Sunday Random..

[dragonfly1809]

These boards are a little slow.. How about a random check in to say hi

How is everyone? How's baby? DH/SO?

What's been the most unexpected thing about parenting?

[dragonfly1809]

I'm good. I'm finally starting to heal from the complications from the c-section (no more packing and extra pads YAY!) finally. I'm feeling more confident with this whole baby business too..

Oliver is doing great, though he's a little small. He lost a lot of weight initially because my milk was slow to come in. He dropped more than 10%, and at 4 weeks is still under his birth weight at 7.2... My doctor isn't too concerned because he is gaining at a good pace, lots of wet diapers, pooping as he should...but it worries me that he's so little.

DH goes back to work this week (flies out Tuesday, returns Friday)... um, can I say thank goodness? He's sort of driving me crazy.

I'm happily surprised at my patience with parenting. When I had my daughter 17 years ago I was on my own, zero support from her father, lots of love and support from my mom and dad, but very freight friends had children. I felt very alone then, and though I know I was patient - in my memory I just remember a lot of tears and long nights (how I did this alone boggles my brain now)..
I think I've waited so long to have the chance to parent again that all my experiences, age, and the fact that I'm so settled in every other part of my life (career, home..) makes settling in with Oliver just ...easy.
I wish my parents could be here though, to see how good things are. They've both passed away now. It sucks having no family.

Looking forward to hearing from you ladies.

[taberbtb]

Happy Sunday!!

Things are going not too badly. I struggled a lot the first two weeks adjusting to being home all the time, as well as the usual FTM worries and stresses but I am slowly getting used to the idea as well as getting the hang of bf-ing. I think! Right now our nights are still kind of screwed up, and myself and DH are missing spending time together, but this too shall pass. I actually find myself really wanting to be at that 6w PP mark so we can be intimate again which surprises me. I think it's just my need to feel close to him again.


What has surprised me the most:
My whole life I thought I wanted to be a SAHM, but after two weeks of it I realize I may not be cut out for that. I love DD, but can't wait to get back to work. That may change when I actually have to leave her for the day but I love my job and am missing it.

[taberbtb]

dragonfly1809 glad to hear your recovery is going better! I have always had respect for single moms, but after having a child myself I am absolutely in awe of them. There is no way I could have gotten through the last couple weeks alone, you are incredible mother to have done this alone at such a young age. It's something I never could have done.

[dragonfly1809]

Feb 22, 2015 12:53:57 GMT -5 unringthebell said:

Happy Sunday!
I'm sitting in the car outside the gym with a sleeping toddler while my H works out (I went in to work out first while he was on nap duty).
My son does a "soccer" program in the morning and he's always so tired out he falls asleep before we can get home. So we've decided to just go with it and use it as a work out opportunity.

Hope everyone is having a great weekend.

That dual gym use while your little guy sleeps is a great idea!! And funny

[dragonfly1809]

Feb 22, 2015 11:49:20 GMT -5 taberbtb said:

Happy Sunday!!

Things are going not too badly. I struggled a lot the first two weeks adjusting to being home all the time, as well as the usual FTM worries and stresses but I am slowly getting used to the idea as well as getting the hang of bf-ing. I think! Right now our nights are still kind of screwed up, and myself and DH are missing spending time together, but this too shall pass. I actually find myself really wanting to be at that 6w PP mark so we can be intimate again which surprises me. I think it's just my need to feel close to him again.


What has surprised me the most:
My whole life I thought I wanted to be a SAHM, but after two weeks of it I realize I may not be cut out for that. I love DD, but can't wait to get back to work. That may change when I actually have to leave her for the day but I love my job and am missing it.

I feel like I've worked so hard for so long I'm entirely ready to be a SAHM ..I'm still working a little though, so keeping my foot in the door will keep me sane.
Bring a SAHM has its challenges - loneliness especially.. so I wouldn't feel bad about craving work and adult company.

[dragonfly1809]

Feb 22, 2015 12:42:55 GMT -5 taberbtb said:

dragonfly1809 glad to hear your recovery is going better! I have always had respect for single moms, but after having a child myself I am absolutely in awe of them. There is no way I could have gotten through the last couple weeks alone, you are incredible mother to have done this alone at such a young age. It's something I never could have done.

I was 24 (almost 25) when my daughter was born. I felt ready, had s university degree and a starter job..., but when I look back on it now, compared to where I am now I have no idea how I lived like that. Crazy.

[honeylemon]

Hi everyone!

We're doing well. My kids are 4 and 18 months and I'm due in May with our third and last. My loss was between my first two kids.

Staying at home is difficult sometimes. I've been a SAHM since our first was born and those first few months are always tough. Loneliness can be so debilitating. I also had PPD/PPA with both kids and that just exacerbates things. It's gotten easier and I love staying home but some days are still challenging.

Hang in there mamas!

[ClassyMrsA]

Hi! We are having a pretty good Sunday. DH and the dog ran a 5k this morning and came in 3rd overall and 2nd for racers with dogs! So proud of them!! Lillian and I hung out and tried to stay warm and dry. Then I went to yoga with my mom and actually relaxed for a minute. Tonight, my mom is making dinner for us at her house.

It's a bit chilly and wet here. We have a winter storm warning for tonight and tomorrow. For us that means it'll get down to around freezing and we might get a tiny bit of ice. BUT if there is ice, the city isn't set up to deal with it so the schools might close and DH will get to stay home. So...fx for that.

Lilian still isn't sleeping great, but seems generally happy during the day. She's definitely more active these days and interested in everything. It's exhausting, but mostly fun keeping her entertained. We do a lot more out of the house every day.

I'm surprised by how bold it's made me. I tend to be more quiet and shy, but now I do what I need to do. So, if Lillian needs to eat or nap and MIL tries to keep her, I just walk over and say, "She needs ______ now," and I take her without waiting for a reply. I ask for things I need more readily, too. I'm also having a lot more strong feelings about how I want to deal with conflicting ideas on how we should raise her from DH's side. I was feeling more compromisy, but now I am not.

[ClassyMrsA]

Also, about the SAHM thing:

I was surprised that I was jealous of DH going to work in the beginning. But, now that she does more and we can get out more I don't want to go back. I don't have a choice and will have to go back in August, though.

For the loneliness, that first part when you can't really go out much is rough. But, once you're comfortable and able to go out, do. I go to the library, to Target, the Walgreens, consignment stores, etc by myself with her just to get out. I also joined a meet-up group for moms with babies born in 2014. They are very active and we do things with them sometimes. Like, this week we are doing story time and a couple of food related things with them. On Thursdays, we do a swim class for 2-5 month olds. It helps me stay sane and the days go by faster.

[mmheartspb]

I'm having the worst couple days in a long time. 6 week growth spurt. She cries constantly, eats sporadically, sleeps a lot. There is no schedule. It is freezing here so I can't go anywhere to get away. She decided she won't take a bottle anymore. Now I have family breathing down my neck to constantly come visit-I feel selfish to say I just want a normal weekend with my little family alone without a ton of visitors. Ever since she was born we literally have a million ppl coming over. This rant is probably just due to lack of sleep. To top it off I'm only pumping 2 Oz at a time instead of 4 which is stressing be out.

I seriously want to break down and cry

[ksyknelvr73]

I appreciate you posting something to break it up a bit


How is everyone? How's baby? DH/SO? I'm mostly good. I'm up for this promotion at work and tomorrow will mark FOUR weeks since my interview and I'm getting incredibly frustrated at how long this is taking. I just need to know! The baby is great and the toddler is great. Both just had well checks this morning - for Noah's 4 year he is 42 lbs and 41.5 inches, and for Lucas's 9 month he is 22 lb 15 oz and 30 inches. Both are healthy and growing! DH is good, his birthday is actually tomorrow so I am excited to give him the gifts we got him and go out to dinner ALONE! He is a baseball coach and so we're getting in the swing of things which means I get to be a single parent for a few months.

What's been the most unexpected thing about parenting?
Honestly, I had WAY more of a shock with DS1 than with DS2. The whole lack of spontaneity with everything and the fact that I couldn't just take a nap when I wanted or go to a movie was a huge adjustment for me. Even though we had been trying for him, and I had a loss before him, it was still almost like I didn't believe just HOW MUCH was going to change, if that makes sense.

On the flip side though, I felt really detached through both of my successful pregnancies (for fear of something happening) and once they were both here, the amount of love I have for them is just unlike anything I have ever felt in my whole life. I had people tell me that all the time and I just didn't believe them. I also really worried about loving #2 as much as #1 and that has not been an issue AT ALL.

To me, going from 1 to 2 kids was way easier than I anticipated - I expected it to be really hard but I am so glad it wasn't.

[mmheartspb]

unringthebell than you *hugs*

[taberbtb]

ClassyMrsA I am definitely experiencing a bit of jealousy towards MH. I try not to be but it kind of feels like I am the only one who's life had to change which I know isn't fair because he tries so hard to do what he can to help out and I know I should be happy that I am the one B needs right now.

mmheartspb I agree with others if what you need is some time or the weekend with YH and Olivia just tell people that. I have never been one to share my feelings with others but life with a newborn has changed me almost to the point of over sharing, but you know what? It has helped me tremendously. Nobody knows what you need or how to help you unless you tell them, so don't feel bad saying no. Especially if you are having a hard time with this growth spurt, look after yourself and your family first. (((Hugs)))

ksyknelvr73 that's exactly how I feel right now. We wanted B so much, and now I think I love her so much and wouldn't trade her for anything but clearly I did not think this through enough before hand. The change is definitely much bigger than I was expecting. Enjoy your dinner!

[dragonfly1809]

Feb 22, 2015 21:27:43 GMT -5 mmheartspb said:

I'm having the worst couple days in a long time. 6 week growth spurt. She cries constantly, eats sporadically, sleeps a lot. There is no schedule. It is freezing here so I can't go anywhere to get away. She decided she won't take a bottle anymore. Now I have family breathing down my neck to constantly come visit-I feel selfish to say I just want a normal weekend with my little family alone without a ton of visitors. Ever since she was born we literally have a million ppl coming over. This rant is probably just due to lack of sleep. To top it off I'm only pumping 2 Oz at a time instead of 4 which is stressing be out.

I seriously want to break down and cry

I'm sorry you've had it rough mmheartspb ... I think we're all bound to have days/weeks like this. The winter weather sure doesn't help.

I've never understood the people/family who don't realize that a new baby and company don't mix. It's great people want to come see the baby but give it some time .. These first weeks are tough enough without having to entertain. I've been pretty strict with who can come over and how long they can stay. I need some time to heal!

Anyway... Hang in there. You're doing it. Big hug.

[mmheartspb]

Thank you ladies. Hopefully today is better.