Mother of the effing year.

[lisarowe]

I know I don't post much, but I need to get this off my mind. Give me all the flames, it's ok. I likely deserve it.

On Saturday we had a 10 hour drive to do. Lo usually does so good in the car (we've done this trip before) but this time was a little more fussy. I don't blame him, I hate that drive too.

We were about two hours from our destination, and lo started crying so hard. So I told DH to pull in to a gas station so I could change him and let him out of his seat for a bit. Luckily we were just passing through a town. We had just taken the exit and lo vomited all over himself. I feel horrible like we should've just found a side road to pull off and let him out, instead of trying to make it to the gas station. I don't even know if he was upset because he didn't feel good, or threw up because he was so upset.

Ugh. I feel like the worst parent in the world.

[aimeefarrahfowler]

what kitchen said. No flames from me, either.

[lisarowe]

Thanks! I guess it's just mom guilt. Although it doesn't help that he has never puked like that in his life, it's not the end of the world. I think I just needed an outside perspective.

[mary97]

This stuff happens.

Clothes can be changed, kids can be washed up. It's more important to take care of their needs in a safe place than to take care of it quickly, and possibly unsafely, so they stop crying.

[haykay13]

No flames at all!
Maybe the long drive or being on the interstate caused him to get carsick?

That was so not what I was expecting. When I started reading I thought you were going to tell us you let him ride in the front seat so he wouldn't be lonely or something. Glad it didn't go that direction!

[ksyknelvr73]

I don't see why you would be flamed for this. There's no way to know when stuff like that will happen.

I mean, I feel bad for him - and road trips are basically terrible with small children - but there is nothing you did that's worthy of feeling guilty over.

[lisarowe]

Feb 23, 2015 15:10:34 GMT -5 haykay13 said:

No flames at all!
Maybe the long drive or being on the interstate caused him to get carsick?

That was so not what I was expecting. When I started reading I thought you were going to tell us you let him ride in the front seat so he wouldn't be lonely or something. Glad it didn't go that direction!

This made me laugh, even though I'm sure some people do that, the thought never crossed my mind!

Feb 23, 2015 15:12:00 GMT -5 ksyknelvr73 said:

I don't see why you would be flamed for this. There's no way to know when stuff like that will happen.

I mean, I feel bad for him - and road trips are basically terrible with small children - but there is nothing you did that's worthy of feeling guilty over.

I think it's just the fact that I let him get so upset that he threw up. It makes me feel so awful. I definitely do feel bad for him, that's a long trip even for me. We take him out as often as we can and let him play before we start driving again, but this time he was just done.

Thanks everyone. My mom guilt is just getting to me. You guys are making me feel so much better!

[comicSans]

DD was hungry after church yesterday - usually has lunch around 12:00 and it was 12:30. She had probably way too many puffs. On the way home, just a half hour drive, she was fussy. She got quite upset as we neared home. I figure she was just hungry and tired since it was nearing nap time. We had picked up lunch a few minutes from home, so I know she was fine then, but when we got home we discovered she'd puked on herself, hence the escalation. It happens. It's hard that babies aren't effective communicators.

[microworm]

I would probably feel guilty too, because I feel horrible any time DS doesn't feel well. Did you cause her to throw up? No - you couldn't know the difference between a "I'm upset over being in a car for 10 hours" cry or a "I'm nauseous" cry or a "I'm a baby and can cry if I want to" cry. Hugs, mama. We have all been there. It's hard to see our LOs hurting/sick.

[jerssey]

Same as what @kitchen said

[ns1]

What everyone else said. Don't beat yourself up! Kudos for making a ten hour car ride with a LO and your sanity left at the end!

[minae01]

I do not see anything flame worthy in your post. Wait until the day you wake up in the morning, go get LO, only to realize that he puked all over himself and his bed at some point during the middle of the night (and went back to sleep in it!). This stuff happens all the time! It's totally ok! He forgives you.

[lisarowe]

Thanks everyone! I definitely feel much better after reading all your kind words.

[helmink0804]

I don't see anything flame worthy either. I think you did the right thing. Hugs to you mama and feel better about yourself.

[IseeyouRN]

Duuuuuuuude, if that's flame worthy I'd be the center of the sun right now. Just in the last week I've banged DS' head off the wall, slammed his fingers in the toy box, poked him in the eye with a spoon and farted on his lovey.

I will challenge your mom of the year award any day.

[lisarowe]

Feb 24, 2015 1:31:19 GMT -5 IseeyouRN said:

Duuuuuuuude, if that's flame worthy I'd be the center of the sun right now. Just in the last week I've banged DS' head off the wall, slammed his fingers in the toy box, poked him in the eye with a spoon and farted on his lovey.

I will challenge your mom of the year award any day.

So funny! Thanks. I needed this!