A friend posted that she was part of a fast food pay it forward chains. I don't like the idea. It is nice to pay for someone else but then they ask do you want to pay for the person behind you, so begins the chain. I think the article perfectly sums up why I don't like it, because some one has to break the chain in order for someone to actually benefit. The person who breaks the chain is a "cheap jerk". I take issue with making the breaker of the chain a cheap jerk. What if they can't afford the person who is behind them order. Then they are a jerk, and that's not nice. With all that said I think it is really sweet when people randomly pick up checks, and I love stories like that. I am just not a fan of the pay it forward chains in drive thru windows. Not that I have ever been apart of one m.fastcompany.com/3034747/fast-feed/breaking-a-pay-it-forward-chain-isnt-being-a-cheap-bastard-its-good-economics
That is a funny article. When they first said she "broke the chain" I assumed that meant she took the free coffee and drove off, but that's not what she did. So I am confused, as the author of the article is. Why is what she did any different from what the 378 customers in front of her did? I'm on Team Sagen - seems silly to me
So doesn't that make the Barista the bad one, if they don't just pay the other driver's money forward to the driver behind? Also, I find the 'do you want to return the favor' to be a bit much. Fine of you want to say yourself 'I'll treat the next one' but another one to ask if you want to pay it forward.
My U/O is pretty big in my house anyways. I finally just came clean with the fact that I don't like TED talks. This is a problem because my husband LOVES TED talks and wants to watch them all the time.
I have tried many different ones and just don't like it. They just feel like 'Idea Infomercials' with ideas being 'sold ' to the public with very limited criticism. While this does have a purpose, I just get too frustrated when I watch them. The ones I have seen in my field, while interesting, I often find are 'oversold' as being WOW SUPER ideas, when they are flashy,but not necessarily groundbreaking or unique. In most cases when I do go and look the studies up, there are, obviously, more balanced scientific papers and critical information about the idea. But I guess it is just not my thing. DH was annoyed that I even rejected the art one he chose last night and finally I just admitted that I couldn't watch anymore because I found it annoying & pretentious (and I love and am genuinely interested in art!).
I like Ted Talk, some more than others, I don't love love them, but I don't hate them. Some feel like they are trying way too hard.This one was my favorite I thought it was interesting, so if your H wants you to watch one with him pick this one www.ted.com/talks/luca_turin_on_the_science_of_scent?language=en
Someone ahead of me in a drive through did this once. This was probably 5-6 years ago, and I had never heard of people doing this before. I was so shocked and caught off guard (and very appreciative) but I just said thank you, gave a tip of whatever cash I had, and drove off. Cheap jerk? I don't think so. Confused and appreciative? Yes. And I've done things like this for other people since. I feel like if you expect something in return or think someone else has an obligation it kind of defeats the point of a gracious gesture.
That's a sweet story and how it should be done, not to ask you "do you want to pay it forward." You get your food free which is nice, and what the giver wanted.
Post by sjames2015 on Feb 19, 2015 22:28:57 GMT -5
The first time I was involved in a food chain like that I said "thank you" and went on my way with my free coffee. That was 6+ years ago. It started up again within the last few years and I have usually paid it forward by paying for the next in line. However, many times the person behind me has an order well over $25. I was paying $2.50 for mine I really don't want to pay the whole thing. So I will pay $5-$7 depending on how I feel. I did pay the full thing one morning when the woman behind me looked like she was having a very bad day. You could see her kids throwing stuff at her....... So I paid the entire thing. I hope it made her smile. Because I'm my eyes that's what the "chain" are for. To make the person having a bad day smile. Whether it be person #1 or #400.
Someone ahead of me in a drive through did this once. This was probably 5-6 years ago, and I had never heard of people doing this before. I was so shocked and caught off guard (and very appreciative) but I just said thank you, gave a tip of whatever cash I had, and drove off. Cheap jerk? I don't think so. Confused and appreciative? Yes. And I've done things like this for other people since. I feel like if you expect something in return or think someone else has an obligation it kind of defeats the point of a gracious gesture.
That's a sweet story and how it should be done, not to ask you "do you want to pay it forward." You get your food free which is nice, and what the giver wanted.
I think the drive-thru chains are too literal an interpretation of "pay it forward." I"m sure @sterling was so touched by this stranger's act of kindness that she undoubtedly exuded kindness to others for the rest of the day. Maybe she let someone merge in front of her in traffic. Maybe she held the elevator door for that frazzled mother running across the lobby. Maybe she cooked her H his favorite dinner that evening, just to be nice. I am a firm believer that kindness breeds kindness, and while the drive-thru chains make for a sweet headline, there are better ways to breed kindness. Just my opinion.
Post by cinnasugar on Feb 20, 2015 14:45:38 GMT -5
One time when I was a waitress at a pizza restaurant an older couple paid for the dinner of a family with three young kids. I think they actually knew them, but it was so neat to be the waitress to deliver that news (the couple had already left) to the family. With three young kids I bet they didn't get to go out often and it was a hefty bill when they did, so I thought that was such a touching gesture.
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