Saturday 2/21 Confess!

[grannypantiesrock]

Share your crazy. Preferably something related to adopting.

My confession:
I stalk the waiting families page on my agency's website. I watch their videos and look at the photos. Then I say things to my DH like, "I'd so choose us over them" or "No one's picking us until these people are gone. They're so photogenic, eloquent, successful, etc." I know it's not a competition, but I can't help myself!!!!

[wishuponastar]

I used to count the number of families on our agency's website and try to figure out our odds. Then I would try to figure out who was missing.

[chicago]

I do both of above I have screenshots of our waiting page so that if it changes I can see who got picked. We also have an online public page of our profile book. I check it on a daily basis to see if anyone has looked at it.

[spooko]

I've given out too much of ds personal adoption story in the past to cover for my own self consciousness. Being a young mom gets a lot of unnecessary judgment and in the past I've felt the need to clear the air about my having him not be the result of my own poor choices. It took some maturing and realizing that it was his private info but I've stopped. I feel badly about what I have said, though.

[roxy]

I am constantly checking the waiting children's page to see who is on there and who has already been adopted. I fell in love with a little girl based solely on her photo and public bio (read sunshine and rainbows). We never heard anything from her SW which would give us any info on was she was in care. I was devastated when her bio was off the site. I know I should step away from the site, but I can't.

[roxy]

Hugs spooko,

[spooko]

Thanks roxy. That's funny that this thread popped up on this board, because there isn't usually one, and it's been something that's been weighing on my mind lately. I don't even know what sparked it because it's been quite a long time, but it was kind of like serendipity that I had a place to stick my confession.

[pinkie]

I feel this ridiculous need to explain why I am not breast feeding our baby. Our toddler is sick and I expressed concern to the covering ped we saw about the baby catching it and he asked if I'm BF and my response was "no, our kids are adopted" vs just replying that our baby is FF. I don't know why I do this because I don't think there is anything wrong with formula, I guess I feel immediately judged.

[wishuponastar]

Feb 21, 2015 21:03:38 GMT -5 pinkie said:

I feel this ridiculous need to explain why I am not breast feeding our baby. Our toddler is sick and I expressed concern to the covering ped we saw about the baby catching it and he asked if I'm BF and my response was "no, our kids are adopted" vs just replying that our baby is FF. I don't know why I do this because I don't think there is anything wrong with formula, I guess I feel immediately judged.

I'm with ya sister!
The insecure new parent part of me feels the need to explain when I am buying formula. Sometimes I get looks, one time someone scoffed when I mentioned the cost.

Then there is a part of me who is just waiting for a judgmental person says asks me so I can tell them and put them in their place. (I have a friend who had her baby about a month ago, and everyone keeps asking her if she is BF or FF) 

Hey- I guess I had another confession today!

[spooko]

Glad I'm not the only one feeling the need to justify myself.

[lbey]

I also keep checking the waiting children website to see who is available even though I know we are not to do that. There are 2 kids (brother and sister) I keep looking at wishing they can come to us... I do that st least twice a day...
I also have googled my SW to find all public info available to see who she is...Yes, im one of those creepers that google people!

[theatrepal]

I also stress over who the new people are on the agency website. I'll be meeting them all the first week of March for study group. Here's to hoping that meeting them reduces my anxiety...

[grannypantiesrock]

Gawd! I never even thought of the breastfeeding gestapo. I just now googled "adoption breastfeeding." O...m...g.



I'm so not judging anyone who would choose to do this. I totally get wanting to bond and if I could just snap my fingers and be able to breastfeed without pumping myself full of drugs, I certainly would. But for me personally, this would just be bizarre.

[pinkie]

Our matches were both less than a month so I wouldn't have had time to try inducing lactation even if I wanted to go that route. For me I was done putting meds into my body so it wasn't even a consideration.

Oh - I totally was a waiting family list stalker!!!

[jenn]

So here's my [late] confession:

I created an Amazon Baby Registry when we were first HS approved. We probably had a normal 40-50 items on it. But every time I felt sad or we weren't chosen or I thought about celebrating another holiday without a LO, I bought something off the list.

....

There's only 6 items left on the list! Apparently I think about adoption more than I realize! We are now at the point where my DH is like, 'hun, people are going to want to buy us something and you've literally bought everything.' :/

[wishuponastar]

Feb 23, 2015 9:45:34 GMT -5 jenn said:

So here's my [late] confession:

I created an Amazon Baby Registry when we were first HS approved. We probably had a normal 40-50 items on it. But every time I felt sad or we weren't chosen or I thought about celebrating another holiday without a LO, I bought something off the list.

....

There's only 6 items left on the list! Apparently I think about adoption more than I realize! We are now at the point where my DH is like, 'hun, people are going to want to buy us something and you've literally bought everything.' :/

I bought a lot of stuff from facebook yardsale groups. 
I think it's a good thing.
I am sure there is plenty of stuff to buy- all of the fun Extras! Plus there's always clothing and diapers.