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[SassyPants150]

I don't have my twins yet, but I already have gotten a few of these gems. Definitely shared this on Facebook. Can I get an Amen?

Things You Say That Drive twin Moms Crazy

[mrsp419]

The one that has been confusing me the most lately is "I always wanted twins" or "I prayed for twins." I just want to ask "Why?" I love having twins, but it is such a unique experience, and NOTHING like what one would imagine. It is a high risk pregnancy, twice as much work, logistically challenging, and makes it harder to enjoy both babies separately. Unless the person saying this was a twin herself or had twins before or was really close to twins, I can't imagine someone having an accurate background to really wish for twins.

[ashb62]

Feb 21, 2015 17:00:33 GMT -5 mrsp419 said:

The one that has been confusing me the most lately is "I always wanted twins" or "I prayed for twins." I just want to ask "Why?" I love having twins, but it is such a unique experience, and NOTHING like what one would imagine. It is a high risk pregnancy, twice as much work, logistically challenging, and makes it harder to enjoy both babies separately. Unless the person saying this was a twin herself or had twins before or was really close to twins, I can't imagine someone having an accurate background to really wish for twins.

I think people just see the two adorable babies and cute matchy outfits and don't really consider the rest.

Growing up, I always wanted twins, then I had one baby and decided one at a time was plenty. Then God said, "Haha!" Lol

I wouldn't change a thing, but it is really hard.

[julie216]

I'm sure all of you have heard it, but it makes the hair stand up on the back of my neck. "Better you then me" or, the latest one? "I'm sorry"! My response,
"for what"? I think she expected me to laugh.....

[anotherdreamer]

I really hate the, "I always wanted twins!" The way I figured it is, people are in love with the idea of twins and have no clue what the reality of twins is. No one understood why I was so worried about preterm labor, yes I did make it to 38w4d with only one close call, yes it was a pretty uneventful twin pregnancy- but I was lucky. No one really seemed to understand that. Plus, two babies are twice as expensive and twice the work.

When people say they wanted twins, I look at them like they have two heads and ignore them.

[SassyPants150]

I get that people don't really get the whole part of thinking about the high risk pregnancy but dang. I am scared shitless for what's to come over the next 10 weeks. I will be induced at 38w if I make it that far.

[Deleted]

Feb 21, 2015 17:00:33 GMT -5 mrsp419 said:

The one that has been confusing me the most lately is "I always wanted twins" or "I prayed for twins." I just want to ask "Why?" I love having twins, but it is such a unique experience, and NOTHING like what one would imagine. It is a high risk pregnancy, twice as much work, logistically challenging, and makes it harder to enjoy both babies separately. Unless the person saying this was a twin herself or had twins before or was really close to twins, I can't imagine someone having an accurate background to really wish for twins.

The weirdest version of this that I've gotten is someone telling me "I tried for twins five different times but only had one baby each time." I had to literally bite my tongue from snarkily asking how one "tries for twins."

[SassyPants150]

Feb 21, 2015 23:34:40 GMT -5 @twinstars said:

Feb 21, 2015 17:00:33 GMT -5 mrsp419 said:

The one that has been confusing me the most lately is "I always wanted twins" or "I prayed for twins." I just want to ask "Why?" I love having twins, but it is such a unique experience, and NOTHING like what one would imagine. It is a high risk pregnancy, twice as much work, logistically challenging, and makes it harder to enjoy both babies separately. Unless the person saying this was a twin herself or had twins before or was really close to twins, I can't imagine someone having an accurate background to really wish for twins.

The weirdest version of this that I've gotten is someone telling me "I tried for twins five different times but only had one baby each time." I had to literally bite my tongue from snarkily asking how one "tries for twins."

[breezyweezer]

Just have to agree with what PP's have said..I told a friend who is also pregnant (she is two weeks ahead of me) that I was having twins and her response was "I prayed really hard for twins!" It just annoys me so badly! Also, it was like how do I even respond to that? Sorry you only got one in there??? Could you not have just said congrats? Sheesh.

[Deleted]

We bought our coming home outfits for the babies at Old Navy today and the cashier asked if I was buying them for someone and I just responded that I was having twins this summer. Obviously the outfits were for a boy and a girl, so she was freaking out and called over another cashier to tell her-- I thought it was funny and didn't mind too much. Then the other cashier was like, "A boy and a girl! You're done in one shot then, you don't have to worry about having any more!"

I just awkwardly responded that we didn't know how many kids we wanted and grabbed my bags and left. By far my least favorite comment so far.

[chiwifey]

Because I'm not really big yet and it's winter so I'm all bundled up all the time and no one can tell I'm pregnant, I haven't encountered any of these ridiculous comments. Not looking forward to it.

[amshark]

SassyPants150, this blog is perfect. I'm on hospital bed rest right now b/c of PPROM, and I just got a new roommate last week who is also having twins. In her first 2 days here, I heard at least 3 separate people ask her, "Are they natural?" And, these people were hospital staff, who I guess I just assumed would know better.
I wanted to sit up, tear back the curtain and just snap, "It's none of your goddamned business how they were conceived!" I've had a lot of people ask me the thinly veiled, "Oh, do twins run in your family?" but for some reason, the balls out, "natural" approach just really pissed me off.
Seriously, why does everyone think that this is an appropriate question?

[amshark]

As far as the "I always wanted twins" remark - I'm thrilled to be having twins, b/c we had so much trouble conceiving, its very likely this will be my only pregnancy - but I would have much preferred to do it one at a time.

When I was a kid, however, its not that I wanted twins. I just always wished that I'd had my own twin. I blame the short lived 80s tv show, Double Trouble.

[thesportsgal]

Feb 23, 2015 13:42:45 GMT -5 chiwifey said:

Because I'm not really big yet and it's winter so I'm all bundled up all the time and no one can tell I'm pregnant, I haven't encountered any of these ridiculous comments. Not looking forward to it.

Same here.  I didn't have to tell anyone outside of family/friends last time until like, 23 weeks.  Mainly because I don't like the comments that people feel are a free for all towards pregnant women - and I'm sure with the twins, it will be even worse. 

SassyPants150, I am scared shitless too of my next 25 weeks and people don't get that.  I don't think I would have gotten it pre-twin pregnancy either.  People who don't have to do it just get so excited while I am still mourning the loss of an enjoyable 2nd pregnancy. 

[anakah]

Of all the comments I've gotten, the one about being done in one shot with b/g twins was the worst for me. It actually made me not want to tell people we were pregnant with #3 when he came along since I was "ruining" my perfect family.

I don't mind the questions about twins running in my family because I genuinely feel like people are curious if they run in your family.

thesportsgal,not knowing/missing out on a singleton pregnancy was part of the reason I wanted to have another after the twins. It just seemed so easy and enjoyable in comparison.

[Deleted]

Oh, I just remembered one that made me LOL. One of the 10 rotating OBs at my practice I met for the first time for a random appointment, and she was doing a quick ultrasound to check on the babies. She was like, "So... were you trying to have twins?"

Um... how does one do that? I just told her that we weren't trying to have a baby period, let alone two lol. This is also not the first time one of the OBs there has asked me if we were "trying" to get pregnant. I think that is such a weird question, especially for doctors to ask. It's also kind of personal-- no we weren't trying but we also weren't using condoms. Would you also like to know what position we were doing?

[Deleted]

Feb 24, 2015 11:58:21 GMT -5 anakah said:

Of all the comments I've gotten, the one about being done in one shot with b/g twins was the worst for me. It actually made me not want to tell people we were pregnant with #3 when he came along since I was "ruining" my perfect family.

I don't mind the questions about twins running in my family because I genuinely feel like people are curious if they run in your family.

thesportsgal,not knowing/missing out on a singleton pregnancy was part of the reason I wanted to have another after the twins. It just seemed so easy and enjoyable in comparison.

I definitely hate the "complete family" or "done in one shot" comments. From family members and strangers alike. I'm totally up for more after these kiddos are bigger and we're more financially stable. I don't think that's weird at all.

[macchiatto]

LOL yes, the "Are they natural?" type comments and the "Ohh, I always wanted twins" type comments are the ones that annoy me the most. Well that or "Oh, twins would be so easy since they just entertain each other!" Yes. They totally feed and diaper each other, too ...

[macchiatto]

Feb 23, 2015 13:57:21 GMT -5 amshark said:

As far as the "I always wanted twins" remark - I'm thrilled to be having twins, b/c we had so much trouble conceiving, its very likely this will be my only pregnancy - but I would have much preferred to do it one at a time.

When I was a kid, however, its not that I wanted twins. I just always wished that I'd had my own twin. I blame the short lived 80s tv show, Double Trouble.

I'm the same way. I never wanted to have twins (other than maybe when I was really young and just thought it would be cute ... because I wasn't old enough to know better ) but when I was a kid, I really wished I had a twin sister.

[serejane]

I always thought having twins would be pretty cool so that doesn't bother me when people say it.

I also hate the 'oh you must be done then!' Although since we have id girls I also get a lot of 'oh so will you try for a boy?' Uh.......

[tigger815]

Or the "your going to have your hands full"
Really ya don't say?