Monday Bitchfest/Randoms/Whatever

[dmoney]

I didn't see a thread for this and I really need to get this off of my chest.   I am due with the first biological grandchild on my husbands side of the family, (His dad is remarried and his new wife's daughter just had a baby a year and a half ago) We told my MIL that my shower was going to be in may (my sister is hosting it to now cause any issues between my in-laws (nasty nasty divorce) and my MIL's response was, well I NEED to take a vacation and it has to be in May, Plus one weekend is X's College gradation (her boyfriends daughter). I might also have some speaking engagements during that month. So if I can be there then I will give you my list if not just have it with out me.

I AM NOT HAVING A SECOND SHOWER WITH JUST YOUR FRIENDS.  Sorry but that is not happening... If you don't want to make sure that you can be there...well that's your own fault, this is your first grandchild and you are making it a priority pretty much to say I'm not going to be there so just have it with out me... But at the same time we know she is going to come back and complain that my sister planned it when she couldn't be there... I just told DH the date today so now his mom has 2 full months to make sure her schedule is clean

[mcp6286]

dmoney I'd say the same thing! If someone doesn't care enough to be at my event, that's their issue not mine and I certainly wouldn't rearrange my schedule to accommodate their back up plan.

[holliberry28]

dmoney, that really is so frustrating! I agree, if she can't make it having been given two months notice, that's on her.

[mrsmonogrammed]

Got so much done for the nursery this weekend! We finally ordered our glider (recliner bc DH hates the look of an ottoman) and picked out the "right" cream for the last wall. We also picked up the trim we'll be replacing in the baby's room and got a ton of outfits for her all hung up in her closet.
Is this what nesting feels like? Because I can't wait to see the rest of my house at the end of this;)

[Deleted]

dmoney ugh that is so annoying! Short of giving her the date this far in advance, what else can you do? If she misses it that's her problem. I have a feeling my MIL is going to invite extra people to my shower at the last minute (like she did to my Thanksgiving dinner) with zero consideration that it's at a restaurant and my mom has to pay for each person.

My random/bitch is that my baby has too much clothes already! I've been shopping the sales and stocking up, but my mom (first time grandma) went and bought the baby an entire wardrobe. She is beyond excited for this baby and I'm so grateful for her generosity. But I was putting everything away and I've run out of closet space. That's not even including all the clothes my sister bought that she will be bringing when she comes down for my shower. And I am having TWO showers, so I know I'm getting even more clothes! I know this a major first-world problem, but I'm kind of bummed that I can't shop for anymore baby clothes - I still have 3 months to go!

[redlipz]

Well here goes, in my family we plan surprise baby showers for all babies. This is my third and I told my mom I didn't want one and that I would just organize something for family to meet the baby once it's born but I I'm pretty sure one day I'll walk into a surprise party. I'm doing everything a lot different this time around and even though I know my family will use any excuse to have a party and won't think it's out of the norm to have another shower this time around I just don't really want nor do I need one. Do I just go with the flow or what??

Ps. They're not all out showers, I guess sprinkles or whatever you want to call it.

[belle0720]

dmoney Same thing happened with my MIL. She wanted me to change my shower date to late May because she wants to go to Italy from the end of March through May. Sorry MIL, but no one is delaying my shower because you want to go on vacation for 2 months right before our baby is due. It's hard enough to coordinate a date around other birthdays and showers (especially with one of my best friends being due in May)--trying to block out 6-8 weeks for your vacation just isn't feasible.

I knew she wouldn't end up really going because it would mean not only missing my shower but also missing SIL's son's 1st birthday. We stuck to an April date (although I did change it because of SIL's son's birthday party) and she's not going to Italy anymore.

[dmoney]

Feb 23, 2015 14:17:00 GMT -5 belle0720 said:

dmoney Same thing happened with my MIL. She wanted me to change my shower date to late May because she wants to go to Italy from the end of March through May. Sorry MIL, but no one is delaying my shower because you want to go on vacation for 2 months right before our baby is due. It's hard enough to coordinate a date around other birthdays and showers (especially with one of my best friends being due in May)--trying to block out 6-8 weeks for your vacation just isn't feasible.

I knew she wouldn't end up really going because it would mean not only missing my shower but also missing SIL's son's 1st birthday. We stuck to an April date (although I did change it because of SIL's son's birthday party) and she's not going to Italy anymore.

She tried telling me first that she wouldnt be able to take a vacation (if she doesnt in may) until late august because she has to be here after i give birth..My parents will be in town all summer... They are MY parents, they will help me if need be. Go take your vacation two weeks after I deliver thats fine by me.  I also have a FIL (if worst came to worst) and friends who could help me... You are not the only parent in town... Not that it is the first week in May (my sister finally set a date) she is able to come and is going to provide me a list soon.  Now i need to convince my sister that her house is not going to be big enough... So far the list is at 60 people and that doesn't include my parents or my MIL.  She had my nephews Bris at the house 4 weeks ago, and with 30 people there it was cramped as hell... 70 people is going to be torture!!

[mnp48]

dmoney, her fault for missing out. I have a feeling that my MIL will have the same lame excuse why she can't attend, too. Ugh.

My random bitchfest. 'Cause my family is petite and Asian, my height/weight is considered "overweight" (which I am clearly not) and it that situation is "exacerbated" because I'm pregnant. So, during our get together this weekend, I was met with unwanted pregnancy advice and fat comments. FWIW, I did not gain much and even if I do that's between me and my doctor and no one else.

[belle0720]

dmoney Eek, it's time to cut down that guest list! 70 is a lot!

[alayne926]

Feb 23, 2015 14:23:19 GMT -5 dmoney said:

Feb 23, 2015 14:17:00 GMT -5 belle0720 said:

dmoney Same thing happened with my MIL. She wanted me to change my shower date to late May because she wants to go to Italy from the end of March through May. Sorry MIL, but no one is delaying my shower because you want to go on vacation for 2 months right before our baby is due. It's hard enough to coordinate a date around other birthdays and showers (especially with one of my best friends being due in May)--trying to block out 6-8 weeks for your vacation just isn't feasible.

I knew she wouldn't end up really going because it would mean not only missing my shower but also missing SIL's son's 1st birthday. We stuck to an April date (although I did change it because of SIL's son's birthday party) and she's not going to Italy anymore.

She tried telling me first that she wouldnt be able to take a vacation (if she doesnt in may) until late august because she has to be here after i give birth..My parents will be in town all summer... They are MY parents, they will help me if need be. Go take your vacation two weeks after I deliver thats fine by me.  I also have a FIL (if worst came to worst) and friends who could help me... You are not the only parent in town... Not that it is the first week in May (my sister finally set a date) she is able to come and is going to provide me a list soon.  Now i need to convince my sister that her house is not going to be big enough... So far the list is at 60 people and that doesn't include my parents or my MIL.  She had my nephews Bris at the house 4 weeks ago, and with 30 people there it was cramped as hell... 70 people is going to be torture!!

What if you suggest a park? Renting a pavilion will give you much more space.  That way you could approach it "The weather will be so much better, let's get out and enjoy that and you don't have to worry about cleaning your house!"

[bendherova]

Holy crap, dmoney, 70 guests?? My wedding wasn't much bigger!!

I have a random: for the first time in weeks, I've been productive at home while DS is at school. I cleaned the bathroom the two of us share, have done 2 loads of laundry and have moved the rest of the christmas ornaments to the basement. (they've been packed up for over a month).

I also stopped to get a Veggie Unwich from Jimmy Johns for my second lunch. Yay.

Ps. the reason for my motivation is bc I invited one of DS's friends (and her mom) over in Thursday between the end of school and an evening school event. I don't clean unless guests are coming.

[alayne926]

I am SOOOO sore. DH and I were working on our rental house all weekend getting ready for our new tenants to move in on Friday. I think I over did it and am paying the price today. On the plus side, I used the same color that we're going to paint the baby's room and I love it, so I can't wait to get that room painted. I just need to not be this sore in order to paint again.

[alayne926]

Feb 23, 2015 14:10:39 GMT -5 redlipz said:

Well here goes, in my family we plan surprise baby showers for all babies. This is my third and I told my mom I didn't want one and that I would just organize something for family to meet the baby once it's born but I I'm pretty sure one day I'll walk into a surprise party. I'm doing everything a lot different this time around and even though I know my family will use any excuse to have a party and won't think it's out of the norm to have another shower this time around I just don't really want nor do I need one. Do I just go with the flow or what??

Ps. They're not all out showers, I guess sprinkles or whatever you want to call it.

I think at this point, you have no choice but to go with the flow. You've made it known that you do not want one. What people choose to do, is just that-their choice.

[turtletyme]

After eating girl scout cookies for breakfast, I went to McDonald's for lunch (because I have no self control) and got a shamrock shake (because I have no self control.) I have an ob and a physical appointment tomorrow, so that's two trips to the scale. FML. In good news, the shamrock shake has arrived.

[sidneyvicious]

Feb 23, 2015 13:55:44 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

dmoney ugh that is so annoying! Short of giving her the date this far in advance, what else can you do? If she misses it that's her problem. I have a feeling my MIL is going to invite extra people to my shower at the last minute (like she did to my Thanksgiving dinner) with zero consideration that it's at a restaurant and my mom has to pay for each person.

My random/bitch is that my baby has too much clothes already! I've been shopping the sales and stocking up, but my mom (first time grandma) went and bought the baby an entire wardrobe. She is beyond excited for this baby and I'm so grateful for her generosity. But I was putting everything away and I've run out of closet space. That's not even including all the clothes my sister bought that she will be bringing when she comes down for my shower. And I am having TWO showers, so I know I'm getting even more clothes! I know this a major first-world problem, but I'm kind of bummed that I can't shop for anymore baby clothes - I still have 3 months to go!

You poor thing? Your bitch is more than a first-world problem. It's pretty ridiculous.

[Deleted]

Feb 23, 2015 15:22:20 GMT -5 sidneyvicious said:

Feb 23, 2015 13:55:44 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

dmoney ugh that is so annoying! Short of giving her the date this far in advance, what else can you do? If she misses it that's her problem. I have a feeling my MIL is going to invite extra people to my shower at the last minute (like she did to my Thanksgiving dinner) with zero consideration that it's at a restaurant and my mom has to pay for each person.

My random/bitch is that my baby has too much clothes already! I've been shopping the sales and stocking up, but my mom (first time grandma) went and bought the baby an entire wardrobe. She is beyond excited for this baby and I'm so grateful for her generosity. But I was putting everything away and I've run out of closet space. That's not even including all the clothes my sister bought that she will be bringing when she comes down for my shower. And I am having TWO showers, so I know I'm getting even more clothes! I know this a major first-world problem, but I'm kind of bummed that I can't shop for anymore baby clothes - I still have 3 months to go!

You poor thing? Your bitch is more than a first-world problem. It's pretty ridiculous.

Yea, poor me! WAHHH!!!

[fuccimama]

Random: I'm watching, Call the Midwife and I'm baffled at how many times they get slapped by the people they are helping!

[mrskblack11]

Feb 23, 2015 13:55:44 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

dmoney ugh that is so annoying! Short of giving her the date this far in advance, what else can you do? If she misses it that's her problem. I have a feeling my MIL is going to invite extra people to my shower at the last minute (like she did to my Thanksgiving dinner) with zero consideration that it's at a restaurant and my mom has to pay for each person.

My random/bitch is that my baby has too much clothes already! I've been shopping the sales and stocking up, but my mom (first time grandma) went and bought the baby an entire wardrobe. She is beyond excited for this baby and I'm so grateful for her generosity. But I was putting everything away and I've run out of closet space. That's not even including all the clothes my sister bought that she will be bringing when she comes down for my shower. And I am having TWO showers, so I know I'm getting even more clothes! I know this a major first-world problem, but I'm kind of bummed that I can't shop for anymore baby clothes - I still have 3 months to go!

You could always donate those clothes to children in need if you would like to free up some closet space. 

NICU also accepts baby clothes donations. 

[mcp6286]

I knew I was irritated about something today but, being pregnant, couldn't remember what it was. It's back! So DH is usually really nice to me so this was TOTALLY out of character but I'm still mad about it. Last night I walked into the living room and he just started cracking up. I asked what he was laughing at and he said, "I'm just not used to seeing you like this!" So I replied, "Like what? Fat?" and he said, "No you're not fat, you don't look different anywhere except in the belly. You're just not..." So I ventured to guess, "You mean I'm not as graceful as I used to be? Like I stomp around a little more?" (Cuz let's be real, I know that's true. It's fine; it's not forever and I'll be back to my old self before we know it). And he was like, "Yes that's it exactly! Like you know on the movie Fred Claus, when Fred and Santa are kids and little chubby Santa waddles in and says that he cut down the tree for them, all dorky and too smiley? That's you lately!" Umm...thanks hubby dear?Not gonna lie, I might have accidentally on purpose eaten all the Indian food that I knew he wanted for lunch today cuz I was mad.

[mrskblack11]

I would like to thank the ice in Dallas for cancelling flights and therefore cancelling the business dinner I was supposed to attend tonight.

I am celebrating my happiness with some Starbucks.

[sidneyvicious]

Feb 23, 2015 15:34:56 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

Feb 23, 2015 15:33:28 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

You could always donate those clothes to children in need if you would like to free up some closet space. 

NICU also accepts baby clothes donations. 

They usually need diaper bags too.

I know we're all for bitchfests big and small, and even the most trivial of bitches usually deserves at least a little acknowledgement, but if there ever was such a thing as a non-legit bitch, this is it.

[Deleted]

Feb 23, 2015 15:33:28 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

Feb 23, 2015 13:55:44 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

dmoney ugh that is so annoying! Short of giving her the date this far in advance, what else can you do? If she misses it that's her problem. I have a feeling my MIL is going to invite extra people to my shower at the last minute (like she did to my Thanksgiving dinner) with zero consideration that it's at a restaurant and my mom has to pay for each person.

My random/bitch is that my baby has too much clothes already! I've been shopping the sales and stocking up, but my mom (first time grandma) went and bought the baby an entire wardrobe. She is beyond excited for this baby and I'm so grateful for her generosity. But I was putting everything away and I've run out of closet space. That's not even including all the clothes my sister bought that she will be bringing when she comes down for my shower. And I am having TWO showers, so I know I'm getting even more clothes! I know this a major first-world problem, but I'm kind of bummed that I can't shop for anymore baby clothes - I still have 3 months to go!

You could always donate those clothes to children in need if you would like to free up some closet space. 

NICU also accepts baby clothes donations. 

Thanks for the suggestion. I actually discussed that with my DH last night because there's just no way she's going to wear everything and no one else in our family is having babies. There's a Women In Distress shelter that I donate all of my clothes to, so that's probably where I'll be sending some of the stuff. I just feel kind of bad getting rid of everything right now, so I might wait until the baby "outgrows" her stuff. I didn't know about the NICU, I'll definitely look into that. 

[Deleted]

Feb 23, 2015 15:40:47 GMT -5 sidneyvicious said:

Feb 23, 2015 15:34:56 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

They usually need diaper bags too.

I know we're all for bitchfests big and small, and even the most trivial of bitches usually deserves at least a little acknowledgement, but if there ever was such a thing as a non-legit bitch, this is it.

Ok ladies, I get it. My bitch today clearly makes me a snowflake. Thank you for showing me the error of my ways!

[sgarmand]

Feb 23, 2015 15:39:35 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

I would like to thank the ice in Dallas for cancelling flights and therefore cancelling the business dinner I was supposed to attend tonight.

I am celebrating my happiness with some Starbucks.

Speaking of, the person in front of me in the Starbucks drive through this morning paid for my breakfast and coffee! It made it taste that much better!

[sidneyvicious]

Feb 23, 2015 15:56:59 GMT -5 @demanda88 said:

Feb 23, 2015 15:52:33 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

Ok ladies, I get it. My bitch today clearly makes me a snowflake. Thank you for showing me the error of my ways!

I feel like this was less of a bitch about having too many clothes and more about not being able to pick out more things for her first baby. 

I haven't been around here much lately, but even I have seen enough posts on here to know she has zero issues with buying whatever she wants. I stand by my ruling this a non-legit bitch, and obnoxious to boot. She basically concurred. No need to white knight here.

[Deleted]

Feb 23, 2015 15:56:59 GMT -5 @demanda88 said:

Feb 23, 2015 15:52:33 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

Ok ladies, I get it. My bitch today clearly makes me a snowflake. Thank you for showing me the error of my ways!

I feel like this was less of a bitch about having too many clothes and more about not being able to pick out more things for her first baby. 

That was actually the whole point. I love shopping for my baby but now it's just gotten to be too much. Whatever... Clearly this was a flame worthy statement on my part!

Things have been pretty mild and snark-free around here lately, so maybe I'll just take this one for the team?

[lc1158]

I'm stuck in Arkansas with the ice storm. Supposed to fly back to California today but no flights available until Wednesday. Which means I have to take an unscheduled vacation day because, obviously, I can't be at work and in the South at the same time. It's all out of my control and heck, let's face it - I'm with my mom and grandmother which means there is nothing I have to do other than just be for the next couple of days - I just really miss DH and our cats.

[sidneyvicious]

Feb 23, 2015 16:09:24 GMT -5 @demanda88 said:

Feb 23, 2015 16:03:32 GMT -5 sidneyvicious said:

I haven't been around here much lately, but even I have seen enough posts on here to know she has zero issues with buying whatever she wants. I stand by my ruling this a non-legit bitch, and obnoxious to boot. She basically concurred. No need to white knight here.

Not WKing at all- who the fuck cares if it's a non legit bitch? Simmer down.

Apparently you care. And apparently you also don't know what a white knight is.

[veggiemo]

This thread is getting interesting today, thanks ladies Hehe.

My bitch is that our not even 4 year old Crate and Barrel couch is broken. As in, there is a huge hole in the spring/seat area that needs to be replaced off-site. They sent out a contracted repair man today and he said he would have to submit a report back to the company and see if anything was covered under warranty. I'm NOT happy about this. And it's seriously just broken from normal wear and tear, we didn't jump all over it or anything. Fingers crossed they come back and tell me it's covered, but for now I bitch. AND the repair man took a crap in our bathroom while he was over? We have a teeny tiny house so there isn't much privacy in the bathroom. He must have REALLY had to go!