motivation level. I keep staying up watching 13 Reasons Why (they want all the counselors in our district to make sure and watch it) so I'm extra sleepy.

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At work

[sanibel21]

I'm so sorry to everyone struggling trying to juggle it all. Makes me feel way less awful about myself and alone though. Between dd2 not sleeping, dd1s attitude, and basically no time away from either of them, I feel like I'm going backwards in the sanity department.

[smallpotato]

@snuff9861, is your ultrasound today? Keeping you in my thoughts!

[jwinct]

So, I went to the grocery store on my lunch break and of course there are Easter clearance tables right near the checkout area. There were bags of Hershey chocolate eggs with pretzel bits in them. WHAT!? I bought a bag and put them in the candy jar in our office hallway. Holy hell, they are delicious.

[iwantbacon]

The hard part for me is that I'm out of the house from 7am until 5:30pm, and my husband doesn't get home until closer to 7pm. Then it's quick dinner and bedtime for the kids. If I don't have to make dinner, then I could probably get in a workout DVD between the time we get home and MH gets home. Though baby still nurses during that time. Sorry, just thinking out loud. I know it will get easier as the boys get older.