MBF 2/23/15

[Liv]

Can we do this today? 

[Liv]

The dog was up licking pretty much every hour last night. This on its own wouldn't be so bad... But it drives my husband up a wall. He'll sit bolt upright and then loudly whisper at the dog to stop, which inevitably wakes me AND the baby up in the next room.

[lucanjo14]

DH gets absolutely nothing done when I am at work. Dishes will be piled up in the sink and bottles unwashed. He leaves his clothes and shoes all over the floor in our room and then I have to go around and pick up after him. I came home last night and washed all the bottles at midnight after working for 12 hours. Walked upstairs and his clothes were all over our room.
I'm glad the kids are fed and safe but you can't take a few minutes to pick up after they've gone to bed?

[bullybutt]

Natalie is sick again. She had a low grade fever Saturday night which I thought was teething, but she was on fire all last night even with Tylenol. I am taking her in this afternoon to get checked out, but that poor girl can not catch a break. UTIs, ring worm, ear infection, the flu....

[mamanorris]

I mentioned last week that the inlaws didn't call DS1 on his birthday. Wellllllll my bsc mil called DH on Thursday to tell him they weren't coming to his birthday party. She is mad because we had BIL and his family over on DS's actual birthday. They don't get along so we have to 2 celebrations for everything. Last year she was mad because we invited her over for dinner on DS's birthday and asked them to sit out the birthday party. It was a bounce house party and we thought BIL's kids would enjoy more than the inlaws. She sent us a crazy letter saying that she was "pee-owed" at us. Lol I'm done with them. She cannot come in and out of the kids lifes at will. I'm so sad because my parent are toxic and crazy too. So my poor babies don't have any normal grandparents. I'm about to start trolling retirement communities to find sane grandparents for them.

[bullybutt]

Also, I guess I have periods like a stuck pig. I've been using soft cups and they are getting full almost after just a couple hours. It happens for a couple days and then it's over but JFC, it looks like a slaughter house in my toilet. TMI? lol

[bullybutt]

Feb 23, 2015 9:44:54 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

I mentioned last week that the inlaws didn't call DS1 on his birthday. Wellllllll my bsc mil called DH on Thursday to tell him they weren't coming to his birthday party. She is mad because we had BIL and his family over on DS's actual birthday. They don't get along so we have to 2 celebrations for everything. Last year she was mad because we invited her over for dinner on DS's birthday and asked them to sit out the birthday party. It was a bounce house party and we thought BIL's kids would enjoy more than the inlaws. She sent us a crazy letter saying that she was "pee-owed" at us. Lol I'm done with them. She cannot come in and out of the kids lifes at will. I'm so sad because my parent are toxic and crazy too. So my poor babies don't have any normal grandparents. I'm about to start trolling retirement communities to find sane grandparents for them.

DED at the bolded and trolling for new grandparents!

I'm sorry you have a shitty set for your baby.  Its better to not have that toxicity in your life though

[Lola]

Feb 23, 2015 9:35:01 GMT -5 lucanjo14 said:

DH gets absolutely nothing done when I am at work. Dishes will be piled up in the sink and bottles unwashed. He leaves his clothes and shoes all over the floor in our room and then I have to go around and pick up after him. I came home last night and washed all the bottles at midnight after working for 12 hours. Walked upstairs and his clothes were all over our room.
I'm glad the kids are fed and safe but you can't take a few minutes to pick up after they've gone to bed?

This is my DH too. I try and cut him some slack because he's the one home majority of the time, but it gets so frustrating. 

[Liv]

Feb 23, 2015 9:44:54 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

I mentioned last week that the inlaws didn't call DS1 on his birthday. Wellllllll my bsc mil called DH on Thursday to tell him they weren't coming to his birthday party. She is mad because we had BIL and his family over on DS's actual birthday. They don't get along so we have to 2 celebrations for everything. Last year she was mad because we invited her over for dinner on DS's birthday and asked them to sit out the birthday party. It was a bounce house party and we thought BIL's kids would enjoy more than the inlaws. She sent us a crazy letter saying that she was "pee-owed" at us. Lol I'm done with them. She cannot come in and out of the kids lifes at will. I'm so sad because my parent are toxic and crazy too. So my poor babies don't have any normal grandparents. I'm about to start trolling retirement communities to find sane grandparents for them.

I'm SO sorry. That absolutely sucks. You're being a good mom though-- no grandparents are better than crazy and toxic ones. I hope you meet a sweet little old couple (at a nursing home or in your neighborhood or something!!) that can love your babies like good grandparents should!

[Lola]

My hair dryer broke yesterday. I totally forgot this morning when I went to blow dry my hair this morning and I couldnt find any hair elastics. I dont have time to stop for one on my way home today. Its going to be a spectacular hair week.

[Liv]

Feb 23, 2015 9:44:13 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

Natalie is sick again. She had a low grade fever Saturday night which I thought was teething, but she was on fire all last night even with Tylenol. I am taking her in this afternoon to get checked out, but that poor girl can not catch a break. UTIs, ring worm, ear infection, the flu....

Poor baby! It's so hard when LOs are sick because there's no way to explain what's happening or that you're trying to help.

[Liv]

Feb 23, 2015 9:46:33 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

Also, I guess I have periods like a stuck pig. I've been using soft cups and they are getting full almost after just a couple hours. It happens for a couple days and then it's over but JFC, it looks like a slaughter house in my toilet. TMI? lol

Is a soft cup like a Diva cup? I've been so curious to try these. 

[Lola]

Feb 23, 2015 9:53:01 GMT -5 Liv said:

Feb 23, 2015 9:46:33 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

Also, I guess I have periods like a stuck pig. I've been using soft cups and they are getting full almost after just a couple hours. It happens for a couple days and then it's over but JFC, it looks like a slaughter house in my toilet. TMI? lol

Is a soft cup like a Diva cup? I've been so curious to try these. 

Me toooo! There are a bunch of different ones and I wanted to research them before buying, but I totally forgot about it until you said that. 

And bullybutt, i feel ya on the super heavy bleeding. The same thing has been happening to me post partum. I was hoping after a few months it would settle. 

[bullybutt]

Feb 23, 2015 9:53:01 GMT -5 Liv said:

Feb 23, 2015 9:46:33 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

Also, I guess I have periods like a stuck pig. I've been using soft cups and they are getting full almost after just a couple hours. It happens for a couple days and then it's over but JFC, it looks like a slaughter house in my toilet. TMI? lol

Is a soft cup like a Diva cup? I've been so curious to try these. 

Yes, but these are ones you just toss in the trash afterwards.  My periods are so heavy it's literally "pouring" out of me.  That never happened before #2 (kid, not poop).

I love Soft/Diva cups.  You can't feel them at all and it's easy to use once you get it figured out.  You just have to make sure that you get it inserted ALL the way.  Taking it out can be messy if it "pops" out.  It's like a bomb exploding.

[Deleted]

DH.
Asked if we could have some "alone time" last night. TBH I wasn't even remotely in the mood and haven't been for months but figured it might get him to pay some attention to me for once. Well, we wanted to wait til everyone else was asleep (fair enough) so I put netflix on while he played his game. Fastforward a couple of hours to me nodding off and he decided to start pawing at me then was surprised when I wasn't interested. Then he got in a mood and ranted at me for apparently only being interested in sex and getting mad when it doesn't happen. Riiiiight. I have felt the polar opposite of sexy for months and am perfectly happy just having a cuddle and going to sleep but that never happens either because he can't play xbox and cuddle (guess which one he chooses EVERY SINGLE TIME?). Last time we had sex (I say "we", I mean him) I was pretty much asleep because it was 3am and didn't have the energy to argue. I wasn't against it but wasn't exactly up for it, either and slept through almost the whole thing. He also selectively forgot the last few times where he got his and I put up with it then cried after but hey-ho. AT LEAST I DON'T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH IT FOR LONG. There, I said it.


Edit - TL;DR DH not showing affection but still wanting sex, getting mad at me for wanting affection.

[Liv]

I have so many FWP bitches today, my apologies in advance to anyone who is actually having real problems... but...

I really want a nose piercing but DH always says he thinks it would look "trashy" on me. I know I could just do it, but I'd prefer my husband not see me and think "trashy" so I don't think I'll ever get one. I have such a cute nose for a nose ring! Such a tragedy.

I had a belly button piercing but I took out the ring once my belly got too big with Junie. I miss it.

[Deleted]

Feb 23, 2015 9:44:54 GMT -5 mamanorris said:

I mentioned last week that the inlaws didn't call DS1 on his birthday. Wellllllll my bsc mil called DH on Thursday to tell him they weren't coming to his birthday party. She is mad because we had BIL and his family over on DS's actual birthday. They don't get along so we have to 2 celebrations for everything. Last year she was mad because we invited her over for dinner on DS's birthday and asked them to sit out the birthday party. It was a bounce house party and we thought BIL's kids would enjoy more than the inlaws. She sent us a crazy letter saying that she was "pee-owed" at us. Lol I'm done with them. She cannot come in and out of the kids lifes at will. I'm so sad because my parent are toxic and crazy too. So my poor babies don't have any normal grandparents. I'm about to start trolling retirement communities to find sane grandparents for them.

Do you have any local adopt-a-senior type schemes?
Can always find yourself a nice replacement grandma through something like that and help your community at the same time, win-win.

[bullybutt]

Feb 23, 2015 10:03:37 GMT -5 Liv said:

I have so many FWP bitches today, my apologies in advance to anyone who is actually having real problems... but...

I really want a nose piercing but DH always says he thinks it would look "trashy" on me. I know I could just do it, but I'd prefer my husband not see me and think "trashy" so I don't think I'll ever get one. I have such a cute nose for a nose ring! Such a tragedy.

I had a belly button piercing but I took out the ring once my belly got too big with Junie. I miss it.

This isn't FFFC!

[Deleted]

Feb 23, 2015 9:46:33 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

Also, I guess I have periods like a stuck pig. I've been using soft cups and they are getting full almost after just a couple hours. It happens for a couple days and then it's over but JFC, it looks like a slaughter house in my toilet. TMI? lol

Omg. So much this. It's ridiculous!

[bullybutt]

I'm laughing at work because I can talk nasties with internet strangers. Such good friends, you are!

[mamanorris]

I have said for years I wanted to put myself up for adult adoption! I didn't know that I could adopt a senior, let the googling begin!!

[lablover13]

I have so many today... it has been a special Monday. Sorry for my rant in advance.

1. After my MOTN pumping session I somehow dropped the bottle while I took off the pumping attachment. I caught it only it was completely upside down. 4-5oz of fresh pumped milk all over the kitchen floor at 330am. Also, I rely on that milk to have enough for DD. I will have to take from me freezer stash for tomorrow's daycare bottles.

2. I woke up 30mins late because I was so tired due to getting no sleep Saturday night because I was up all night with food poisoning. I was on track to get out the door pretty much on time when DD had a diaper explosion that required a full outfit change. We were a solid 15mins late getting out the door.


3. Traffic was a B this morning which resulted in me being even later for work than I already was.
4. I forgot my water bottle, not a huge deal but after the morning I have had it made me irrationally mad (at myself).

Sorry for the novel, I needed to complain.

[Deleted]

Feb 23, 2015 10:18:19 GMT -5 @iheartmyshiba said:

Feb 23, 2015 9:59:12 GMT -5 @darkangel42 said:

DH.
Asked if we could have some "alone time" last night. TBH I wasn't even remotely in the mood and haven't been for months but figured it might get him to pay some attention to me for once. Well, we wanted to wait til everyone else was asleep (fair enough) so I put netflix on while he played his game. Fastforward a couple of hours to me nodding off and he decided to start pawing at me then was surprised when I wasn't interested. Then he got in a mood and ranted at me for apparently only being interested in sex and getting mad when it doesn't happen. Riiiiight. I have felt the polar opposite of sexy for months and am perfectly happy just having a cuddle and going to sleep but that never happens either because he can't play xbox and cuddle (guess which one he chooses EVERY SINGLE TIME?). Last time we had sex (I say "we", I mean him) I was pretty much asleep because it was 3am and didn't have the energy to argue. I wasn't against it but wasn't exactly up for it, either and slept through almost the whole thing. He also selectively forgot the last few times where he got his and I put up with it then cried after but hey-ho. AT LEAST I DON'T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH IT FOR LONG. There, I said it.

Damn girl. Sorry for your man problems. That totally sucks. He always play Xbox from bed? I'd suggest you go get some alone time. Makes me feel better at least for a little bit. Do you have anyone to watch the littles for a night?

The kind of alone time I want involves a long, hot bubble bath, a movie and my 2 favorite men - Ben and Jerry.
DH can stay the hell away from me til he stops being a selfish ass. He's just blamed it on my meds (that I've only been on for a week).



mamanorris, I don't think it's called adopt a senior but there is a thing where you can opt to go visit a specific senior who has no family. You keep an eye on them, make sure they're eating, let them play with your kid/pet so they have someone looking out for them and you get the warm-fuzzies of helping someone out (or in your case, replace BSC blood relatives).

[Liv]

Feb 23, 2015 10:09:36 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

Feb 23, 2015 10:03:37 GMT -5 Liv said:

I have so many FWP bitches today, my apologies in advance to anyone who is actually having real problems... but...

I really want a nose piercing but DH always says he thinks it would look "trashy" on me. I know I could just do it, but I'd prefer my husband not see me and think "trashy" so I don't think I'll ever get one. I have such a cute nose for a nose ring! Such a tragedy.

I had a belly button piercing but I took out the ring once my belly got too big with Junie. I miss it.

This isn't FFFC!

Flame away.

[Liv]

Feb 23, 2015 10:33:17 GMT -5 @zerozeroone said:

I started looking up formula feeding in case DS keeps up the strike. I don't really know the rules or what I'm doing. WTF is up with every website beginning their article with, "The AAP recommends breastfeeding for the first year". Women don't need to be judged by formula articles, just give me the f'ing info!

Any luck with your little guy today? I hope he gets back in the swing of things soon!

[littlemissmarla]

1. I went to sit DD down yesterday and must have turned wrong and fucked my lower back up so bad.. I feel like my back is broke in half. It's horrific and I think I'm pretty sure I have a high tolerance to medications because even the 800mg ibuprofen was only helping for an hour.

2. After I gave DD her bath this morning, got her changed and sat her in the high chair to eat - I gave her a straw sippy cup to play with and start figuring out how to use it. I was cleaning up the bath stuff and go to sit down and feed her.. pick up the cup in her lap and it's totally empty. I see water pooling on the floor, she was completely soaked sitting in water. Complete outfit change and I hateeee changing clothes multiple times a day.

3. TD bank is fucking garbage. For the past 2 months they will not allow my payment to go through to my ToysRus card! January I bill paid on the TD website and it was returned (thinking I hadn't updated the TRU payment address after they switched banks - but it was right). February I paid on the TRU website and it was returned again and TRU says that it's listed that I stopped the payment. WTFFFFFFFF. I'm getting late fees and now I have to wait 15min to speak with someone at TD.


It's not even 12 and I'm done with the day. Sorry these are so trivial though, I feel like a jerk complaining.

[liziz]

lucanjo14, It's totally ok to be pissed that nothing is clean at your house, if your H would have the expectation that you took care of the kids and house if he was at work. Double standards are shitty, but my experience has been that families with SAHMs have a really nicely kept house, and families with SAHDs are a disaster.

lablover13, that's exactly what freezer milk is for, even though it's super sad to lose that much perfectly good milk.

[jnnfrrose6]

Feb 23, 2015 9:58:26 GMT -5 bullybutt said:

Feb 23, 2015 9:53:01 GMT -5 Liv said:

Is a soft cup like a Diva cup? I've been so curious to try these. 

Yes, but these are ones you just toss in the trash afterwards.  My periods are so heavy it's literally "pouring" out of me.  That never happened before #2 (kid, not poop).

I love Soft/Diva cups.  You can't feel them at all and it's easy to use once you get it figured out.  You just have to make sure that you get it inserted ALL the way.  Taking it out can be messy if it "pops" out.  It's like a bomb exploding.

I didn't know there was a disposable option for this. This intrigues me greatly. +1 on the copious amount of blood coming out of me now. I had to go through way too many pairs of underwear this weekend because it's so much heavier than it used to be and apparently I haven't figured that out yet. 

[anotherdreamer]

Feb 23, 2015 10:03:37 GMT -5 Liv said:

I have so many FWP bitches today, my apologies in advance to anyone who is actually having real problems... but...

I really want a nose piercing but DH always says he thinks it would look "trashy" on me. I know I could just do it, but I'd prefer my husband not see me and think "trashy" so I don't think I'll ever get one. I have such a cute nose for a nose ring! Such a tragedy.

I had a belly button piercing but I took out the ring once my belly got too big with Junie. I miss it.

I have a nose stud, I had it done 11 years ago and refuse to take it out (despite how annoying it is during colds). whenever I consider a new tattoo or anything, and I ask DH what he thinks, he just says, "It's your body."

Sorry your DH made you feel that way

[anotherdreamer]

Feb 23, 2015 9:59:12 GMT -5 @darkangel42 said:

DH.
Asked if we could have some "alone time" last night. TBH I wasn't even remotely in the mood and haven't been for months but figured it might get him to pay some attention to me for once. Well, we wanted to wait til everyone else was asleep (fair enough) so I put netflix on while he played his game. Fastforward a couple of hours to me nodding off and he decided to start pawing at me then was surprised when I wasn't interested. Then he got in a mood and ranted at me for apparently only being interested in sex and getting mad when it doesn't happen. Riiiiight. I have felt the polar opposite of sexy for months and am perfectly happy just having a cuddle and going to sleep but that never happens either because he can't play xbox and cuddle (guess which one he chooses EVERY SINGLE TIME?). Last time we had sex (I say "we", I mean him) I was pretty much asleep because it was 3am and didn't have the energy to argue. I wasn't against it but wasn't exactly up for it, either and slept through almost the whole thing. He also selectively forgot the last few times where he got his and I put up with it then cried after but hey-ho. AT LEAST I DON'T HAVE TO PUT UP WITH IT FOR LONG. There, I said it.


Edit - TL;DR DH not showing affection but still wanting sex, getting mad at me for wanting affection.

This is really really shitty of him. And honestly sounds concerning to me. I'm sorry you are dealing with this.