If You're Not The Favorite Parent
Feb 25, 2015 1:10:52 GMT -5
Post by brynnlux on Feb 25, 2015 1:10:52 GMT -5
How do you deal?
I took DD all around town today, bought her treats and a new toy, let her watch Frozen during dinner, and ordered her favorite pizza today. We even looked online together at fun things to do this weekend and we put stuff on the Google calender. I was in a 'nice mommy' mood today. Everything was fine. I was looking forward to bedtime snuggles because my favorite time of day is reading to her at bedtime. I love it and sometimes it's the only thing that gets me through the day.
But she slept late at naptime, and instead of being asleep when DH came home, she was in the bath. So on top of being like somebody hit her recharge button, she instantly hated me and wanted nothing to do with me. She hit me and kicked me and screamed until I left the room. DH just got done with a 12 hour hospital shift and he has zero willpower against her whining so she's STILL awake. He can barely keep his eyes open to read to her.
This happens to us all the time when her schedule is off and it completely throws me. When it's just me and her, she's mostly pretty good. For him, she's not bad but she doesn't listen to him at all and it makes him nuts because he's not used to it (I think she treats him like she treats me but he doesn't know how to deal). When its both of us together, she is just plain awful to be around. She's never liked me as much as she likes him (even as a newborn! not even joking a little bit!) so it majorly sucks.
I feel so bad for my mom now. I was this way with my dad and now I know how it feels. He's dead and I still like him better so I guess I need to get used to this. But what can I do? This is heart breaking for me!
p.s. yes I do I sound like a selfish brat. I am happy that DD and DH have a good relationship but I am jealous!
I took DD all around town today, bought her treats and a new toy, let her watch Frozen during dinner, and ordered her favorite pizza today. We even looked online together at fun things to do this weekend and we put stuff on the Google calender. I was in a 'nice mommy' mood today. Everything was fine. I was looking forward to bedtime snuggles because my favorite time of day is reading to her at bedtime. I love it and sometimes it's the only thing that gets me through the day.
But she slept late at naptime, and instead of being asleep when DH came home, she was in the bath. So on top of being like somebody hit her recharge button, she instantly hated me and wanted nothing to do with me. She hit me and kicked me and screamed until I left the room. DH just got done with a 12 hour hospital shift and he has zero willpower against her whining so she's STILL awake. He can barely keep his eyes open to read to her.
This happens to us all the time when her schedule is off and it completely throws me. When it's just me and her, she's mostly pretty good. For him, she's not bad but she doesn't listen to him at all and it makes him nuts because he's not used to it (I think she treats him like she treats me but he doesn't know how to deal). When its both of us together, she is just plain awful to be around. She's never liked me as much as she likes him (even as a newborn! not even joking a little bit!) so it majorly sucks.
I feel so bad for my mom now. I was this way with my dad and now I know how it feels. He's dead and I still like him better so I guess I need to get used to this. But what can I do? This is heart breaking for me!
p.s. yes I do I sound like a selfish brat. I am happy that DD and DH have a good relationship but I am jealous!