Weekend "away"!! Thai food tonight, played games, drinks, and now watching The Account. Tomorrow: chilling in hotel and dinner at Gibson's (a steak house).
Correction: The Accountant (might have been a little drunk hehe)
Work has been ridiculous lately but I'm glad to have 6 days off! One of the only reasons I prefer my 12 hour shifts. Today we are going to hang out with my cousins kids so she can go to a concert tonight with her husband. They have a giant sandbox at their house and DD is so excited. Im hoping the weather holds up so we can play outside. DNW to be stuck in the house with twin 6 year old boys and DD all afternoon. I guess this will be a good test to see if i want anymore kids lol.
Swim lessons this morning and maybe swimming this afternoon. Then pizza di net out since H won his last two night races when we did that. Swimming and children's museum tomorrow.
Yesterday we stayed in our hotel and vegged the whole day before going to Gibson's for dinner. It was amazing not having to tend to the girls' every need for one day. The meal was one of the most expensive we've ever had and it was just okay food to me. I was a bit disappointed in that. We had a good talk about money spending though when we got back to the hotel. I opened up to him about my guilty feelings recently. And my frustration with what/how he spends money (on) but that I can't say bc he makes it. And it helped us both feel better. Btw, we are gratefully doing well with finances so it's more of how can we save better for future things like college/retirement. And I also realized that being a sahm is affecting things personally in me that I didn't think it would but I'll work through it. Sorry this Sunday post got heavy!
aggiebug I forgot to say, regarding your response to having so many tasks to do that it almost paralyzes you and you get nothing done. That is usually me too so this time I just geared up in my mind that it needed to be done. I dedicated the day to it before hand and then I was like "let's get this done" since I had been planning it out and mentally preparing. The priority list you mentioned is good too if you are limited to one or two tasks. Also the girls being older now is easier to get housework done. They are more self sufficient.
Post by seamonster on Jun 25, 2017 11:06:17 GMT -5
Both H and I had trouble sleeping last night. And DS was up a couple times. H let me nap on the couch after breakfast. I thought it was like 15 minutes, but it was more like 90. Swimming in our pool this morning and then the children's museum after nap.
A cat or something got a lot of our birds last night. None of them are out this morning. I hope it's not all of them or that they are avoiding our yard. I like our quail and hummingbirds. Even the pigeons who poop around the pool.
dreemkin I hear myself in your conversation with your H about finances. We have both agreed that his job is to make money mine is more to save it. However this doesn't mean he gets to spend more on luxuries than I do. It's still so so hard mentally, I have never been a big spender on myself but now it's worse. I think it's a continual work in progress and mostly it's not a bad thing. Lots of hugs and hair pats, money is such a bummer sometimes.
And thanks for the cheerleading about getting stuff done. We had some chats about that this weekend. H has been very lazy around the house (his words) and we discussed how little things make a huge difference. He even took initiative and suggested dropping off donations before and after church today. It seems small but taking that off my mental load is huge, it's not just the doing but the thinking about it. Hopefully we will have clarity soon on some big changes and I will know which list needs to be checked off, right now I am working on two different ones (if that even makes sense) and it will dependant on a few most outcomes.
Post by lilyelayne on Jun 25, 2017 15:35:50 GMT -5
dreemkin glad you and your H had such a good yesterday. Just when I think I've adjusted mentally to the financial aspects of SAH, something will throw me for a loop again.
aggiebug I hear you on the paralysis. Glad your H stepped up! Sometimes the feeling that I'm the only one responsible for this massive long lived list of tasks is suffocating, and getting to delegate even 5% is enough to get my wheels going again, so to speak.
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