A good IEP meeting

[bubbalicious]

I just got out of a good IEP meeting. Yup... a good one for my DS. I even complimented the team on their evaluations. 


I worked hard to keep decent relationships with the school despite them screwing my (complex) daughter over. It was worth it to get the DS the help he needs. 

His educational label is SLDs in 1st grade. Happy for him as we can start appropriate interventions at the end of 1st grade. Sad for my daughter. 

When a team comes together it can go great. 

[akafred]

So glad it went well for your son, bubbalicious. Wish things were easier on your daughter. I know how hard it is to have complex kiddos.

[bubbalicious]

Apr 19, 2017 9:35:02 GMT -5 akafred said:

So glad it went well for your son, bubbalicious . Wish things were easier on your daughter. I know how hard it is to have complex kiddos.

Attentional disorders and young girls is not done well (generally). also the general ed teacher made a comment how behaviors would have given her a different conclusion. DS doesn't have behaviors since he was identified so early and has always had appropriate supports. Irked me a bit for many reasons. 

[akafred]

DD is attention, anxiety, and defiant behaviors all rolled together. It's a mess to sort through regularly. It's a lot like trying to untangle Christmas tree lights while trying to figure out which damn bulb went out.

[bubbalicious]

Mine is tangled, never stops moving and is just like my mom. For fun, I think the teen years are starting early. language disorder doesn't stop the teen drama.

[justhorsinaround]

I am glad to hear your meeting for your son went well. Im sorry you didnt have the same outcome for you daughter, though i dont know the backstory. I applaud you though, for keeping a productive relationship with your team at school for sake of both your children. I can imagine that would be difficult in your situation.

[macchiatto]

I'm so glad the meeting went well. I'm sorry it's been a tougher road with your daughter. How old is she now?
And ditto pp; good for you for being able to maintain a good working relationship. I'm sure that hasn't been easy.

[mrsbuttinski]

Apr 19, 2017 10:16:22 GMT -5 bubbalicious said:

Mine is tangled, never stops moving and is just like my mom. For fun, I think the teen years are starting early. language disorder doesn't stop the teen drama.

IME, teen drama with girls starts as early as nine-ish. The hard-wired conformity start s around 4th grade. Hormones also hit; they fluctuate wildly (it's a bit like perimenopause in that respect, and woe to the mother who arranged to experience the two simultaneously) at first which leads to a level of emotional discomfort along with the adjustment to a new kind of body and the responsibilities for self care. Menstruation, body odor, pubic hair and acne can be really difficult for some girls to cope with. This can be worse for certain girls with developmental delays who are already not at ease with change and who aren't terrified of becoming adults.

That said, most more or less NT girls will settle down a lot by around 15-16 and are generally great company not long after. I used to joke that all girls should be rounded up at about 9 1/2 and sent to an island for a residential middle school program and returned for 10th grade.

Boys get obnoxious later. They start to stink literally and figuratively, closer to 6th grade. They can also be mouthy and moody and generally uncooperative until around 9th grade. DS was a late bloomer; his scout buddies hit puberty through middle school and were mostly back to human by the end of 9th. DS didn't start his nonsense until the summer between 8th and the start of 9th. Dark days.