This is such a difficult decision and hubby & I don't agree
Feb 23, 2015 9:59:31 GMT -5
Post by jwinct on Feb 23, 2015 9:59:31 GMT -5
We have to fill out our DCF adoption registration form and the most difficult question on it is what level of legal risk we're willing to take. My husband will not budge from "low legal risk" and I'm willing to accept more risk. The adoption SW who lead our class last week said, straight out, that if don't indicate "high legal risk" on your adoption registration, there's no way you'll be considered for a baby because all babies are high legal risk, even if the mother has had children removed previously. While I'm not dead-set on a baby, I'd like to at least be able to be considered for one.
However, the SW also stated that risk is risk. Even if a child is considered low legal risk, that child could get placed back with his/her birth family. Even if a child is high legal risk and the goal is reunification, sometimes that's not the end result and TPR happens. You just never know.
I feel like if we indicate "low legal risk" (#1 below) on our registration, we are severely reducing our chances of ever getting selected for a placement at all. But then, if hubby reluctantly agrees to select a higher level of risk and then we get a placement and that child ends up getting reunified with the birth family, I fear that he will blame me, even though I'm sure he'd never come out and say it.
I'm planning to talk to our licensing SW about it to see if she can help us mutually come to a decision, but boy I never thought this one question would hang us up so much.
These are the levels of risk, as written on the registration form:
1. Termination has been granted, but termination order has been appealed.
2. Case is filed in court, but hearing is contested, and a series of continuances is expected.
3. You would provide foster care to a child for whom the department plans to file a termination petition with the
expectation you would adopt a child if the child becomes legally free.
However, the SW also stated that risk is risk. Even if a child is considered low legal risk, that child could get placed back with his/her birth family. Even if a child is high legal risk and the goal is reunification, sometimes that's not the end result and TPR happens. You just never know.
I feel like if we indicate "low legal risk" (#1 below) on our registration, we are severely reducing our chances of ever getting selected for a placement at all. But then, if hubby reluctantly agrees to select a higher level of risk and then we get a placement and that child ends up getting reunified with the birth family, I fear that he will blame me, even though I'm sure he'd never come out and say it.
I'm planning to talk to our licensing SW about it to see if she can help us mutually come to a decision, but boy I never thought this one question would hang us up so much.
These are the levels of risk, as written on the registration form:
1. Termination has been granted, but termination order has been appealed.
2. Case is filed in court, but hearing is contested, and a series of continuances is expected.
3. You would provide foster care to a child for whom the department plans to file a termination petition with the
expectation you would adopt a child if the child becomes legally free.