AW: NPAIFR Am I being a bitch?

[ginnyjones82]

So DH and I had a little argument. And I need to know, honestly, if I'm being a bitch or if I'm right to be annoyed.

The in-laws are out of town. They get back in around 10-11 tonight, later if there are flight delays. DH has been working all day and has to work his second job tonight. So he will be tired. We also need to be up early in the morning.

We have their dog. They miss the dog and just can't wait until the morning to pick him up. Between him and our 2 dogs, they all bark like crazy whenever anyone comes into the house. So, odds are, we will both be up in the middle of the night. DH does not see an issue with this. I think it's inconsiderate.... So there began the fight and some hormonal tears on my end. Am I wrong?

[Deleted]

I'd be annoyed too. Mostly because the dogs get riled up, and then what are the odds of it being a quick pick up? Like, walk in the door, grab the dog and leave? Would they be the type to want to hang around and chat?

I'm saying this from someone who's DH has to work live shows once in a while. So when he rolls in the house at 2 or 3 am, the dogs go ballistic, and it scares the crap out of me.

[IFinTN]

I'm team "wait until tomorrow" to get the dog. I think they are being inconsiderate and your DH should tell them no.

[ginnyjones82]

I'm glad i'm not alone in my thinking here!! They know he's working all day, and that I'm pregnant. I told DH it was totally inconsiderate of them. Especially if they don't get in til 2 am or something.

DH's response is that he will run the dog over to their house when he gets home tonight. Late. After working for like 16hrs today.

[IFinTN]

Feb 18, 2015 16:48:56 GMT -5 ginnyjones82 said:

I'm glad i'm not alone in my thinking here!! They know he's working all day, and that I'm pregnant. I told DH it was totally inconsiderate of them. Especially if they don't get in til 2 am or something.

DH's response is that he will run the dog over to their house when he gets home tonight. Late. After working for like 16hrs today.

Well as long as it's his inconvenience then I guess it's his choice to suffer it. Seems silly though...

[sugar4bri]

Yeah I would be annoyed. If your DH wants to run the dog over once he's out of work, well, that's on him.

Edit: At least, that is what I would say to my DH.

[Deleted]

Oh for the love...get the dogs tomorrow morning. For God sake.

[ginnyjones82]

Feb 18, 2015 18:50:24 GMT -5 @ducky719 said:

Oh for the love...get the dogs tomorrow morning. For God sake.

Thats what we do when they have our dogs.  If we are getting home late, we get them the next day. 

[ProfessorChaos]

Sheesh. No matter how badly I missed the dog, I wouldn't even ask to barge into someone's house after 11. Ridiculous.

[shortstuff]

I totally understand where you are coming from... but I'm going to play devil's advocate for a moment because I also understand where the in laws are coming from. Anytime I went away and left my dog with my friend, I couldn't wait to get home to my dog. The whole trip home I'd be so excited to see him. Getting home and having to wait till the next morning would make me crazy. Now, being the dog sitter and having to get up in the middle of the night, not so fun either.
Just my two cents.

But the again, my dog passed away 1 week ago and I'm filled with over emotional hormones.

[katemonster]

It's annoying, but if it was a one time incident, I'd let it slide. Dog-sitting and traveling are inconvenient, and I'd expect that. We have had to pick my parents up from the airport at 1am. I wouldn't do it every day, but once or twice a year is part of family obligation.

[ginnyjones82]

shortstuff, I'm so sorry for the loss of your dog!


Sometimes I'm not sure if I'm justified in an argument. I appriciate everyone's input!!

[vballbaby]

I think they should wait but if I were you I would just go to bed and let DH deal with it especially if it'll be in the middle of the night. However I am so not a morning person so for me coming at midnight would be better than showing up at 8:30 am

[ginnyjones82]

Feb 18, 2015 19:18:33 GMT -5 vballbaby said:

I think they should wait but if I were you I would just go to bed and let DH deal with it especially if it'll be in the middle of the night. However I am so not a morning person so for me coming at midnight would be better than showing up at 8:30 am

Oh I plan on going to bed.  I just dread waking up in the middle of the night when all the dogs start barking!

[kmc84]

I'm late to the party, but that is rude. You did them a huge favor by dog sitting, they could respect your need for rest, and do you a favor, and just get the dog the morning.

[amshark]

I suppose it's up to your DH if he wants to drive them over, but frankly, it would probably still ruin my sleep, because I'd be worried about him driving across town with the dog late at night, after having worked a long shift.

I just don't see why they can't wait until morning. It would probably be better for the dog to not have his regular schedule interrupted with a middle of the night pick up anyway.

[IFinTN]

So we gotta know...what happened??

[ginnyjones82]

So, all my worry was for nothing... DH got home from work late, his parents were on time. They all pulled in the driveway together. No wakeup due to dogs barking at 2am. Just 11pm when everyone got there! I'm still soooo tired tho!!

[hbanana18]

There is nothing I want to do more when I get home then to see my puppies. That said, when we went on our honeymoon and knew our flight didn't get in until 11, we planned on my mom keeping the pups until the next day. My puppies like to sleep at night just like us and we knew it would be easier on everyone to pick them up the next day and not totally mess with anyone's schedule. I would be just as frustrated as you are - you did them a favor, watching their dog - I think they are being a bit selfish and unreasonable.

[lebradford]

There's no reason they need the dog in the middle of the night. It is just disruptive for everyone. They can get the dog in the morning. I don't think you're being irrational at all. I would feel the same way even if I wasn't pregnant.