TTC A Rainbow Sibling 2/18/15

[madameovary]

Not for (most of) us!



This is for those thinking about/getting ready to or actively TTC a rainbow sibling. The check-in will be posted each Wednesday.
 If you've already answered the questions below, just share what's new or what is on your mind!




For those thinking about/getting ready to TTC (or even thinking about thinking about TTC):



When do you plan to start trying?



Are there things you need/want to do before you start trying?



How are you feeling about starting to TTC again?



Any questions or other things to share?






For those actively TTC:



CD/DPO?



Testing Plans?



How are you doing with TTC again?



Any questions or other things to share?




QOTW: What are the considerations when trying to space siblings?  Astrological signs?  Age gap?  Paid time off?  Tell us all about it.

unringthebell Are those betas down to 0???
bootsorhearts  Is everything on track for your FET?
@mattsgirl2004  Expecting AF today?  Sorry
chknma  Any sign of AF?
docamy- How is that to do list?
muirmaid- Did you ovulate?
wifey How was SHG?  Ready for OB visit?
DoesItComeInPink?  What's shakin'?



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[bootsorhearts]

Hello!

Everything is on track for the FET so far. I go in for bloodwork Friday to check estrogen levels. And I have to order more patches. They have me with as many as 4 of these dumb things on at a time. Still, it's better than the oral estrogen, that shit made me a crazy bitch.

QOTW: This is an interesting one! My brother and I are 5 years apart in age and I always wished we were closer so we are trying to minimize the age gap between Baby Boots and a sibling. And also I'm old, yo. So we don't have a lot of time even if we wanted to space them out more.

[chknma]

No AF here. Although I'm eager for it to come, DH and I have a big overnight date planned for next weekend so I'm hoping it will hold off a little longer at this point. I'm tracking CM/CP and hoping that we'll magically catch my first ovulation but trying relax and know that there really isn't much I can do at this point.


QOTW: What are the considerations when trying to space siblings?  Astrological signs?  Age gap?  Paid time off?  Tell us all about it.

We wanted to have our children about 2 years apart. I started a new job after DD1 so we put it off a few months and then with our losses DD2 came just shy of 3 years apart. We're hoping for closer in age for #3

[docamy]

Hey! Slowly chipping away at my to do list!! Today I had my pap smear done and got the ok to start trying or NTNP whenever we want! My Dr was pleased with how well everything has healed. I also got all my paperwork turned in for the disability insurance so that is out of my hands now. I'm almost finished with getting our tax stuff together. So that leaves me going to the dentist and doing the dental on my girls (both dogs)!! We also are going to finish the dieting competition thing we started for our state before starting to NTNP and that ends at the end of April. So we now have a definite date set! I'm not feeling as overwhelmed lately!! Also I'm down 9 lbs! YAY!!

QOTW: It's more of the age of me and DH for us. He is 35 and I'm 33 and we just don't want to wait any longer if we can help it. If we were younger I would have liked 5 years between children.

[mrsbutton]

Hi! new to the check-in...
CD/DPO? pretty sure I'm 12DPO(CD27) (only tracking via CP & CM - and it's kind of questionable)
especially because a 11-12LP is pretty much my usual, and here I am - got BFN on a Wondfo this morning, but no sign of AF in sight...

Testing Plans? (see above for this morning's BFN) I have a Wednesday hot yoga class that I'm debating on for tonight, despite the BFN... I may test every other morning or so if AF doesn't show soon... and by soon I mean in the next few hours...

How are you doing with TTC again? It's definitely different than the first time TTCAL - that felt desperate, because we had no child(ren) yet... having Button definitely helps the time pass, keeps me occupied (mentally too) and makes the BFN's a little easier to bear...

Any questions or other things to share? whispers anyone ever get false NEGATIVES on Wondfos? lol

QOTW: What are the considerations when trying to space siblings? Astrological signs? Age gap? Paid time off? Tell us all about it.
I mostly wanted them around 2-2.5y apart (so far, on track...) I want to try to avoid another July/aug birthday (Button is 7/17, DH is 7/28, I am 8/7) and I also want to try to avoid a close-to-Xmas birthday (of course, I'll be happy with a BFP whenever it comes! we're of course talking in an ideal world)
Also - last time, my job called me NINE DAYS postpartum. I will most definitely be taking my entire allowed maternity leave next time!!!

[wifey]

Hi ladies!

SHG was Monday, and I got the all clear. For those not familiar with IF related procedures, it is an ultrasound where they put saline in your uterus to check for polyps, scar tissue, or anything that may interfere with the transferred embryos. So glad I won't require a hysteroscopy.

Currently on CD12, and need to call the RE next CD1 for a baseline sono, then I'll begin the shots and Meds. We are very torn about how many to transfer. Embryos are 39, I'm 41, and the only thing weighing on my mind is the safety of possible twins with my crappy history. Their safety, not mine. Transferring one gives me very low odds. I wil have a cerclage regardless, but DH and I are really struggling with this decision. I transferred two last time with my RE & MFM's blessing, and had Tate. So, I'm 3 for 4. I just don't know.

QOTW: My 42nd bday is in August, so I don't have the luxury of time. That is the only reason we are trying again with a 14 month old. My older sister was adopted two years before I showed up because my mom tried for 6+ years. After me, she had my little sis 4 years later. I have always been much closer with my younger sis because we are a lot alike with a similar humor. Even though my older sister and I were closer in age, we were just like night and day, and she used to beat the snot out of me ( until I grew taller than her). As adults, were are all good, just very different personalities and beliefs.

DH is the youngest of 6, with his oldest sister 16 years older, and they are all extremely close. I don't think age gap makes as much difference than how they are raised as siblings ( ie, don't let the older ones torment), and how connected they are. I will be steadfast with a no hitting rule in my house!

[madameovary]

bootsorhearts, patches? Just pretend you are a girl scout. Mmmm cookies. Keep us posted about the blood draw!

chknma, a weekend away sounds nice. AF better hold off until after! When you get back, try wearing white pants and not taking pads/tampons to work with you. That's a combination sure to lure her out.

docamy, excellent progress! Now go to the dentist.

unringthebell, I would think a normal period after your betas dropped to 0. At least that's what they told me (but I'm special snowflake and it took 18 weeks for my betas to go down).

mrsbutton, Welcome! Sorry for the BFN. Maybe you are off on your dates? I hope to kick you out of here soon (in the nicest way possible)

DoesItComeInPink, gurrrrrrrrrl my hands got clammy just thinking about starting in 2 weeks. That's so soon! Hooray!
wifey, glad the ute is lookin' good and ready for action. I hope when the time comes to make a decision about the number of embryos, you'll have a clear answer.

[madameovary]

For those thinking about/getting ready to TTC (or even thinking about thinking about TTC)

Any questions or other things to share?
Appointment with the urogynecologist on Tuesday. Wish me luck!

QOTW: What are the considerations when trying to space siblings? Astrological signs? Age gap? Paid time off? Tell us all about it.

I read in my Mayo book that 18-24 months is an "ideal" gap in terms of health outcomes. At one point we wanted 3, but I'm not sure we'll have time. I'm considering delaying my return to the workforce until the kids are in school, so in that regard it would be better to space them closer together. There is a significant gap between the kids in my family, but it worked out fine. I do know a couple who planned conception around astrological signs and they got exactly what they wanted each time. Jerks.

[docamy]

Feb 18, 2015 17:37:58 GMT -5 madameovary said:

bootsorhearts, patches? Just pretend you are a girl scout. Mmmm cookies. Keep us posted about the blood draw!

chknma, a weekend away sounds nice. AF better hold off until after! When you get back, try wearing white pants and not taking pads/tampons to work with you. That's a combination sure to lure her out.

docamy, excellent progress! Now go to the dentist.

unringthebell, I would think a normal period after your betas dropped to 0. At least that's what they told me (but I'm special snowflake and it took 18 weeks for my betas to go down).

mrsbutton, Welcome! Sorry for the BFN. Maybe you are off on your dates? I hope to kick you out of here soon (in the nicest way possible)

DoesItComeInPink, gurrrrrrrrrl my hands got clammy just thinking about starting in 2 weeks. That's so soon! Hooray!
wifey, glad the ute is lookin' good and ready for action. I hope when the time comes to make a decision about the number of embryos, you'll have a clear answer.

I also dropped off my taxes to the accountant this morning!! Yes ma'am I will definitely do that! Just got to work it out where DH is off work so he can watch big man!

[docamy]

Feb 18, 2015 17:41:06 GMT -5 madameovary said:

For those thinking about/getting ready to TTC (or even thinking about thinking about TTC)

Any questions or other things to share?
Appointment with the urogynecologist on Tuesday. Wish me luck!

QOTW: What are the considerations when trying to space siblings? Astrological signs? Age gap? Paid time off? Tell us all about it.

I read in my Mayo book that 18-24 months is an "ideal" gap in terms of health outcomes. At one point we wanted 3, but I'm not sure we'll have time. I'm considering delaying my return to the workforce until the kids are in school, so in that regard it would be better to space them closer together. There is a significant gap between the kids in my family, but it worked out fine. I do know a couple who planned conception around astrological signs and they got exactly what they wanted each time. Jerks.

Good luck! I was thinking about you yesterday after I got finished at my gyno apt. I know it's not the same as what you have going on but my dr said that a lot of the time after your finished BF that bladder control improves because your estrogen levels go back up. I know with fur babies if we have a female that's leaking we put them on an estrogen supplement.  Anyway just wanted you to know I'm thinking about you and will continue to do so with your apt Tuesday!! 

[madameovary]

Correction! According to the Mayo Clinic Guide to Your Baby's First Year "A spacing of two to five years is what most experts recomend. Your first child is a little more independent, and you and your partner have had some time to regain strength and energy (pg 477)."