TTC A Rainbow Sibling Check-In

[mrsbutton]

( DoesItComeInPink,Thanks for running the check in!)

Doing ok this week - cycle #2 has officially started, so I've got OPKs coming in the mail today (along with a new diaper/toddler bag lol go retail therapy!)

CD/DPO? CD7, so a few days' rest before FW marathon begins...

How are you doing with TTC again? BFNs are always tough, but I'm going today to a tattoo parlor to design my 6th tattoo! (and maybe 7th! thinking of a small swallow for May 2012 loss)
Any questions or other things to share? a flame-free Wed confession: I've stocked up on POM juice because I feel like my AF has been light the past few months (maybe that's the new postpartum norm) but I'm falling for that myth (right? POM juice supposedly helps thicken uterine lining for good implantation!?)

QOTW: Do your friends/family know you are trying for a sibling or is it under wraps still? My mom knows we want more, and apparently has a bet with my father who will be KTFU first: Me or my SIL (brother's wife). it seems my DH has blatantly told my ILs that we're actively trying now for #2... I find myself pointedly drinking at their house so they don't even get the chance to ask about "any news"...

[docamy]

docamy - how are dental appointments coming along (for you and your dogs)?
I haven't made the apts yet BUT I'm planning on calling and setting mine up in the next week or two! I'll take care of the girls after I do mine. I guess I'm dragging my feet about those things cause I know I have 2 more months before NTNP but I want to do mine soon in case I need any work done.

QOTW: Family and close friends know the plan! I'm not good at keeping things from people when it comes to my life!

[mrsbutton]

Feb 25, 2015 10:18:51 GMT -5 @mattsgirl2004 said:

Thanks for running this check-in DoesItComeInPink,

CD/DPO? CD7
Testing Plans? No testing plans yet, but I am contemplating using OPK's this time around.
How are you doing with TTC again? Meh. We are going into our 7th cycle ttc without much luck. It's hard to not get discouraged, but I knew that it might take awhile to have another rainbow (which is why we started trying so soon after Emmie).
Any questions or other things to share? Not that I can think of.
QOTW: Do your friends/family know you are trying for a sibling or is it under wraps still? Everyone knows we're trying again. It's not something that we've been super quiet about, especially since we've had so many people ask if/when we're going to trying for another.

@mattsgirl2004, cycle buddies! 

(ETA - good to have, but I realized can be a pain - I've both been the one "left behind" by a buddy getting a BFP, and the one "leaving behind" her CB... )

[madameovary]

Hey, DoesItComeInPink?! Thanks!

My appointment went very well! They removed the granulated tissue (was expecting to need another appointment for that), and also cut a band of scar tissue that was making things very narrow and painful. I feel like my bidness is almost back to normal and that tfas won't be as much of a pain (literally) when we are ready. I've shared our potential timeline, but I think when the time comes I'll be tight lipped about it, especially if we need to return to fertility treatments. Last time around I told my family explicitly not to ask, that I would tell them if there was anything they needed to know. I'm rude like that.

ETA: no prolapse!  He said pelvic floor was fine, but that kegels are for EVERYBODY.  J Law knows what's up (see siggy below).

[wifey]

Greetings all~

Just waiting on AF and pathetically reading into whether my body is about to ovulate or not. Since I had Tate, I have ovulated more than in the past, so I know by the lower abdominal pain and dull cramping. Oh crampy-ness, where are you? I think this is CD 20... Sigh....

I have thought alot about how many embryos I want to transfer, and after a long talk with DH, I will accept my RE's recommendation of one if that is ultimately what she decides. The outcome of doing this all over again ( money, shots ect) is not as bad as hospital bedrest with a cerclage and Twins again. Such a tough decision, knowing the odds are not high at 41 transferring one, when protocol is typically 2-3 depending on quality. Looking forward to sitting down with the RE again to decide once and for all, but since I'm 3 for 4, I need to be cautious.

QOTW: DH and I are keeping it quiet, except for my younger sister. If I don't talk to someone about it my head may explode. My Mum had terrible anxiety that required medication when I was on bedrest with Tate, so my positive energy can't be sapped by worrying about her. Since our family is all out of state and country, we can keep it hush hush for quite a while.

[linzeeh80]

Hi ladies! I would love to join you! I have MAJOR baby fever!! Lol We are ntnp right now. I haven't been able to bring myself to chart etc yet. We are trying a few months like this and then we will rethink our plan. Hopefully we won't need to! No one knows we are trying yet

[chknma]

Nothing new here. I keep thinking AF is coming, but still not here. At least then I'd be able to appreciate this recent surge of breakouts... Wtf??

We are not talking about it at this point. We've told family that we're considering having a third, but they probably think we'd wait until after DD2's first birthday.

[wifey]

chknma, I hear you! There is no hiding this under grounder on my chin. The chin breakouts seem to occur mid cycle without fail

madameovary, Very glad to hear your procedure went well.

[scimomma]

I fall in the thinking about getting ready category so...


For those thinking about/getting ready:



When do you plan to start trying?
We are traveling this summer so not before then. Several months ago I was thinking that I would want to start trying when we got back but honestly, I don't know if we are ready. However, I am about to turn 41 and the ticking of the clock is deafening. 

Are there things you need/want to do before you start trying?
Ideally DH would be done with school by the time a new baby came along but he went and picked one of the most difficult majors and it would put me at 43-44 when he finishes. I'm not sure it's such a good idea to wait that long. I would also like to lose more weight and get back in shape. I'm down to pre-baby weight but am not in as good of shape as I was before and I would like to get that back. I think it helps a lot with pregnancy.

How are you feeling about starting to TTC again?
I would love to be pregnant again. Once we got past the milestones and well into the second tri I really started to enjoy it. I worried every day but I also loved starting to get to know her and seeing her grow and the excitement of getting ready for her arrival. I love the stage she is in but I do miss my tiny baby too and would love to be able to do that at least one more time. 

Any questions or other things to share? What is the oldest you would consider TTC again? Does age trump finances and time? My family has told me that if I want another I should do it right away and I told them there's personal happiness too. If we do start now or in a year then DH will likely be totally wrapped up in school again and miss a lot of time with the new baby and with S. I don't know if that's fair to him or to our child and future child. Thoughts on this from anyone?

[wifey]

scimomma, Age is a huge factor for us, and I do think about taking Tate to the first grade and being the old mom in her mid/ late 40's, but that's just my vanity talking. For us, our children will come from our frozen embryos that are 39 and good quality. I wanted to finish having kids because my body has taken a bit of a beating, and I want to get healthy to give them my energy.

Tate doesn't care how old I am. He wants Mommy's love, attention, and lots of fun play. As long as I'm healthy, I can offer him that. DH and I have decided that this will not be an endless pursuit for children. Our Embryos are it for us. We also want to retire at a decent age, and not have kids in the house in our 60's. All that aside, being AMA is different for me than you, or other women our age. Just depends on your fertility at this age. Under 45 is the number in my mind for DH and I to complete our family. We both know fertility dramatically declines at this age, but rushing to have a sibling because the clock is ticking won't make life easier if you guys aren't ready. It is however amazing how we can adapt and adjust accordingly

[lilmizsunshine68]

Ahh so many of my Dec '13 mommas in here and it's giving me major baby fever!

[muirmaid]

I missed the check-in last week because I was feeling hermit-y and didn't get on the boards much--hope it's okay for me to come back!

I'm on CD24 with no O in sight. FF predicts that it'll be another ten days or so, but I've been using OPKs for the last week and a half anyway. Temping has been really, really hard with how bad DS's sleep is, which is frustrating, too.

My mom knows we're trying, which probably means all of my sisters do, too. I don't know if my husband has told his family or not; it doesn't much matter to me either way at this point. Everybody's pretty good at not bringing it up unless I do, thankfully.

[muirmaid]

@mattsgirl2004, I'm pretty sure I'd keep Amazon Prime purely for 2-day OPK shipping. It's the best!

madameovary, hooray for no prolapse! I did some kegels in your honor.

wifey, I hope CD1 appears for you soon. I'm also questioning the chin breakout I've been rocking for the past few days. What does it MEEEANNNN?

unringthebell, congratulations on being cleared for takeoff.

[mrsbutton]

Feb 25, 2015 11:55:43 GMT -5 @mattsgirl2004 said:

Feb 25, 2015 11:33:42 GMT -5 mrsbutton said:

@mattsgirl2004, cycle buddies! 

(ETA - good to have, but I realized can be a pain - I've both been the one "left behind" by a buddy getting a BFP, and the one "leaving behind" her CB... )

mrsbutton, Somehow I missed that you were also CD7 when I posted earlier. Yay for having a CB! This brings me back to when I was on TTCAL. Having a CB was so very bittersweet, but it was one of the ways I made friends and was able to give/receive support.

Are you charting or just OPK's? E still isn't sleeping through the night, so I haven't attempted bbt charting yet. I've just been tracking CM and BDing during my FW. I just ordered OPK'S from Amazon (hello Amazon prime and 2 day shipping!), so I'm going to try them this cycle too.

@mattsgirl2004, I'm like you - not really charting, just checking CP and CM... but because of last month's somewhat-unclear CP+CM signs, I ordered OPKs too to help track LH surge (also love Amazon Prime! )

We only hit every third day last cycle for BD during FW, so I think we'll ramp that up this time as well =P

[mrsbutton]

Feb 25, 2015 16:31:37 GMT -5 wifey said:

chknma, I hear you! There is no hiding this under grounder on my chin. The chin breakouts seem to occur mid cycle without fail

madameovary, Very glad to hear your procedure went well.

chknma, I had a mini-Mt Vesuvius (complete with eventual eruption!) on my chin last cycle! BLECH

DoesItComeInPink, no temping...  I don't think I'll be able to do it regularly/reliably for charting purposes...