Post by bendherova on Feb 21, 2015 11:09:28 GMT -5
Eh, I was left with a 'that's all?' feeling after my first time. Broke up with the guy about a month later. I don't regret the timing of it (i was 21), but I do wish I'd had a different partner, who I maybe had a stronger connection with.
I was 17, my boyfriend was older (like, in his 20's). I definitely wanted to do it, we'd been together about 8 months, so we did. It sucked. Not because of him, just because it freakin' HURT like hell. He was super gentle and respectful but I seriously wasn't into it at all. I spotted for like 3 days after that and it burned like hell when I pee'd. I was like, "WHY WOULD GIRLS DO THIS ON PURPOSE?!" lol....I'm glad it got better the more we did it because holy moly, the first time sucked.
Post by billyhorrible on Feb 21, 2015 12:09:39 GMT -5
Mine was with DH and we had been dating a while beforehand. We were in college and had discussed the entire thing in great detail, as well as timing. I didn't want to have sex with him and then be separated for the summer because I thought that would make the whole thing weird, so we planned it for the first week we were back at school.
We made a fort on the floor of his apartment with mattresses, had a bottle of wine, and had sex. I don't remember for sure, but my gut is that he brought me to orgasm first, and then we actually had sex.
We were 21 and had been together since we were 15. It was new years day and we (now my DH) were just hanging out in bed. We mutually decided we were ready. So basically he wasn't fully hard and we tried a bunch of positions to try and make it work. Just very meh because he was over thinking it. It has greatly improved since then.
Summer after my freshman year of high school. The guy was a senior and we had been very flirtatious/dating for quite some time. I had tried some other crazy things that weekend for the first time with some of my girlfriends (illegal drug things that I still to this day regret that I ever tried, even though it was only once) and ended up over at his house and decided what the hell and went for it. I cried afterward and he drove me home. Then, later that afternoon, I was in the backyard with my mom, cried again and confessed everything. She cried too. It wasn't a great experience.
Post by missjenniebean on Feb 21, 2015 12:57:05 GMT -5
Last day abroad I got drunk, knew it was a bad idea, did it anyway with my salsero. All I remember is the ride to his place, he telling me to relax, talking about his family, then waking up to a dog coming in the room and he giving me 3 soles to get home. Lol dont regret it. Left for home the next day. Ha.
I was the last one of my friends to lose my virginity and sex seemed so cool because everyone was doing it. I had on pink sparkly roller skate undies if that tells you just how ill prepared I was to start being sexy. Haha it was awkward and it sucked.
I was 19, that's drinking age here so I had recently started going out to bars. Met a guy, had a bit of a 'fling' (loosely termed. He didn't want a relationship, so in hindsight grown up me is pretty sure I wasn't the only one he was flinging with), I think it was even a month or two before we did. Nothing crazy, I don't really remember what I thought about it.
I learned the hard way too & it's a big regret. I don't even want to think about it now. I made stupid decisions and I wasn't mature enough. I block them out and I feel I am a completely different person now compared to back then. To be honest I consider my first time to be with my SO. We are each others first relationship. It was beautiful and so special, definitely the first time I was 'made love'too. It was his first time. That made me feel even more special and now almost 2 years after getting together we are expecting our first child. LO due June 4th our 2yr anniversary June 2nd = Meant to be
The setting was nice - a bed & breakfast that my (first) college boyfriend arranged us to go to. I don't remember the act itself being anything to write home about... I was 18 (summer after freshman year of college). I'd actually tried with my HS boyfriend over winter break during freshman year, but there were some, um, anatomical issues - my hymen never completely opened up (explaining the problems I'd had with tampons...) and he was a rather large guy. On the advice of by OB/GYN, I started doing stretches after that, and was fine in six months (and obviously had a new boyfriend, who happened to be smaller in diameter )
Mine was just meh. Nothing scary, nothing exciting. Just meh. I was 18.
Ditto. Meh at 19. Also I realised after DH that my first was on the slightly smaller than average size so sex was never that exciting for me with my first. Thank goodness it didnt work out. Imagine never knowing better sex. * shudder*****
Mine was just meh. Nothing scary, nothing exciting. Just meh. I was 18.
Ditto. Meh at 19. Also I realised after DH that my first was on the slightly smaller than average size so sex was never that exciting for me with my first. Thank goodness it didnt work out. Imagine never knowing better sex. * shudder*****
I didn't have an orgasm until I was 22. I seriously had no idea. I thought it was good and then, all of a sudden, WHOA!
Ditto. Meh at 19. Also I realised after DH that my first was on the slightly smaller than average size so sex was never that exciting for me with my first. Thank goodness it didnt work out. Imagine never knowing better sex. * shudder*****
I didn't have an orgasm until I was 22. I seriously had no idea. I thought it was good and then, all of a sudden, WHOA!
Imagine never knowing! My first struggled to give me the big O. Then when I met DH I forlornly told him that I was difficult to get to orgasm and to not feel bad when I don't. After 3 minutes of him getting to business I had one lol. So i decided never to let go the man who knew how to push my buttons right
Post by purpledaisy923 on Feb 21, 2015 18:48:55 GMT -5
Not to be a Debbie Downer, but you asked and I feel like telling. I was 14 when I lost my virginity. I was raped by someone who I thought was a friend of mine, but clearly I was very wrong. I dealt with a lot of sexual/relationship issues during high school because of this event. As an adult, I don't let it get me down anymore. It happened and it sucked,but time to move on.
Not to be a Debbie Downer, but you asked and I feel like telling. I was 14 when I lost my virginity. I was raped by someone who I thought was a friend of mine, but clearly I was very wrong. I dealt with a lot of sexual/relationship issues during high school because of this event. As an adult, I don't let it get me down anymore. It happened and it sucked,but time to move on.
Hilarious in hindsight. I was 17, it was with my high school boyfriend, and the day after his junior prom (he was a year younger than me, though I think he'd turned 17 by that point). Throughout the year we'd dated, he'd never been able to have an orgasm in front of me - I tried my hands, I tried my mouth, nada. He swore everything worked fine when he was on his own. (Looking back, I'm assuming the problem was a combination of Catholic guilt and using the Death Grip while masturbating.)
So sweet, perky, 17-year-old me thinks that OBVIOUSLY sex will be the answer! After all, I'd heard all these stories from my girlfriends who had done it already about how their boyfriends barely lasted two seconds once they got started. BF's family was going to some event that day, and they assumed we'd be tired from the prom and wouldn't want to go, and left us alone in an empty house. To be fair, he was really cute about it - candles, rose petals on the bed, etc.
Then we got down to business. It didn't really hurt that much, but it wasn't amazing either. After what felt like a really long time, BF stops, looks at me, and asks, "Is this doing anything for you?" I was truthful and said, "It felt kind of nice at first, but now it's just kind of annoying." Cue utter breakdown from his end about how he didn't know what was wrong with him, what kind of guy couldn't come inside his girlfriend, blah blah blah. He swore me to secrecy, and then I don't think he spoke to anyone for the next three days or so.
Then we entered a cycle of him wanting to do it again all the time so he could prove himself, and me resisting because I didn't like feeling pressured. We broke up two months later and I didn't have sex again for another year and a half. (That was with my college boyfriend, whom I loved dearly and have no ill feelings toward, we just weren't meant to be together for various reasons and I sincerely hope he's happy.)
Epilogue! BF and I decided to try the "let's be friends!" bit, with mixed results over the years. Not long after we broke up, he claimed to have started seeing a new girl and assured me that they had no problems whatsoever in the sex department. (However, any time I mentioned another guy, he got all pissy and made nasty comments.) True to my word, I'd never told anyone about his shortcomings, not even my best friend...until a few months after that, when I was up at college, we got into a really big, stupid fight via AIM over something I can't even remember now. I was SO pissed, I went right down my AIM Buddy List and anyone who knew him got sent the message "The first and only time BF and I had sex, he couldn't finish the job. Enjoy! " Don't fuck with me.
I didn't have an orgasm until I was 22. I seriously had no idea. I thought it was good and then, all of a sudden, WHOA!
Imagine never knowing! My first struggled to give me the big O. Then when I met DH I forlornly told him that I was difficult to get to orgasm and to not feel bad when I don't. After 3 minutes of him getting to business I had one lol. So i decided never to let go the man who knew how to push my buttons right
I'm 20. I'll be 21 when LO is born. I haven't expereniced an O ever. & I know I'm with the person who is eventually going to be my DH. I'm hoping I'll get to experience it soon..
Post by flbabychin on Feb 21, 2015 19:31:26 GMT -5
I was 17 and with my high school boyfriend. It wasn't anything spectacular, and it hurt. It got better over time, but honestly the best sex I've had had been with DH.
My first nothing to rave about. I was 17 and drunk. Didn't hurt but it was a regret of mine. I was young and stupid and wanted to lose my virginity like most of my friends already had.
cnumbers I have orgasmed but it is like winning the lottery. Luckily my SO can give me an O from time to time. I was probably 25 my first O!
I'm so sorry to each of you who have had traumatic sexual experiences. I hope you have found a partner who understands any residual pain you have and lovingly and respectfully shares physical intimacy in a way you are comfortable with.
As for the ladies in the group who haven't had orgasms yet I didn't until I was maybe 24. It wasn't until we were securely living in our own home and married that I was able to fully relax. Over time I got comfortable making noise I apparently had been stiffling. The whole roommates in the other room/parents upstairs/someone could walk in/we shouldn't be doing this guilt took a toll on my sexual expression. I could build up almost to climax then boom it turned right off instead of finishing.
Imagine never knowing! My first struggled to give me the big O. Then when I met DH I forlornly told him that I was difficult to get to orgasm and to not feel bad when I don't. After 3 minutes of him getting to business I had one lol. So i decided never to let go the man who knew how to push my buttons right
I'm 20. I'll be 21 when LO is born. I haven't expereniced an O ever. & I know I'm with the person who is eventually going to be my DH. I'm hoping I'll get to experience it soon..
Might be easier to figure things out on your own and practise
Post by carolyngrace on Feb 21, 2015 21:25:25 GMT -5
cnumbers, I second what leenziepops said - if you're not already experimenting on your own to find what works, you may want to start! One of my best friends periodically complains that her sex life is not very great because she has never orgasmed, but she refuses to masturbate. If YOU don't know what gets you off, how the heck is he supposed to know?! (Sorry, my indignation is towards her lol)
I mentioned in the other threat, but my first time was at 14. My boyfriend and I were "so in love". And he was so immature he brought over a bunch of funny colored and tasting condoms he and his friends had bought. So I grabbed one and was like "lets do this, then". It was SUPER MEH, and lasted like 2 minutes. Didn't hurt though. We only had sex a few times and then I re-claimed my virginity until 16 when an asshole boyfriend pressured me into it again and started my slutty/depressed/druggie years! Oh, the memories
I had just turned 15 and he was 22. There was a party going on downstairs and one of the guys thought it would be funny to keep walking in. There was no lock on the door. He blocked the door with his dresser and finished. It was not good for me at all! Well a couple weeks later I caught him in bed with another girl (big duh) I was so freaking stupid. Years later I married the asshat because I was incredibly stupid and barely 18. Had my beautiful daughter and found out a couple years later he was cheating (another big duh!! God what was I thinking!!) but not just with girls!! With a man too!! Ugh. The only thing I got out of that relationship was my wonderful daughter. Needless to say I divorced him and have never been happier with my amazing current DH. I was seriously the epitome of stupidity.
My first nothing to rave about. I was 17 and drunk. Didn't hurt but it was a regret of mine. I was young and stupid and wanted to lose my virginity like most of my friends already had.
cnumbers I have orgasmed but it is like winning the lottery. Luckily my SO can give me an O from time to time. I was probably 25 my first O!
cnumbers, I second what leenziepops said - if you're not already experimenting on your own to find what works, you may want to start! One of my best friends periodically complains that her sex life is not very great because she has never orgasmed, but she refuses to masturbate. If YOU don't know what gets you off, how the heck is he supposed to know?! (Sorry, my indignation is towards her lol)
I'm 20. I'll be 21 when LO is born. I haven't expereniced an O ever. & I know I'm with the person who is eventually going to be my DH. I'm hoping I'll get to experience it soon..
Might be easier to figure things out on your own and practise
I bought a bullet vibrator awhile ago now with the intention of letting SO use it on me.. Unfortunately he felt offended that I'd purchased this, he felt threatened I don't know but I told him he was being ridiculous and I used it a couple of times.. It didn't do much.. I have masturbated and nothing. The vibrator now sits in a drawer. I have felt close with SO I think.. It's now to the point where I think something is wrong with me. Sex is amazing most of the time and I get really turned on.. I just never ya know come. Also sex can sometimes just feel like nothing apart from skin rubbing together however it is rare that I feel like this but I do find pleasure in embracing and knowing I am driving him wild. I think I need foreplay maybe.. Lots of it and it depends on the mood with me and the anticipation.. hopefully I will get there. If I ever do I may make an announcement I kid..
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