When to Change Daycare?
Feb 23, 2015 21:42:09 GMT -5
Post by greenmonkey1 on Feb 23, 2015 21:42:09 GMT -5
DH and I both work FT, we have two kids (2.5 years and 6-months) who are at daycare 3 days a week and with my mom/inlaws the other two. Due to problems with the inlaws, we are going to 4 days daycare and 1 day with my mom. This has been a long time coming, but we've tried to compromise. MIL finally gave DH the proverbial middle finger (again) and he is (thank GOD) finally tired of her shenanigans.
So the question is when to make the switch? DS1 is probably going to have some trouble with the change. He's a toddler and this will mess with his structure. The baby will probably not care in the least. On one hand I say, let's tell MIL this week and have the kids in daycare next week. Consequences need to relate to the action so I say let's just get it done. Like removing a band-aid. On the other hand DH says let's tell MIL this week and give her two last weeks with the kids. Daycare couldn't care less either way, although I am pretty sure they would prefer not this week.
I am a little afraid MIL will talk shift to the boys about me/DH. She is notorious for never saying "no" to my older son. It's always, "mommy says no". So I already know she throws me under the bus. DH doesn't think she'd do that, but who knows- she is going to be pretty irate that "we are taking her grandsons away". OMG, we haven't even made the switch yet and I already know it's going to be a rough ride.
Advice on making the change?
So the question is when to make the switch? DS1 is probably going to have some trouble with the change. He's a toddler and this will mess with his structure. The baby will probably not care in the least. On one hand I say, let's tell MIL this week and have the kids in daycare next week. Consequences need to relate to the action so I say let's just get it done. Like removing a band-aid. On the other hand DH says let's tell MIL this week and give her two last weeks with the kids. Daycare couldn't care less either way, although I am pretty sure they would prefer not this week.
I am a little afraid MIL will talk shift to the boys about me/DH. She is notorious for never saying "no" to my older son. It's always, "mommy says no". So I already know she throws me under the bus. DH doesn't think she'd do that, but who knows- she is going to be pretty irate that "we are taking her grandsons away". OMG, we haven't even made the switch yet and I already know it's going to be a rough ride.
Advice on making the change?