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[becole]

Yeah so 50 minute tantrum tonight because he was screaming loudly over being forced out of the bath (even after given a 5 minute warning and allowing him to undo the drain). We were afraid he would wake the baby and he wouldn't stop yelling so we took him upstairs to his room to get him dressed. He wouldn't put on his pjs and was literally foaming at the mouth screaming and crying. We finally got him calm but it was both of us and so much time. I hate seeing him like that. I talk about his emotions and my emotions and try to get him to count/ breathe/ calm down/ recognize why he's angry/ sad- he's just out of his mind. And now I have 20 minutes to decompress before going to sleep. Ug. The rest of the night was so good too.

[sanibel21]

Ugggggh I'm sorry becole. I do not get it...

[becole]

Apr 21, 2017 20:07:27 GMT -5 @kitchen said:

Apr 21, 2017 12:29:21 GMT -5 sanibel21 said:

What's your sleep training method/plan of attack?

Feed baby, change baby, put baby in crib. Open beer. Feed baby at 4am, put baby in crib. Get baby up at 7ish.

Really the baby could decide to just sleep during that crib time. Why cry baby when you could just sleep?

[fem]

becole DD1 is a little older but when she gets like that I just figured out it's best to put her in her room with the door closed and tell her she can come out when she's calm. I used to feel guilty leaving her alone when she so upset but lately (knock on wood) she actually calms down when she's by herself.

[becole]

Apr 21, 2017 20:32:00 GMT -5 fem said:

becole DD1 is a little older but when she gets like that I just figured out it's best to put her in her room with the door closed and tell her she can come out when she's calm. I used to feel guilty leaving her alone when she so upset but lately (knock on wood) she actually calms down when she's by herself.

H wanted to leave him alone but I know his feelings are big and he doesn't seem to have the tools/ ability to cope. I'm sure if I left him, he would have to figure it out. Idk. It's like- should I help you/ teach you how to cope with emotions or leave you to do the work on your own? Its really hard to leave him when he's like that.

[fem]

Apr 21, 2017 20:36:44 GMT -5 becole said:

Apr 21, 2017 20:32:00 GMT -5 fem said:

becole DD1 is a little older but when she gets like that I just figured out it's best to put her in her room with the door closed and tell her she can come out when she's calm. I used to feel guilty leaving her alone when she so upset but lately (knock on wood) she actually calms down when she's by herself.

H wanted to leave him alone but I know his feelings are big and he doesn't seem to have the tools/ ability to cope. I'm sure if I left him, he would have to figure it out. Idk. It's like- should I help you/ teach you how to cope with emotions or leave you to do the work on your own? Its really hard to leave him when he's like that.

I know I felt bad at first too. The first day I did it was when I thought I was going to lose my shit and needed to walk away myself. I was surprised it worked after a few minutes so tried again. I do process it with her after she's calm. And again she's almost 3.5 so maybe he's not quite there developmentally.

Also I think a key thing is I don't yell at her or tell her it's a time out, just calmly say she can go in there to calm herself down and come out when she feels better.

[penguin129]

Hugs becole,

[vavavictoria]

fem and becole my niece did that kind of stuff when she was the same age (2.5 approaching 3). SIL had to do the same thing. Let her sit in her room and flip out for a while and it let her calm down faster than if anyone was with her. Now she is 4 and is an awesome well behaved kid. Sassy but nothing compares to the insanity of the 2 year old (as far as I know so far of course)

My kid has started screaming NO at me like a complete psycho when I don't let her do something that she wants. Or in timeout she will stand their and just scream bloody murder. And alternate it with yelling mamma. The good times are great at this age and the bad times suck really really bad.

[jcrewgirl]

becole , ugh. sucks so hard. I hate those tantrums. DD literally throws herself on the ground and when she does that in the bathroom, I get so worried that she'll knock her head on the sink or the toilet or the bathtub. Those are the worst tantrums. I hope the rest of the weekend went smoothly.

[becole]

Apr 24, 2017 7:29:17 GMT -5 jcrewgirl said:

becole , ugh. sucks so hard. I hate those tantrums. DD literally throws herself on the ground and when she does that in the bathroom, I get so worried that she'll knock her head on the sink or the toilet or the bathtub. Those are the worst tantrums. I hope the rest of the weekend went smoothly.

He actually had a great weekend! Listened the whole time. Idk what happened. He was so good and compliant.

[jcrewgirl]

Apr 24, 2017 7:34:53 GMT -5 becole said:

Apr 24, 2017 7:29:17 GMT -5 jcrewgirl said:

becole , ugh. sucks so hard. I hate those tantrums. DD literally throws herself on the ground and when she does that in the bathroom, I get so worried that she'll knock her head on the sink or the toilet or the bathtub. Those are the worst tantrums. I hope the rest of the weekend went smoothly.

He actually had a great weekend! Listened the whole time. Idk what happened. He was so good and compliant.

He's just winding you up for the next event. I swear to god that parenting a toddler is like the domestic violence wheel. Not to minimize abusive relationships (I do this for a living), but seriously, I don't know how many times I see the parallel of "walking on eggshells" and the "honeymoon period" while parenting. 

[becole]

We were in the honeymoon phase this weekend! We shall see if he starts it up again. Maybe the big tantrum was enough to shake him up.