CET & CAR - both 30, married Aug, 2013, together 12+ yrs.
TTC #1: CAR carrying IUI #1 & 2 - Clomid, trigger = BFN IUI #3 - Switched to Gonal 150iu. Overstim led to 'surprise' IVF. Retrieved 21, 14 mature, 13 fertilized, all 13 made it to day 5, 9 PGS normal. Transferred 1 AA hatched blast 5/1/15 Baby Girl M born 1-21-16
CET & CAR - both 30, married Aug, 2013, together 12+ yrs.
TTC #1: CAR carrying IUI #1 & 2 - Clomid, trigger = BFN IUI #3 - Switched to Gonal 150iu. Overstim led to 'surprise' IVF. Retrieved 21, 14 mature, 13 fertilized, all 13 made it to day 5, 9 PGS normal. Transferred 1 AA hatched blast 5/1/15 Baby Girl M born 1-21-16
My update- apparently I'm slow! Cd13- had u/s, 1 follie at 17mm, not quite there, I go back wed for another scan. IUI likely Friday or Saturday! Ugh- I hate when I'm not in the 'normal' range- Google is not my friend!
My RE says that slow, steadily growing follies are best.
Nothing terribly new on the pre-TTC front here, except that Sweetie finishes her big test on Thursday and then I can start bugging her about babies more. :-) Although, for the past two days, the gravity of having kids has been hitting me a little harder and it seems like we should probably wait another 10 years. (Of course, I saw a baby today at a meeting and I wanted to steal it and take it home. When not in the presence of infants, where I am in my hormone cycle seems to have a lot to do with the degree of baby-craziness I am experiencing.) I also found out that we get NO paid maternity leave. We get 12 annual days to use as we wish (sick time, personal day, vacation, etc) and we can collect unused ones from year to year, but that's it. 12 days plus any days I manage to carry forward from this year. Which means that we should aim to give birth in the late spring.... But that would mean we could try for like 4 months, then we'd have to stop and wait a whole year. I think all the stopping and starting would make me feel crazy. Plus the waiting. Ugh. So as I drove home this afternoon, I seriously considered changing professions to find something that would support our family more. Sigh. Sometimes I hate the US.
Favorite movie of 2014? I loved Captain America: The Winter Soldier and I loved Big Hero Six. I didn't like Theory of Everything, but the acting was really good.
I'm so excited that there are going to be some brand new squishy babies for some of us so soon!!! :-)
My update- apparently I'm slow! Cd13- had u/s, 1 follie at 17mm, not quite there, I go back wed for another scan. IUI likely Friday or Saturday! Ugh- I hate when I'm not in the 'normal' range- Google is not my friend!
My RE says that slow, steadily growing follies are best.
Olivia is nearly 7 months. She's continuing to explore food through BLW and able to scoot on her belly on the hardwood floor. Thankfully she can't get around yet on the carpet. I'm not ready for her to be mobile! So appreciative that the reflux is gone and she is the happy kid I always knew she was.
We made our appt with the RE to start the process for #2. It's not till the end of March but it's there on the calendar! I am in the process of trying to get more life insurance and it is becoming tedious after 5 months. I wish I had bought a larger policy 10 years ago. I am having no luck losing weight and am getting frustrated. I'm also tired constantly (I don't know how anyone with small children is not constantly sleep deprived) and that does not help with my resolve to get anything done. Still trying to figure out a way for M to be a SAHM. She has a meeting with her supervisor tomorrow at work. She works for a small family run business which is turning out to be a challenge for the few benefits that it does have.
QOTW: I'm not really a movie fan and haven't been to the theater since the last Harry Potter movie came out.
Hi Everyone - I'm always late to the monday check-ins - boo. Its hard to catch up - but hope everyone is doing well.
Things are great and crappy here. M is amazing and started stringing words together so its hilarious. She's such an amazing little kid - and she keeps moving further and further from being a baby. Which leads to my TTC frustrations. Without getting to far into it - for people who have done unmedicated IUI's - what kind of monitoring do you do- and when in your cycle? Like when is baseline - is it just b/w or u/s too? I feel like I didn't get it all laid out with the RE and now we are there and the nurses calling me back seem unhelpful. Which is just not what I need right now.
I'm also freaking out cuz we have a family trip planned in April, which now lines up with fertile week. And then I have work travel in May which seems to also line up - unless something shifts. So I'm like great, I have this cycle and then I'm off til June? I just...ugh.
QOTW:I don't think I saw any movies in 2014. Certainly not in theaters.
Post by kevinandjesse on Feb 24, 2015 10:54:54 GMT -5
We have our a/s schedule for next Wednesday!!!! We are at 19 weeks+2days. I'm so excited to find out if we are expecting a little boy or little girl the days just seem to be crawling by! Everyone is getting little boy vibes (they have since the 8 week mark). It's funny, for years I've dreamt of having a little boy and then a little girl... I really wanted to have a boy first... but now that the pregnancy is progressing and we will soon (hopefully) find out, I honestly am so excited to be a first time father I could care less about the gender!!! Just bring my baby to me safe and sound and I'll be over the moon Aside from that, things are going well our surrogate is really starting to show, so that's exciting!
Love sharing this exciting time in all our lives together! This board is great!
Hi Everyone - I'm always late to the monday check-ins - boo. Its hard to catch up - but hope everyone is doing well.
Things are great and crappy here. M is amazing and started stringing words together so its hilarious. She's such an amazing little kid - and she keeps moving further and further from being a baby. Which leads to my TTC frustrations. Without getting to far into it - for people who have done unmedicated IUI's - what kind of monitoring do you do- and when in your cycle? Like when is baseline - is it just b/w or u/s too? I feel like I didn't get it all laid out with the RE and now we are there and the nurses calling me back seem unhelpful. Which is just not what I need right now.
I'm also freaking out cuz we have a family trip planned in April, which now lines up with fertile week. And then I have work travel in May which seems to also line up - unless something shifts. So I'm like great, I have this cycle and then I'm off til June? I just...ugh.
QOTW:I don't think I saw any movies in 2014. Certainly not in theaters.
We did CD3 bloodwork then went in again around CD 12 or so. We went in for several visits for u/s and b/w to check her surge, then when she was ovulating and then to confirm she had ovulated. We did this for 2 medicated cycles of Clomid but no trigger. So we really needed the timing to be right. If your cycles are pretty regular you can use this month as a guide to what it may look like next month. The timing of this stuff is so stressful. I remember a month when we had to cancel due to being OOT. Let's hope that this one works and you don't need to stress over future timing!
Hi Everyone - I'm always late to the monday check-ins - boo. Its hard to catch up - but hope everyone is doing well.
Things are great and crappy here. M is amazing and started stringing words together so its hilarious. She's such an amazing little kid - and she keeps moving further and further from being a baby. Which leads to my TTC frustrations. Without getting to far into it - for people who have done unmedicated IUI's - what kind of monitoring do you do- and when in your cycle? Like when is baseline - is it just b/w or u/s too? I feel like I didn't get it all laid out with the RE and now we are there and the nurses calling me back seem unhelpful. Which is just not what I need right now.
I'm also freaking out cuz we have a family trip planned in April, which now lines up with fertile week. And then I have work travel in May which seems to also line up - unless something shifts. So I'm like great, I have this cycle and then I'm off til June? I just...ugh.
QOTW:I don't think I saw any movies in 2014. Certainly not in theaters.
We did CD3 bloodwork then went in again around CD 12 or so. We went in for several visits for u/s and b/w to check her surge, then when she was ovulating and then to confirm she had ovulated. We did this for 2 medicated cycles of Clomid but no trigger. So we really needed the timing to be right. If your cycles are pretty regular you can use this month as a guide to what it may look like next month. The timing of this stuff is so stressful. I remember a month when we had to cancel due to being OOT. Let's hope that this one works and you don't need to stress over future timing!
So I guess I need to call and demand some things. Timing is the main reason we moved over to them.
@stings I did med free but also no monitoring through the RE. Only monitoring I got was the month before the IUI in which they did an u/s to check my egg quality and a HSG. After that med free and monitor free. I was to call once I got a positive on my OPK (using second urine of the morning) and then inseminated the next day.
Post by 2mrsks (mrs&mrsk) on Feb 24, 2015 11:48:56 GMT -5
Our monitoring was a lot (same as if we used med) but it was because the particular dr "liked" to. Us&bw. We felt like we Didn't know what was going on the whole month but learned as we went. Honestly if it didn't work the first time I was leaning towards a month or 2 off anyway -- getting up early for all those appts and lying to work was stressful!
Thanks, amberreva, we've been doing them that way for 6 months with midwives. I moved here specifically to be able to stop!
2mrsks (mrs&mrsk), Did it start very early in the cycle? I know this doctor said we can have as much or as little as we want - so I figure we need a baseline.
I'm waiting for her to call me back...always waiting.
@strings, I'm assuming they did not give you a calander to follow? We worked with the same RE for years and at those planning meetings everything is so abstract and then when it comes time to do something, I'm always like, "Wait what are we suppposed to be doing and when are we doing it?" lol
Be in constant contact with your RE's office. If you feel like they are not responsive that may be something that could become an issue down the road if you decide to up the anity and go with medicated or IVF. You want an RE office who doesn't care if you call 3 times/day. This is your first time going through this, so lots of questions and confusion is to be expected.
Hello everyone, I'm Callie, and I'm 25+6 days pregnant as of today. Not too many milestones to report--I've a nice set of angry stretch marks growing daily on my belly. I slather coconut oil on religiously, but I know they're probably hereditary and not really going anywhere. On the homefront, we're trying to decide whether or not to offer our house as a wedding shower venue in mid-July for my wife's sister. The baby will be about 6 weeks old at the time of the shower. I've been totally against it, but I'm trying to be generous as well. I'm guessing most of you who've had babies would say find another location! We've had angry fight about it because both of her sisters will stay with us, one has a 2 year old daughter, and our house is small (1400 sq ft). I'd love any input (positive or negative) if you're up for it!
Although, for the past two days, the gravity of having kids has been hitting me a little harder and it seems like we should probably wait another 10 years. (Of course, I saw a baby today at a meeting and I wanted to steal it and take it home. When not in the presence of infants, where I am in my hormone cycle seems to have a lot to do with the degree of baby-craziness I am experiencing.) I also found out that we get NO paid maternity leave. We get 12 annual days to use as we wish (sick time, personal day, vacation, etc) and we can collect unused ones from year to year, but that's it. 12 days plus any days I manage to carry forward from this year. Which means that we should aim to give birth in the late spring.... But that would mean we could try for like 4 months, then we'd have to stop and wait a whole year. I think all the stopping and starting would make me feel crazy.
I have been having a financial panic about having kids as well. The interesting thing is that I am not the money one, B is. I have 15 paid days, per year, but they will be taken with FMLA. So, us trying is very will likely be ruled by the calendar. I don't want to give birth in Jan, because I will have no available time off for the rest of the year. I hate that it even has to be a consideration. We meet with the RE in March, so as much as I want to have a baby ASAP, it really would work best if we wait at least a few months. But the reality is that it could take a long time to actually get pregnant, so I don't want to wait.
@strings, I'm assuming they did not give you a calander to follow? We worked with the same RE for years and at those planning meetings everything is so abstract and then when it comes time to do something, I'm always like, "Wait what are we suppposed to be doing and when are we doing it?" lol
Be in constant contact with your RE's office. If you feel like they are not responsive that may be something that could become an issue down the road if you decide to up the anity and go with medicated or IVF. You want an RE office who doesn't care if you call 3 times/day. This is your first time going through this, so lots of questions and confusion is to be expected.
I believe I'm using the same office that you did (and B&C, right?). So no, I got no calendar. I did call back and the Dr. is supposed to be calling me back to go over it again. No one has seemed to mind that I call and ask - I just wish everything seemed better in line so I didnt have to call in the first place (besides that initial, its day 1 call).
Although, for the past two days, the gravity of having kids has been hitting me a little harder and it seems like we should probably wait another 10 years. (Of course, I saw a baby today at a meeting and I wanted to steal it and take it home. When not in the presence of infants, where I am in my hormone cycle seems to have a lot to do with the degree of baby-craziness I am experiencing.) I also found out that we get NO paid maternity leave. We get 12 annual days to use as we wish (sick time, personal day, vacation, etc) and we can collect unused ones from year to year, but that's it. 12 days plus any days I manage to carry forward from this year. Which means that we should aim to give birth in the late spring.... But that would mean we could try for like 4 months, then we'd have to stop and wait a whole year. I think all the stopping and starting would make me feel crazy.
I have been having a financial panic about having kids as well. The interesting thing is that I am not the money one, B is. I have 15 paid days, per year, but they will be taken with FMLA. So, us trying is very will likely be ruled by the calendar. I don't want to give birth in Jan, because I will have no available time off for the rest of the year. I hate that it even has to be a consideration. We meet with the RE in March, so as much as I want to have a baby ASAP, it really would work best if we wait at least a few months. But the reality is that it could take a long time to actually get pregnant, so I don't want to wait.
This. There is no perfect time and you have no control over it. We got pregnant with #1 way faster than we imagined, and panicked. Now #2 is taking a while, and we are actually like, okay well that may spread out the day care costs some. Time off sucks. We keep trying to plan vacations for this year, so if this next cycle doesnt work - i likely won't give birth this year, so we can plan them. If I do - no vacations cuz we have to hoard the time to use as maternity. With M we both took some unpaid time. Do you get short term disability? That is how we covered some pay under FMLA - but only applies to the parent actually giving birth. But it doesn't apply in all situations. It totally sucks.
Post by bmorecharming on Feb 24, 2015 13:28:38 GMT -5
2mrsks (mrs&mrsk), hang in there! I have a feeling that when this baby comes you won't even remember how impatient you're feeling
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I have to admit that I sometimes get lost in all of the TTC acronyms, though I do know most!
My week is going... I had to drive in a blizzard on Saturday to deliver a cake for my cousin's 16th birthday, but other than that, it was a nice weekend with my dad's side of the family and I needed it because life has been a bit hard. Recently my mom has been having some pretty serious paranoid delusions and I'm not dealing well. I'm very close to my mom and it feels like she's slipping away from me... I don't think she will be able to live on her own for much longer. She's 72, but doesn't look it or act it and has been in pretty excellent health her whole life. It's probably the most helpless I've ever felt in my life.
In happier news, it's almost March which means it's almost NOT winter anymore!
I have been having a financial panic about having kids as well. The interesting thing is that I am not the money one, B is. I have 15 paid days, per year, but they will be taken with FMLA. So, us trying is very will likely be ruled by the calendar. I don't want to give birth in Jan, because I will have no available time off for the rest of the year. I hate that it even has to be a consideration. We meet with the RE in March, so as much as I want to have a baby ASAP, it really would work best if we wait at least a few months. But the reality is that it could take a long time to actually get pregnant, so I don't want to wait.
This. There is no perfect time and you have no control over it. We got pregnant with #1 way faster than we imagined, and panicked. Now #2 is taking a while, and we are actually like, okay well that may spread out the day care costs some. Time off sucks. We keep trying to plan vacations for this year, so if this next cycle doesnt work - i likely won't give birth this year, so we can plan them. If I do - no vacations cuz we have to hoard the time to use as maternity. With M we both took some unpaid time. Do you get short term disability? That is how we covered some pay under FMLA - but only applies to the parent actually giving birth. But it doesn't apply in all situations. It totally sucks.
I do have STD which will help, it is only 60%, but that is certainly better than no income! I'm salary, so my boss is pretty good about letting me adjust for appointments, but I think that it would be hard to not miss work with a newborn at home. I have more flexibility than B does, but it is all overwhelmingly scary! She is calm, and doesn't think about all the what-ifs that I do.
@strings, Are you? Well if that's the case then I take back any suggestion to leave them. They gave me 2 babies so I have nothing but praise for them! The 2 nurses are great. I like one better than the other but they both do their job and do it well.
@strings, Are you? Well if that's the case then I take back any suggestion to leave them. They gave me 2 babies so I have nothing but praise for them! The 2 nurses are great. I like one better than the other but they both do their job and do it well.
B & C recommended the one she used - and I thought you were part of that thread (or was it a PM?). I agree, so far they've seemed great. Just aggravating right now trying to get started. And I wouldn't go through the hassle of changing again anyway unless they did something really bad. What a PITA.
Hope you get it all sorted Stringy. Whenever I'm feeling frustrated I just remind them this is my first time doing X. Usually they slow down, step back and will explain to me whats happening etc. I had to make my nurse do that this week!
@strings, the timing stuff SUCKS. A LOT. I feel like timing and lack thereof is at least 50% of the reason we moved to IVF. I was being monitored on medicated cycles much in the way that karlamo described... I went in at CD3, started meds that day, when back on CD12 or CD13 for an u/s and then sometimes back for another u/s after that. I was told to trigger on a certain day, and then I had the IUI 36 hours(ish) post trigger. I never felt confident on a single IUI cycle, and I never got pregnant. With the crazy amount of money we were spending on IUIs and the relatively low success rate of any single IUI being successful, I lost patience pretty quickly. Anyway, I know a lot of people can relate to this frustration, but it doesn't make it any easier when you are going through it. Sending you support! I thinking calling the RE and clearly articulating your frustrations and what you want from them is a really good idea. I hope you don't have to worry about an April of May cycle!!!
Also, regarding the talk about parental leave... The United States makes me soooo angry on this topic. We are so woefully behind! At my job, I get 2 weeks of paid time from the company, then I have to use any banked PTO that I have, then once that is exhausted I can use FMLA and get 60% of my pay for another 4-6 weeks. Since I am the sole financial earner, we could not survive on 60% of my pay no matter how much we saved in advance. It just wasn't doable. So, I took a 7 week leave that was 100% paid (5 of those weeks were my vacation time that I saved) and then I went back to work. It was really hard going back to week 7 weeks post partum, but it was what I had to do to support my family. My wife's old salary when she was still working was less than 50% of mine, so really, my income is a necessity and there aren't really any other options for us. I am OK with that. I will likely have to do the same thing for baby #2 and take another short leave. It totally stinks, but "it is what it is..." -- that's my take on it anyway. Totally understand and respect that other folks might feel differently.
kh826, any chance your company participates in Afla(e)c? That's how we got some of her unpaid leave paid for. It takes a year before you can use it but I know you want more rugrats so maybe it could be used for #3, #4, #5,#6...lol
Otherwise we are in the same boat. I'm self employed so my "boss" doesn't offer paid leave. We are saving fools over here....after I get my new bathroom which is getting started tomorrow
Post by 2mrsks (mrs&mrsk) on Feb 24, 2015 15:39:13 GMT -5
We ended up having me just take my 6 weeks (fully paid) and Dw is going to take 12 wk fmla (unpaid) after. Planning for mil &sil to watch Lo after that unless it's too hard for Dw to go back to work... Tbd. But I really want her to so we can save and move eventually.
kh826, any chance your company participates in Afla(e)c? That's how we got some of her unpaid leave paid for. It takes a year before you can use it but I know you want more rugrats so maybe it could be used for #3, #4, #5,#6...lol
Otherwise we are in the same boat. I'm self employed so my "boss" doesn't offer paid leave. We are saving fools over here....after I get my new bathroom which is getting started tomorrow
No, unfortunately, they do not. I looked into many different options, and 7 weeks was all I could finagle at full pay. The real kicker is that our parent company offers a 16 week paid leave for employees who have been at the company for more than 5 years (12 weeks for 1-5 yrs of service). I have been here for more than 5 years. However, our company has not adopted our parent company's benefits and/or HR policies. We are still independently operated, and we haven't been onboarded as employees of the parent company... so, I am not eligible for that. Which is incredibly irritating.
Also, I would like 3 children, NOT 6! LOL
Although J wants 4 and seems to think we will have 4. Oy!
kh826, any chance your company participates in Afla(e)c? That's how we got some of her unpaid leave paid for. It takes a year before you can use it but I know you want more rugrats so maybe it could be used for #3, #4, #5,#6...lol
Otherwise we are in the same boat. I'm self employed so my "boss" doesn't offer paid leave. We are saving fools over here....after I get my new bathroom which is getting started tomorrow
No, unfortunately, they do not. I looked into many different options, and 7 weeks was all I could finagle at full pay. The real kicker is that our parent company offers a 16 week paid leave for employees who have been at the company for more than 5 years (12 weeks for 1-5 yrs of service). I have been here for more than 5 years. However, our company has not adopted our parent company's benefits and/or HR policies. We are still independently operated, and we haven't been onboarded as employees of the parent company... so, I am not eligible for that. Which is incredibly irritating.
Also, I would like 3 children, NOT 6! LOL
Although J wants 4 and seems to think we will have 4. Oy!
Post by wittyandwaiting on Feb 24, 2015 19:19:37 GMT -5
Stringy: we've done unmedicated it looked like this... CD3 - bloodwork and ultrasound (looking for antral follicles or any cysts since I have a history) CD 10 bloodwork and ultrasound (follicle check up, monitoring estrogen) CD 12 to ? bloodwork and ultrasound (follicle size, monitoring estrogen, checking for LH surge)
ETA, I don't know why that face is showing up when all I typed was a question mark.
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