A lady from church asked me to babysit today during my sons nap for 2 hours, her one year old. I so do not want to. I know that is kind of selfish, but I don't. I have babysat for her once before so it is not like I am a total jerk here, any other non nap time and I would be fine.
I am over thinking things and I don't want to leave her hanging if she has some super important thing, but I don't know the last time I babysat it wasn't. I am tempted to say " that is a bad time for me, can you ask around if someone else can. If you are in a bind and can't find someone else I will."
Am I being a selfish jerk who cherishes naps too much and I should suck it up? Do you like the back up idea, or would you just say no?
I always tell people to say "No" if they really want to say "no" -- but in actuality, I would probably go with the back up route you mentioned.....I'm really bad at saying No myself!!
I have definitely said "that is a bad time for me..." and I think that's fine. I agree that you do not want to leave her in a bind, so do make sure it's clear that you'll do it if she doesn't have another option. Or if you know her, and you don't think she does have too many options, then I'd just do it.
Post by cinnasugar on Feb 23, 2015 21:27:53 GMT -5
Depends. Is she dropping her kid off at your house (so your DS can still sleep during his nap)? And, If she was someone I could count on to babysit my kid (or kids in your case) if I were in a bind, I'd do it as long as I didn't have something else pressing. We have some friends that we trade babysitting with, and while I just don't like babysitting them all that much, I do keep in mind that they will return the favor. A coworker of mine doesn't have family in town and I've helped her out a few times, but she has also repaid the favor. If I didn't think she would do that, I probably wouldn't do it.
Thanks for all the input. I told her that I would be a back up if she couldn't find anyone, and she never texted back. So I didn't baby sit in the end, but I have babysat for her before, and I have never asked her. Hopefully she is not too annoyed, but oh well
Post by auntiemaimee on Feb 23, 2015 22:03:52 GMT -5
If she's annoyed that's her problem. In my opinion she has no reason to be annoyed. She asked, you declined. You are under no obligation to watch her kid. Don't feel bad and don't worry about her. If she is annoyed, that is kind of ridiculous.
If she's annoyed that's her problem. In my opinion she has no reason to be annoyed. She asked, you declined. You are under no obligation to watch her kid. Don't feel bad and don't worry about her. If she is annoyed, that is kind of ridiculous.
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