I'm up, babies are still asleep. R's motn wake up was at 6:45 so I just stayed up after he went back down. My mom is coming to my house for the day, they are in the middle of a remodel and the workers are tearing up a tile floor today. It's terrible timing but I'm excited to spend some time with her. She had her PET scan yesterday and will get the results tomorrow and then has a consult with a neurosurgeon on Tuesday. I'm hoping today will be a nice normal day for her and enjoys time with her grand babies.
Post by ambiguousmango on Apr 20, 2017 7:45:36 GMT -5
carrots and rinny, I am feeling you on going back to work, I go back Monday. We also did a trial run this morning and it went better than expected so that was nice.
meeggaannw, I hope you have a nice day with your mom. I know you have a lot going on and just wanted to let you know you are in my thoughts.
I have a dentist appointment today and I am waiting on my salon to open to see if they can squeeze me in. Nothing exciting here in the Mango household.
Post by heybulldog56 on Apr 20, 2017 8:03:41 GMT -5
Enjoy your last day ladies. I know it sucks but FX for smooth transitions for you all.
We plan on heading back to the zoo today. We can get in for $10 if we go back within 10 days of our last visit so why the hell not return. It should be less crowded today and therefore more pleasant. I hope we can actually feed the giraffes today! The line was way too long last weekend.
Day 2 of the crib transition was a success! B was down at 7, up to eat at 2:30, then back down until 6:50 - all in his crib! DD was down at 7:15, asleep by 8 and didn't wake when B fussed. Hooray!
And now I'll start worrying about the swaddle transition (because my brain apparently isn't good at taking a break from worrying about something).
Post by ambiguousmango on Apr 20, 2017 8:12:35 GMT -5
heybulldog56, giraffes are my 2nd favorite animal at the zoo (second only to the hippos) and I love feeding them. Fingers crossed for short lines and a fun time.
ellabee,Yay! That is great news. Have you thought about swaddling arms out while transitioning? I know we have a halo sleep slack that, for lack of a better term, has swaddle flaps that you can hug him in with but leave his arms out.
Post by summergirl1211 on Apr 20, 2017 8:36:28 GMT -5
Hugs to you ladies returning to work tomorrow/next week. I hope you enjoy the last of your leave and I hope everything goes smoothly when you return!
meeggaannw, I hope you have a nice relaxing day with your mom today. FX the results come back as good as can be expected with the PET scan. I'm still sending you lots of hugs.
We found out yesterday that besides a nasty cold, Noah has an ear infection. I'm glad it's nothing worse but we can't get him to take the amoxicillin. We were hiding it in milk for awhile but now he's caught on and won't drink his bottles. We tried shooting it into his cheek and he and my H ended up covered in pink by the time we were done. Luckily the doctor he saw is our neighbor so I might text her later if we're still struggling. Otherwise he slept like crap last night. Up every 30-60 minutes screaming, although now he's been sleeping the last 90 minutes (go figure). DH took today off and I'm working from home. We're both exhausted. I hate to whine, but I am just struggling with him being sick, being so tired, and work. I've been an awful employee lately but I just can't help it.
Post by ambiguousmango on Apr 20, 2017 8:44:20 GMT -5
summergirl1211 that is really tough. I hope little guys feels better soon and hope you can sneak a nap in. I also don't want you to be too hard on yourself about your job. There will be times where you have to focus more on either your kids or your job, and you will probably always feel like your short changing one or another, but you are a good employee and a great mom. I know I haven't been around that long but I lurked for a long time and I can tell that you are great at both of these things.
summergirl1211 that is really tough. I hope little guys feels better soon and hope you can sneak a nap in. I also don't want you to be too hard on yourself about your job. There will be times where you have to focus more on either your kids or your job, and you will probably always feel like your short changing one or another, but you are a good employee and a great mom. I know I haven't been around that long but I lurked for a long time and I can tell that you are great at both of these things.
Relevant: I've always appreciated this quote because I am a people pleaser workaholic who is incapable of saying "no".
"Imagine life as a game in which you are juggling some five balls in the air. You name them - work, family, health, friends and spirit - and you're keeping all of these in the air. You will soon understand that work is a rubber ball. If you drop it, it will bounce back. But the other four balls - family, health, friends and spirit - are made of glass. If you drop one of these, they will be irrevocably scuffed, marked, nicked, damaged or even shattered. They will never be the same. You must understand that and strive for balance in your life." Attributed to Brian Dyson but I read it in a James Patterson book.
So I'm thinking tomorrow will be easier than I thought. It feels oddly..... normal to be kid free and I'm not as sad about being away from L as I thought I'd be.
Target is glorious at 8am. No one was there and it was blissfully silent. I was looking for his birthday present, the Little Tike's t-ball set, but they didn't have it. So I treated myself to a fancy coffee while ds and I wandered the store. I left with only paper towels for which the cashier made fun of me. We then braved the shopping plaza from hell to find his gift at Walmart.
Ds helped me plant tomatoes and basil. Now I'm dying because it's 76% humidity.
Dd alternates between sleeping and screaming her head off. Yay 3rd leap?
So I'm thinking tomorrow will be easier than I thought. It feels oddly..... normal to be kid free and I'm not as sad about being away from L as I thought I'd be.
I fell back into the work routine much more easily this time around. I also felt much more *myself* when I went back to work - so there's definitely something to be said for returning to your "norm". I did have a little twinge of guilt that I didn't miss B as much as I thought I would...
Target is glorious at 8am. No one was there and it was blissfully silent. I was looking for his birthday present, the Little Tike's t-ball set, but they didn't have it. So I treated myself to a fancy coffee while ds and I wandered the store. I left with only paper towels for which the cashier made fun of me. We then braved the shopping plaza from hell to find his gift at Walmart.
Ds helped me plant tomatoes and basil. Now I'm dying because it's 76% humidity.
Dd alternates between sleeping and screaming her head off. Yay 3rd leap?
I LOVE target at 8am. Or any store at 8am really. I usually go grocery shopping or run a quick errand after daycare drop off on the days I work from home. It's SO peaceful.
Post by silvermelody on Apr 20, 2017 10:55:48 GMT -5
DS slept great in his big boy bed, so that's a big relief!
Today is DH's birthday but he's minimalist for birthdays so I'll pick up burritos for dinner and we'll have some...adult time...during nap time. And that's about it. He declined any dessert.
lakegirl, i like that quote! and 8am target is what I dream of.
OK, H is a mess at bedtime, what are your "sleep routines"? and what time are you starting it?
We were putting him down around 9, but we heard someone mommy bragging and we felt bad, so started trying for 8pm, we read eat, read books, cuddle, swaddle and into the rock and play with the music on. fast forward to Sunday and he screams like we are torturing him. So we have tried all different things, last night was no swaddle, music but no rocking and an ounce of milk while in the rock and play. he got up twice and I swaddled him so I could sleep. I think since we're all sleeping like crap we move him to the crib, just not sure how long to let him cry? at all? thoughts? ellabee, I didn't catch how you started, was it similar?
silvermelody, adult time? FFTC, I am still terrified to try...it doesn't help that baby stress causes us to bicker all the time
LovesMeSomeCake - we always aimed for 7 as Bs bedtime because that's when our DD goes to bed too. So the house is dark and quiet (with dohm white noise machine on) by 7ish. We never used the rnp for B, just swaddled flat in bassinet or in bed with us.
Our bedtime routine is: bath, lotion, pjs, white noise on, nurse/swaddle, down in crib/bassinet. We haven't tackled not nursing to sleep yet (biting my nails on this one because B does *not* respond well to rocking/jiggling the way DD did ).
Not sure if that helps at all. Sorry bedtime is giving you so much trouble!
ETA: I started the crib transition because B is getting too big for his bassinet.
Post by judyblume14 on Apr 20, 2017 15:04:18 GMT -5
ellabee, I don't know if this is a FFTC, but with my big girl, we nursed to sleep until she was like 15 months old (maybe older?). Then when she'd ask, I'd offer water instead. Sometimes she'd take water, sometimes she'd nurse. Eventually, she stopped asking.
It just never really fazed me. If DH and I had a date night or whatever, she'd just have a bottle (before she was 1), or... whoever was watching her would just cuddle with a book, then put her down.
Post by judyblume14 on Apr 20, 2017 15:07:03 GMT -5
Also - hi. I had a doc appt today to have my IUD checked. Appt was at 9, and I was called back almost an hour late. So annoying.
Today is my WFH day. I've eaten two lunches, a Hersey bar, most of a bag of trail mix, several Milano cookies and 3 of my kid's Easter candies. It's no wonder I've gained 5 pounds since my last appt, 6 weeks ago.
Post by peaseblossom55 on Apr 20, 2017 15:19:56 GMT -5
We had E's developmental appointment at the hospital today. It went well they gave us some tips for helping her do tummy time. H & I have taken naps while E has and are just relaxing. I wish it were Friday though and I didn't have work tomorrow.
LovesMeSomeCake - we always aimed for 7 as Bs bedtime because that's when our DD goes to bed too. So the house is dark and quiet (with dohm white noise machine on) by 7ish. We never used the rnp for B, just swaddled flat in bassinet or in bed with us.
Our bedtime routine is: bath, lotion, pjs, white noise on, nurse/swaddle, down in crib/bassinet.
For crying it depends. They're still too young to officially sleep train, I think doctors normally say 6+ months. But I can tell when dd isn't really awake and give her a minute or two to settle before I go in.
Nursing/bottle to sleep: I'm not sure when I stopped but I did it gradually once I decided. So for 10 minutes, then 5, etc.
ETA: we just made the transition to crib in nursery from pnp in our room a couple weeks ago. I kept everything the same (swaddling, etc) while making the switch. I'm definitely sleeping better because I can't hear all her little sleep noises.
Post by LovesMeSomeCake on Apr 20, 2017 15:37:14 GMT -5
judyblume14, I eat a hershey bar daily. my finance brain made me buy the case at costco, after adding up the damage from buying them one at a time in the cafeteria. Its for all those additional nursing calories right? ..sobs..
Post by ambiguousmango on Apr 20, 2017 15:46:07 GMT -5
LovesMeSomeCake yes! I actually just looked at it this morning she is so cute!!
Night routine is all messed up, he normally goes down around 8 ish but can be as early as 7:30 and as late as 9. Really it is flexible because I am waking him at 5am to feed since that is when I get up for work. If he went to bed early he just stays up for a bit and if it was late he goes back to sleep till about 7. I leave the house at 6:30 and my H watches him during the day so I know our routine is strange.
Sometimes I continue to "nurse" DD well after she's fallen asleep so that my H has the opportunity to catch up on washing bottles.
This is genius! Why did this not occur to me sooner?
Sometimes I feel a little guilty about it. We have an unspoken agreement that no one gets to sit on the couch/go to bed until all necessary chore are done (which is really only bottles/dishes/lunches... sometimes folding laundry). So I'm sitting in a rocker, snuggling my bebe, playing on my phone. But when I wake up at 3am to calm the baby, or hook my boobs up to the pump? I remember that I earned that chill-out time, and feel less guilty about H washing the flanges ;-)
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