Post by mama2a on Apr 19, 2017 14:47:40 GMT -5
I am in a job with 2 other people who do the same work as I do. One of the ladies, we'll call her E, has been doing this job for 10 years. I've worked there 3 years and the other lady has been in this specific role for a few months (but not new to our employer). E is really difficult to work with. She needs to have control of everything and is constantly critiquing my work. She also tells me exactly what to say to our clients and when I try to discuss things with clients she basically takes over the conversation. She also has no problem using disrespectful tones and be condescending to get what she wants with both me and my other coworker.
I'm an easygoing flexible person. I would like to think I'm competent and I recognize that there is always room for improvement and welcome feedback on how to do my work better. I think E goes above and beyond and is just out to show that she's boss and that I need to do everything just like her. Im very nice and respectful to her and oftentimes just ignore her as I recognize she has personal issues. My supervisor is well aware of her difficult personality and has offered to intervene if I wanted but I told him not to as this time because I work very closely with E and it could just make things awkward.
I've been trying to find a new job with the same employer so I've opted to just let this go and put up with it. I recognize she's not going to change. In the past when I've talked to her about disrespect she has apologized and has been nice for a few days but just goes back to her usual self soon after. We're in a union so I don't think there is any chance she'll ever get fired.
Anyway, TLDR: at what point do you do something to manage a difficult coworker? I feel I'm taking passive approach since I'm looking for a new job but I also feel like I'm letting her walk all over me. I honestly don't think she'll ever change so I think that is what keeps me from being motivated to do something.
I'm an easygoing flexible person. I would like to think I'm competent and I recognize that there is always room for improvement and welcome feedback on how to do my work better. I think E goes above and beyond and is just out to show that she's boss and that I need to do everything just like her. Im very nice and respectful to her and oftentimes just ignore her as I recognize she has personal issues. My supervisor is well aware of her difficult personality and has offered to intervene if I wanted but I told him not to as this time because I work very closely with E and it could just make things awkward.
I've been trying to find a new job with the same employer so I've opted to just let this go and put up with it. I recognize she's not going to change. In the past when I've talked to her about disrespect she has apologized and has been nice for a few days but just goes back to her usual self soon after. We're in a union so I don't think there is any chance she'll ever get fired.
Anyway, TLDR: at what point do you do something to manage a difficult coworker? I feel I'm taking passive approach since I'm looking for a new job but I also feel like I'm letting her walk all over me. I honestly don't think she'll ever change so I think that is what keeps me from being motivated to do something.