Isn't this the truth some days

[Poppy]

www.scarymommy.com/i-hate-being-pregnant/

[SassyPants150]

Yes.

[seventythree]

Absolutely! I'm Facebook friends with a few of those ladies who just gush about how much they love being pregnant and I find them nauseating. Doesn't make me any less grateful for the baby, or that my pregnancy hasn't been worse -- it just makes me a normal person.

[Poppy]

My MIL is like that. She always talks about how she loved everything. I'm like really, I can name five things at any point and time that sick about it. With no outside baby yet it's hard to keep lipstick and remember its a means to a really good end.

[allisong87]

I honestly enjoy being pregnant. Don't get me wrong I've had my fair share of complaints, but I think I've been lucky enough to feel good enough to enjoy a lot of this pregnancy as a FTM. Now maybe I'm saying this because I'm going on 23 weeks and am at that "sweet spot" of the 2nd trimester. Maybe I should revisit this statement when I'm 30+ weeks? I guess I'm a little naive at this point!

[Deleted]

I so agree with this article.

[stargazerlily]

I think I'm somewhere in the middle. I didn't have the worst MS in 1st trimester, but I was nauseous 24/7 and had an absurd amount of food aversions. And I was desperately wishing there were a way to novocaine my boobs because they hurt so damn much all the time no matter what I did. 2nd trimester I haven't gotten my energy or my sex drive back so I'm a tad bitter about that lol, plus this baby is already making sleep impossible. And I'm feeling sore and awkward and dizzy from time to time, and am having problems with my blood pressure.

There are parts I like. I love ultrasounds and hearing my baby on the Doppler. I like the kicks right now when I'm fully awake and they are not directed toward my cervix or bladder. (I'm also aware they will be less cute as this baby gets bigger...right now she's just a papaya.) And I absolutely adore getting baby clothes and other stuff for her and thinking about how amazing it will be when she's here. But there are definitely parts of this I could do without.

[amelandre]

I hate being pregnant, but I love my babies. I don't complain about it very much because I am around a lot of people who have had losses or infertility issues, so I feel like kind of an ass mentioning it at all. I hate the lightning crotch, which has been infinitely worse with this pregnancy. Some days I feel like my body is just crapping out on me and can't take any more. And even though I am scared shitless of trying for a VBAC, I am still really excited to meet our new baby (and not just because it will end all the symptoms, haha)

[mcbaby]

I love being pregnant, but I'm also in the 2nd trimester happy stage. 1st trimester? I wanted to die. Not literally because I wanted to do everything I could for my LO but I was miserable and lived in the bathroom. All I did was sleep, get sick, and pee. I admit to being one of those that gushes on FB but I've cut back a lot. I remember once in 1st tri when I had a terrible day of MS, my father and stepmom bitched at me on FB and said I wasn't allowed to complain because my pregnancy wasn't as hard as hers. (She had multiple miscarriages between my stepsister and two younger siblings, MS, went through college and worked during her pregnancies.) I am unemployed because 1st tri was difficult for me to stay awake and out of the bathroom for long, let alone hold a job at the same time. So now I've been job searching and trying to better my life. But just because my pregnancy hasn't been as hard as others, doesn't mean it hasn't been hard for me. And I still love my LO no matter what. I'm extremely glad it's gotten easier lately though!

[beebe918]

I'm impartial toward my pregnancy. I've been very lucky as far as symptoms so I don't have much to complain about but I certainly wouldn't say I LOVE being pregnant.

[hotcoconuts82]

I'm really trying hard to embrace everything about this pregnancy because I know it will be my last. BUT, my body hates being pregnant. From horrible morning sickness (thankfully gone now) to the stuff going on now. My pelvis feels like it's been broken into a million pieces.

[orangepickle]

What? No!! I'm feel like I'm GLOWING - doesn't everyone else just feel like they're glowing?? Pregnancy is the best thing ever, I totally haven't gone through six months of nonstop nausea, acne, sweating, weight gain and shortness of breath

[littlecookie]

I don't hate being pregnant even with pretty bad morning sickness, but I think it's totally fine if other people acknowledge that they feel this way. I hate that Everything with motherhood seems to be some kind of I'm doing it right and the other side is wrong.

[orangepickle]

Jan 18, 2015 13:28:20 GMT -5 @texasmama15 said:

Everytime I see someone say they feel like they are glowing I think of that rando that posted a while back about how she was glowing and her picture looked like some maternity glamour shot picture...y'all remember that chick? She reminds me of Isla Fisher in Enchanted.

Oh I was totally channeling her when I wrote that. I'm guessing she ended up over at WTE or BC since she never came back after that

[JustinBobby]

Jan 18, 2015 4:23:44 GMT -5 petrichor said:

I'll be the dissenting voice. But first let me say I don't gush about my pregnancy. I haven't announced on Facebook and many of my IRL friends don't know yet.

I also want to say that I have issues. Fifteen years of infertility, loss, and an aching desire to have children has caused me to be jealous of other women's pregnancies. I'm not proud of that and I'm not trying to play the pain Olympics. It's simply my reality and my truth.

There's another pregnant woman at work who constantly wants to commiserate with me about how miserable pregnancy is. I just can't.

Most pregnant women complain and deservedly so. I'd never tell anyone not to. Still, I used to stand there and think "I'd give anything to be suffering like that because it would mean I'm having a child." With ds1 I literally laughed every time I threw up.

At the moment it's 4 in the morning. I am on the couch and wide awake due to insomnia, acid reflux, and aching ribs and pelvis. I also have to pee really bad but don't feel like getting up and hobbling to the bathroom. Yet in this moment I'm enjoying feel my little boy kick and I'm savoring this time because 6 months ago I never would have believed I'd get to experience this again. He just kicked me in the cervix again and still I can hardly believe it.

And these feelings carry over into parenting, too. Sure, I lose my patience with my son. But I've gotten through some trying times with him simply by reflecting on the fact that I've been told that I could likely never successfully carry a child to term yet here he is in front of me.

I'm not even sure I should post this. I don't want to put a damper on this thread. But I do hope it's okay to share a different perspective. My experience/perspective certainly doesn't negate yours. And whether or not we enjoy pregnancy has no bearing on how much we love our children.

I have to say I appreciate your point of view. Friday night I was having such bad gas pains I could literally not move, it hurt so much I became nauseated and threw up my entire dinner, spaghetti and meatballs, it was fucking gross. I remember thinking, fuck I just want my body back.
However, I am so grateful to have the ability to experience this, it will all be worth it come May.

[Poppy]

petrichor I totally get both sides of this. I struggle because I want this baby so badly and want to enjoy every moment of pregnancy and I just don't. I also know what the alternative is and that it could be so much worse. I'm not saying I hate being pg I'm just saying its not magical for me, it's taking the bad to get to the good.

[Poppy]

Jan 18, 2015 13:43:02 GMT -5 petrichor said:

Jan 18, 2015 13:39:31 GMT -5 Poppy said:

petrichor I totally get both sides of this. I struggle because I want this baby so badly and want to enjoy every moment of pregnancy and I just don't. I also know what the alternative is and that it could be so much worse. I'm not saying I hate being pg I'm just saying its not magical for me, it's taking the bad to get to the good.

I hear you, Poppy. You've been through so much. You know all too well there are no guarantees about outcome.

Every time I got a BFP I was so nervous and just kept telling myself "I have to get through this to get to the good part on the other side."  Loss after loss I just kept going because I knew I couldn't get the result I wanted - a healthy living child - without going through the terrifying part.

It finally paid off again (so far...)  and pray that it does for you, too.  I have to believe that it will. 

I can't wait for both of us to celebrate and show off our rainbow babies. You know I'm rooting for you. It's been a long road for both of us. I've got everything I possibly could crossed for you.

[mariisz]

I love her blog! It is real yet comedic. Exactly what I need. My pregnancy has been everything but glamorous. My SO always tells me "I can't wait to have our 2nd child" and I bluntly reply "not for another couple of years because I hate being pregnant."
I cannot wait to feel normal again. Sleep on my stomach again. DRINK A BEER! Eat whatever I want and not feel guilty. I am extremely excited for my little girl to get here, but the process sucks and my body is just this weird factory of new and uncomfortable symptoms that I will surely not miss.