Midweek Mayhem

[dmorgendorffer]

[dmorgendorffer]

Between the two kids I'm not sure I've slept past 6am in the past two weeks. J has been the early riser lately - she keep waking up between 5-5:30 which is like the worst time because there is no going back to sleep. E used to get up and come into our room when she woke up but for some reason now she opens her door and screams down the hall way, "DAD, IS IT WAKE UP TIME?!?" I think its because I tell her not to get out of her bed when I'm getting her in bed for the night so now she opens the door and jumps back in her bed and starts yelling.

September seems like its going by so fast. I think now that summer is over things are really picking up at work.

[dreemkin]

Today I have pork for pulled pork in the slow cooker. When that's on I like to stay home so we played and did puzzles a lot this morning. Last night we ordered a new disposal for the kitchen sink. It has been sounding bad lately and with two leaks coming from the bottom, we figured a whole new one is the best bet. We don't know how old it is either.

dmorgendorffer omg, N is an early riser and we try to have her be quiet but sometimes I think she sings loudly on purpose to wake up her sister (to play with). On the weekdays we give her a morning list so she can start getting ready for school while I wake up, shower, and get ready. I've started giving A simple things to do too and she tries to get dressed although most of it ends up backwards haha.

[aggiebug]

Oh man pass dmorgendorffer all the caffeine. Have you thought about a light clock for E? One that tells her awake time is soon and then when see can get out? It's really helped S stay quietly in her room until we are ready. There is a mella brand that has a yellow light 30 minutes before it turns green so they can kind of learn it's coming soon.

[aggiebug]

Exercise and oil change this morning now I doing laundry and nothing else. Tomorrow is going to be frantic but hey what is a trip when I am not packing last minute? 😆

Tonight is family night at church and the last night of our marriage series. It's been good. Next up we will look forward to to hopefully finding an actual small group to join.

[aggiebug]

Ok and I have a parent question for you.

So S and I are struggling. About a lot honestly but specifically about this damn peeing in the potty thing. Thing is she doesn't have accidents at school, or at church and is pretty darn good at telling us she needs to go if we are out of the house. (She peed once and I didn't have anything with me so we had to go home and not get ice cream as planned she was devastated). However if we are home she never goes without being told. Like never, well except poop, poop she is good at going for the most part. She can be totally distracted out of the house and know she has to go so I have a hard time understanding this at home. The second part of this is there are often times I ask her to go she tells me no and it becomes a huge fight. If I let it go she 100% of the time pees on the floor in the next 20 or so minutes, if I push it we are both in foul moods. I KNOW it's a power struggle thing is I don't know how to give her the power and not suffer the consequences of cleaning up pee all over my house multiple times a day every damn day. She gets and M&M if I only tell her once to go it if she remembers on her own. I try to stick with positive language, I praise her when she remembers. But like today I asked her and she threw an epic tantrum and locked herself in the bathroom hiding under the sink.

Thanks for reading that tomb lol. Any ideas outsider suggestions.

[dreemkin]

aggiebug no suggestions because we are going through the same thing. I was just saying to H that it seems like A has regressed on a few things. She threw a tantrum about taking the stroller to pick up N today, which we never do. She peeped and pooped all day in her pull up today. And she cries every time we ask her to go. Some days are better. But the poop thing is so annoying, especially because she doesn't tell me. I really don't know what to do except keep trying not to get too mad. I don't know if you remember but with N it was a dark dark time between me and her and I'm trying to stay in the light as much as I can this time. So, you are not alone my friend. The only thing positive that I can say is that once N did decide to do it, there was no going back, no accidents. Since she was older, bedtime was even pretty solid. On another note, I hope you get your packing done!

[dreemkin]

dmorgendorffer

[aggiebug]

Thanks dreemkin I am sorry you are dealing with similar stuff but sometimes it's nice to know others struggle too. My husband's solution is working on C to potty train... He isn't even 2 yet. I told him I'll leave him the kids for a long weekend and he can try. Of course that means I'll still be the one dealing with it in a day to day basis. I think he's trying to make me go insane.

[lilyelayne]

aggiebug so many hugs. Maybe S does need a long weekend with daddy so you’re out of the equation. sorry the potty is a power struggle. Does she have to clean up her own accidents / get her own clean clothes / etc? Do you think that could help?
No idea if it would set you back but maybe a two strike rule? Or one strike. Accident: you’re not paying attention to your body today, so you have to wear a pull up / go naked / not wear underwear. You can try again tomorrow.

G resisted being told when to go, and the more I prompted the more he’d hold it until the last second. I think we ended up with some kind of phrasing like “remember to put your tee tee in the potty.” “I trust you to put your tee tee in the potty. Remember, if you have an accident, no evening screen time / no screen time tomorrow” or whatever. He usually had accidents when watching the tablet.

He hated being told he was doing a potty dance even when he clearly was. Sometimes sportscasting that instead of directing to the potty worked. “Hey, can you listen to your body right now? Is it telling you anything? I see you holding your penis and walking in circles. Is that your body telling you something?” If still in potty denial I’d remind him his penis is his private area and he needs privacy if he wants to play with it.

Otherwise it was a lot of
“Hey you’re doing a potty dance. Go potty.”
“It’s NOT a potty dance. It’s a dance floor dance.” *dances around to prove his point*

[lilyelayne]

dreemkin like for staying in the light. That’s hard work!

[lilyelayne]

Mom and I showed up to bible study wearing matching shirts today; gave us both a laugh. I made it back in time to pick up G from school which made me happy.

At lunch G told me he fell on the playground and a kid at school heard him cry & came to check on him, helped him up, and they played together. I thought it was super nice & messaged the kid’s mom on our class app to relay the story.
Turns out the kid doesn’t have many words & mostly uses sign language when he chooses to communicate, so hearing that he connected and communicated so well with a classmate made her day.

[aggiebug]

So to answer a few of the questions you tossed out. She doesn't clean up the mess but usually it's in carpet so it's hard, although I have thought about how to make that work. She does go change clothes and actually will often hide she peed and I see new clothes and ask. She flat out refuses s pull up when she is being obstinate about the bathroom so it doesn't work, she is happy to go naked.

I have asked her to quiet for a minute and listen to her body, she says she doesn't have to go. Then she fights if I ask her to try/ or remind her she gets an m&m for going. I am going to stew on everything you said a but it's good to hear other thoughts. See if i can find a better reward/ consequence system for her.




We did go to a marriage class last night at church and one thing they talked about was the 5 positives (or more) to every negative. After the class I was thinking it might be helpful with Sarah too. I try to remember positives but we are in a viscous cycle at the moment and it's going to take a concerted effort to get the 5 positives for every negative but just that might help her attitude towards me and potty training.

[dmorgendorffer]

aggiebug we went through a streak where E kept peeing on the floor in the bathroom, she just wasn't getting to the potty in time. I honestly don't know what made the difference but one thing we did was that in the morning we would set the goal - no accidents today! and through out the day when she used the potty we would make a big deal about it - yeah! no accidents today! She'd brag about not having any accidents when she made it a full day and it's been awhile since she's had one now.

[dreemkin]

Not much to report here today. Been kind of blue lately. I get very tired and burned out at the end of the day. I'm starting to even make N's lunch earlier to avoid that feeling of "I just can't even". Which is not normal for me. Maybe I'm just fighting off something; N has another little cold.

[mishka29]

Sept 19, 2018 15:27:34 GMT -5 aggiebug said:

Ok and I have a parent question for you.

So S and I are struggling. About a lot honestly but specifically about this damn peeing in the potty thing. Thing is she doesn't have accidents at school, or at church and is pretty darn good at telling us she needs to go if we are out of the house. (She peed once and I didn't have anything with me so we had to go home and not get ice cream as planned she was devastated). However if we are home she never goes without being told. Like never, well except poop, poop she is good at going for the most part. She can be totally distracted out of the house and know she has to go so I have a hard time understanding this at home. The second part of this is there are often times I ask her to go she tells me no and it becomes a huge fight. If I let it go she 100% of the time pees on the floor in the next 20 or so minutes, if I push it we are both in foul moods. I KNOW it's a power struggle thing is I don't know how to give her the power and not suffer the consequences of cleaning up pee all over my house multiple times a day every damn day. She gets and M&M if I only tell her once to go it if she remembers on her own. I try to stick with positive language, I praise her when she remembers. But like today I asked her and she threw an epic tantrum and locked herself in the bathroom hiding under the sink.

Thanks for reading that tomb lol. Any ideas outsider suggestions.

My sister used a timer on her phone for a certain about of time. When it went off she had to go sit on the potty and they would play a song and once it was done then she could get off.

It sorta goes against the ‘learn when you have to pee’ if you force them to pee when they sit but there might be less pee on the floor.

Or maybe a extra potty around the house. If she sees it she might use it rather than just pee.

[kartish]

There is a big struggle here as well. V screams and struggles if you ask him to try the potty. If he has two accidents in one day I put him back in diapers. I try to bribe him with marshmallows some days, but mostly he won't take the bait. So most of the time I just say okay we'll try later. Then clean up the mess when it comes.

I am trying to keep nonchalant about it, but sometimes I start to yell, catch myself, stop, take a deep breath and start over. And maybe repeat.

[aggiebug]

Sept 22, 2018 18:34:17 GMT -5 kartish said:

There is a big struggle here as well. V screams and struggles if you ask him to try the potty. If he has two accidents in one day I put him back in diapers. I try to bribe him with marshmallows some days, but mostly he won't take the bait. So most of the time I just say okay we'll try later. Then clean up the mess when it comes.

I am trying to keep nonchalant about it, but sometimes I start to yell, catch myself, stop, take a deep breath and start over. And maybe repeat.

He will keep the diaper on? Because a majority of the time she will refuse to put one on/ take it right back off arg

[kartish]

aggiebug yes, most of the time. He was refusing all diapers a few weeks ago, but is better now. He will take them off frequently, but usually only after he pees.