Post by dancingsphinx22 on Apr 27, 2017 11:50:36 GMT -5
I have done nothing healthy for myself lately as far as diet and exercise (I had a red velvet cupcake at 5am, so...), but I have been working on my mental health.
I get so irritable so quickly. I've started trying to calm myself down when I feel the irritability starting to hit.
When something get bothers me, I try to tell myself "it's not worth it to get mad, it's no big deal" etc. Surprisingly, it helps me feel better.
My favorite that actually really helps is "Will this matter in a year?"
This helps a lot when DH is getting on my nerves. It helps me to get a handle on my control freak, my-way-is-the-best-way-no-one-can-do-it-better tendencies.
Post by critter015 on Apr 27, 2017 23:35:34 GMT -5
Probably anything relationship related needs a TW...
DH is oot for work this week and guys, we're really struggling. It isn't that anybody has done anything wrong, it is just that life is hard, and it really pulls you apart sometimes. I couldn't sleep last night because I really felt like I needed to talk to him, so this afternoon we drove up to spend the night with him. We had a good talk, lots of tears, now we just need to figure out what we can do to bring the love back into our marriage. We're both terrified.
Post by linewifekat on Apr 28, 2017 21:39:20 GMT -5
critter015 my husband and I have been going through the same thing. Our church just started a session on staying in love and it's prompted a lot of late night talks this week. They have them online if you'd like me to pm you the link.
linewifekat I'd love the link if it isn't too much trouble. Our church recently had a similar thing and I wish we had been able to go. We are going to see a counselor too but I'm not sure how to go about finding a good one besides just googling.
Post by critter015 on Apr 30, 2017 14:16:21 GMT -5
I decided to take the love languages quiz again so I could share it with DH. I was amazed that some of my results were different from the last time I took the quiz, when we all did it. It was like last time I didn't have any hope that he could speak any of the languages in the right way for me. It was like "physical touch? No, I'm sick of being groped and grabbed." But now I realize how much I long for loving touch. I didn't share it with him before, I really feel like he would have said it was stupid and blew me off. I realized after talking to him the last few days that I've held back so much because I've been afraid that he wouldn't respond the way I hoped he would. Now I realize that I have everything to gain by telling him my desires, and everything to lose if I don't.
Guys, I sent him a text this morning explaining the love languages and what mine were and asked him to take the quiz too, and I cried when he texted back his own results. linewifekat Last night I listened to the message your pastor preached, and it was the perfect answer to one of my husband's questions regarding one of his love languages. I'm excited to hear his thoughts about it once he's had a chance to listen. I'm so thankful for you guys and all of your support.
Post by linewifekat on Apr 30, 2017 14:24:26 GMT -5
critter015 I'm so glad to hear that! He's doing the next installment in the series next week. I'm excited. Can you post a link to the quiz? I'd like me and my husband to do it too.
We went in a date (and then lowes, aldi, bjs and a beer distributor) yesterday. We have also not been in a great place and I think we need to retake the Love languages quiz. At least he let me take a photo.
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