Brain and heart vs. donor eggs

[anfisal]

Hi all! My best wishes to you friends in advance. I’d be very grateful if my complaint found a little resonance. I understand how many important topics draw more attention in order to be discussed.

However, this one is my huge concern last a few years. I’m worrying and afraid of childless life. And I can’t accept using donor eggs.

I carry nothing but my small desire to become mom. I cherish it and want to have biological link to the baby of mine. Do I ask too much?

Unfortunately, after 4 stimulations I obviously produced too poor quality eggs. My embryos hardly survived the third day after retrieval and fertilization.

I swear I’m trying to be cleverer but can’t imagine what must switch on inside in order to change my heart. How you overcame such matters? I hope you avoided this collision and you are doing fine!

Thank you! Have a nice day! Xxx

[ezabel]

Hey! Hugs to you dear! Stay strong and positive,

I don't understand If you got a desire of having a baby than I believe the baby must be more important than the fact that how it came.

What was the procedure? I mean all these questions have much little preference than the baby.

But I respect your opinion. So If you really want to have a biological link with the baby, then why don't you look for the surrogacy procedure. As of, in that case, you would have a biological link with your baby.

I just don't know what your opinion is as far as surrogacy is concerned. But trust me that's worthy procedure.

And if you would have a good fertility clinic and all the things would be at right path than soon you would be able to carry your baby.

[melissa]

Hello. Dear I feel so sad after reading your post. But you don't lose hope. You can be a mom of a baby who is biologically linked with you. You can avail the services of surrogacy. There are many good clinics who provide this facility in affordable rates. Dear I myself is an infertile lady. And after so many TTC, now finally I am consulting a clinic in Ukraine for this issue. You should also do that. The only thing is that one should not lose hope. As there is always a way out from your problems. Life is the name of challenges. Just face the challenges with such a strong power that everyone appreciates you. Today, many ladies are facing the problem of infertility. But the thing is that many ladies became dissapointed. They just think that they will never be able to become a mother. But the fact is that those who keep strong will get something good in future. And those who lose heart remain empty handed.

[monika]

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Hey, there I can completely understand your situation. It can be really hard to decide when it all comes down to this. I too have a poor ovarian reserve which meant that I had to go with the option of DE. However, I was hesitant and not so sure. As we all want that connection with the child but then I really thought about it and the doctors told me how the child would still be genetically linked to the father. So for me, it was all about something is better than nothing. Honestly, speaking I am glad I did opt for the option because I know otherwise I would have regretted it my whole life. Just think with an open mind and then decide. Sending baby dust your way.

[Glenna Johnson]

Hey dear. This is really very sad. I am sorry for you. Dear, I think you should consult your doctor. It will really give you so much satisfaction. Also, it makes me feel that your health is weak. So you should contact your doctor as soon as possible. Wish you best of luck.

[Eric Watson]

Dear Anfisal! Hope so you are doing good. I felt so sad about your condition. About every 6th couple is dealing with such issues. Don't be so worried. I think you should avail the latest techniques like IVF and surrogacy. Whether you can go with surrogacy or IVF. Both the methods helping people a lot in this regard.
My sympathies

[mindykeller]

I can relate to your inner turmoil. You must be in a denial of not having a baby. You want a baby. Though it is not possible considering the given circumstances. Though you do have options. I mean go for IVF. You will be able to have a biological link with the baby as well. Just ensure you contact a reliable clinic. I have been reading reviews about clinics like lotus and Adonis as really irresponsible. Just avoid them.

[cerys]

Dear, I am sorry for your situation. I know how it hurts. I also suffered a lot. But you should take advice from for doctor. There are a lot of methods. You can have your own baby. Don't take tension. It will also cause the problem. Go for surrogacy. It will definitely help you out. Good luck. Take care.

[jany21]

I feel your situation. I can understand its very difficult phase of your life. You don't have a need to be depressed. Hardship is the part of life. You have to become strong. I'm suffering from heart disease from last two year. Because of heart disease its not possible for me to become a mother. Then I and my husband moved to Europe for surrogacy. Surrogacy is really a blessing of medical science. Now I have my own baby. I think you should have to consult with a good doctor. A doctor can understand your biological condition better than others.

[debra]

Hello dear mom in confusion, wishing you a happy and healthy life. I am really grieved over your condition. You have already waited for a very long time. It is not something great that the ART choice did not turn up the way you wanted it to be. It is a big shock indeed. When going for the IVF or similar procedures or even in the normal pregnancy healthy eggs are a must. In women they are the integral element in the smooth pregnancy process. The unhealthy eggs mean lowest probability of the fertility. Unfortuately you have met the same fate. Finding the egg donor is a great option. Your concern is genuine to the extent that the genetic linkage to some extent shifts towards the mom donating. At the same time it will be you nurturing the baby. It is just like getting the blood donation. The fluids and the reproductive organs of the carrier play a pivotal role in developing the child. I hope I have answered some of your queries. Don't put yourself in further stress. Think positive and go for egg donation.

[alyssa]

hey there! I think you are right. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can understand your pain. it is really painful. it is really heartbreaking. it is really devastating. I cant imagine how strong you had to be. you have to be strong. and loo look for other options like IVF and surrogacy. IVF is a great process. and it will help you conceive. in comparison to IVF surrogacy has a higher rate of success. stay strong.

[mirandajames]

Hey. I understand you completely. Everyone wants to have a baby of their own that is biologically related to them. But sometimes circumstances don't let us. Going with donor eggs isn't a bad idea. You will build the same connection with your child. At least you'll be able to have one. I think you should go for it.

[trisha098]

Hey. Hope you are well. I understand completely. But what do you think is better? A happy life with a child in it or without a child? It's really just eggs. Nothing else will be different. The baby is going to be yours. So what if the child is not related to you biologically. The relationship is built with the time spent together. Not genes. You are going to love your baby just as much. You baby will love you too. You should not give this opportunity up. Good luck.

[hannah1234]

I can understand that things at times can get very difficult. Even when I was told that I wasn't a candidate for IUI any longer. I was very resistant! However, you have to move on in life as well. Visit a really good doctor and ask them if they think you are a candidate for IVF with your own doctor. This will give you a better insight about your situation. I myself did the same thing and this really helped. Good luck to you.