Post by jmac61414 on Sept 3, 2019 18:37:04 GMT -5
Hello everyone! My name is Jen and I’m 34 from MA. I’ve been married to my husband for a little over 5 years now. I’m not really having fertility issues yet but I feel stuck and defeated and feel like I just need someone who can relate and hopefully give me a good-news story!
So, my story... in the past 10 years I was diagnosed with HPV and had part of my cervix removed and then I was diagnosed with endometriosis. I’m getting to the point where I really want to start trying to have a baby but my husband is just not fully on board. I’ve tried explaining to him that everyone is nervous and scared to be responsible for a tiny human and if he wasn’t scared he probably wouldn’t be human... In come the excuses... I also suffer from Panic Attacks and a form of agoraphobia. I’ve been going to therapy for almost 2 years and have really made progress. Back in December I had my husband join me at therapy to start talking about having a baby and his reasoning for waiting was because he felt my panic attacks weren’t getting better. Specific situations he brought up, I’ve put myself in and overcame my anxiety!!! Small victory for me! A few months back his cousin announced him and his wife were expected and when he tried to “joke” around with me and I told him I didn’t really want to talk about it, he said “why? I thought we were going to start trying in October!” So now, (specifically today) I brought up that my birth control prescription is up in 2 weeks and asked if I should be refilling it and for how long... his response was a few more months! Now he wants us to eat right, exercise and lose weight before trying! I feel defeated and feel like no matter what I do something else is thrown at me to knock me down! I’ve tried explaining my concern about infertility given the HPV, endometriosis, and my age and the response I get is “we’ll be fine!”
Has anyone else overcome this? Am I approaching this the wrong way? I just don’t know what to do anymore.
So, my story... in the past 10 years I was diagnosed with HPV and had part of my cervix removed and then I was diagnosed with endometriosis. I’m getting to the point where I really want to start trying to have a baby but my husband is just not fully on board. I’ve tried explaining to him that everyone is nervous and scared to be responsible for a tiny human and if he wasn’t scared he probably wouldn’t be human... In come the excuses... I also suffer from Panic Attacks and a form of agoraphobia. I’ve been going to therapy for almost 2 years and have really made progress. Back in December I had my husband join me at therapy to start talking about having a baby and his reasoning for waiting was because he felt my panic attacks weren’t getting better. Specific situations he brought up, I’ve put myself in and overcame my anxiety!!! Small victory for me! A few months back his cousin announced him and his wife were expected and when he tried to “joke” around with me and I told him I didn’t really want to talk about it, he said “why? I thought we were going to start trying in October!” So now, (specifically today) I brought up that my birth control prescription is up in 2 weeks and asked if I should be refilling it and for how long... his response was a few more months! Now he wants us to eat right, exercise and lose weight before trying! I feel defeated and feel like no matter what I do something else is thrown at me to knock me down! I’ve tried explaining my concern about infertility given the HPV, endometriosis, and my age and the response I get is “we’ll be fine!”
Has anyone else overcome this? Am I approaching this the wrong way? I just don’t know what to do anymore.