Appropriate way to handle

[pipsqueak]

Pip started attending ECSE prek at a public school last school year for the 4th quarter.  He's in the same class this school year.  One of the paras from last school year retired and was replaced with a new para.  Pip has worn cloth diapers since he started, with a couple exceptions.  Last 4th qtr, there were zero issues with his diapers beyond the initial learning curve (i.e. confusion over wet/dry with the stay dry lining of a pocket).  Summer school, with the same teacher but different paras had minor mistakes (i.e. putting the fitted on inside out), first 3 quarters of this school year had only a few minor mistakes as well.  4th quarter though has had sloppily put on diapers, handfuls of dirty disposable wipes sent home in the soiled diapers, and most recently a diaper that was not changed at all the entire time he was at school. I put it on at about 730 and removed it at about 1230.

I contacted the teacher and requested they dispose of them wipes in the trash.  Teacher responded back that the paras said they have been throwing them away.

I contacted the teacher about the lack of diaper change Tuesday and the teacher responded that the para checked him at 9 and 11.  Unlikely given I had wrapped the prefold around Pip and when I opened the cover the prefold was wrapped as tight as it usually is when I put it on, Pip doesn't hold urine yet, and it was wetter than any daytime diaper I have changed.  No answer was given to my question of how was he checked.

What is the appropriate way to address a situation where the teacher/school has to decide if the para is lying or if the parent is lying.

[brachysira]

If one day it wasn't changed, I would roll with it. A lot of schools won't do cloth diapers at all, and I don't think you can criticize how sloppily a diaper is put on a squirmy child. It's yucky when you have to check for wipes in diapers, but I personally have accidentally tossed wipes into the diapers at home. When people are caring for your child, you have pick your battles, and none of these sound like ones I would bother with.

[pipsqueak]

brachysira, if you're okay with your child being taught that sitting in urine is acceptable that's your choice, however, you missed my question.

[jmski]

I don't think it's important to find out who is lying but for you to tell the school that your son was unacceptably wet and that you are upset because you want to avoid leaks, smells, and rashes. Then hope for the best. Maybe they were outside a lot, doing special activities, or had a substitute. They know you are upset and should do better for your son.

[pipsqueak]

I got my answer from SIL - retired elem school principal....wait and see if issue resolved, if happens again take copies of emails and make an appointment with ds's school principal.

[mrsbuttinski]

Apr 20, 2017 20:35:06 GMT -5 pipsqueak said:

I got my answer from SIL - retired elem school principal....wait and see if issue resolved, if happens again take copies of emails and make an appointment with ds's school principal.

I'm glad you found someone to help. Is toilet training part of Pip's IEP at this point? 

What was the answer? We may have a lurker who could use that information. 

[akafred]

When DD was little the policy was a diaper could not stay on a child more than 4 hours even if it stayed clean and dry. They checked every hour and at the fourth check they changed no matter what.

[pipsqueak]

Pip is not potty training yet, so nothing in IEP for this.

SIL advised giving the teacher chance to resolve the issue and if she does not or cannot bring copies of emails as documentation of attempt at resolution to the school principal.

Without further contact with the teacher on this topic, I did get a follow up email from the teacher this morning stating that she has taken over Pip's diaper checks and verified that the way she has done his diapers is correct - and they were. I feel a bit more like his teacher is trying to resolve any issues on her end compared to a day or two ago.

[macchiatto]

Sounds promising!