H gets home tonight (but after I go to bed). I'm taking tomorrow off to spend with him. I need to wean DS off the tablet in the morning now that I don't need it to allow me to get a morning shower. His behavior in the morning has been nightmarish because of it.
We set the funeral date for MLK weekend. Still don't know what we'll do with everything. I'm calling charities to see if they want the junk cars to auction off. And seeing if the state museum wants the land donation. Someone on HIH suggested contacting Habitat for Humanity about the house as a donation, but it's so bad rhat I don't think they'd want it. So we'll probably notify the city and county that it's abandoned so they can start their process rather than it sitting waiting for the unpaid taxes to hit the limit for them to take the house.
OB called in a third med, which will apparently put me right to sleep, which solves the problem of being sick every 20 minutes in the evening but won’t let me do bedtime with G
seamonster screen time is such a blessing and a curse. Hope you get all the estate stuff figured out.
lilyelayne I hope you feel better. Don't worry, you'll get to do all the bedtimes in a few months. đŸ˜‰
We decided to do the funeral mid-January. Is that weird? H is coming home early, but his original trip meant this weekend was out because no to driving 6 hours by myself with a toddler. Next weekend my sister has a trip she's been planning for months and she's cancelled 3 other vacations for funerals (she inherited 3 kids and a dog this year, girl needs a vacation). And then it's Christmas. And then it's my weekend in the oncall rotation and my team is already hurting after my co-worker passed. And then it's my birthday and no to having your dad's funeral the day after your birthday. Plus the girls will already be back in school So doing it the MLK holiday weekend makes the most sense. My cousin made it seem like we were weird when he asked the day of the funeral.
seamonster I don't think it's weird, sometimes making it work for more family members means putting it off. It's more of a memorial at that point, since I assume any internment (if that's the case anyway) would take place more immediately? But what works for the immediate family is what's important, regardless of the date.
My grandmother's service was three months after her passing because my grandpa couldn't deal with it any sooner. Do what you need to do.
seamonster +1 for if it works for your family, that’s all that matters. That’s the point of a service anyway, really, to honor your dad and hopefully bring some amount of peace and closure to his family.
I hear of a lot of memorials after the fact seamonster. If it works out best for more people then that's fine. Good luck with the immediate plans. I'm sorry you are going through all that. It's tough around the holidays too. My grandmother passed away around this time and it was rough.
Thanks kartish. We had him cremated and my mom is holding on to the ashes until we do the service. We'll make a trip up to his hometown afterward to inter him in the same cemetery as my grandparents and his brother.
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