DS didn't hardly sleep last night and DD decided to get up at 6:30. I have such a headache. H is still sick and seems to be getting worse. He's trying to help me but it's just not working.
Post by modernfairytale8709 on Feb 25, 2015 8:33:09 GMT -5
Am I a bad mother because I get bored at home with my newborn? I mean, I seriously love cuddling this little life, but I need some actual brain stimulation at some point. I'm actually heading to the in-laws today in an attempt to curb my cabin fever a bit. If you knew my inlaws, you'd know how desperate that makes me.
DS didn't hardly sleep last night and DD decided to get up at 6:30. I have such a headache. H is still sick and seems to be getting worse. He's trying to help me but it's just not working.
That sucks about your DH. The night after DD was born, DH was admitted to the hospital with exhaustion and an allergic reaction to zinc oxide. He was down for days. Nothing like dealing with a sick husband and a newborn. I didn't think I'd ever shower again.
DS didn't hardly sleep last night and DD decided to get up at 6:30. I have such a headache. H is still sick and seems to be getting worse. He's trying to help me but it's just not working.
That sucks about your DH. The night after DD was born, DH was admitted to the hospital with exhaustion and an allergic reaction to zinc oxide. He was down for days. Nothing like dealing with a sick husband and a newborn. I didn't think I'd ever shower again.
That sounds awful.
Luckily he doesn't have a fever so I make him hold the baby while I try and take care of the toddler.
Am I a bad mother because I get bored at home with my newborn? I mean, I seriously love cuddling this little life, but I need some actual brain stimulation at some point. I'm actually heading to the in-laws today in an attempt to curb my cabin fever a bit. If you knew my inlaws, you'd know how desperate that makes me.
Newborns are lovely and a lot of work, but not necessarily mentally stimulating. Definitely not a bad mother
misshart00 sorry last night was rough and today seems like it'll be the same. T&Ps and Internet hugs your way.
Eta: I forgot my spam, probably because I have no spam yet today. My OB's office has been closed all week due to the ice storm; hopefully it clears up for my appointment tomorrow. Last day before EDD.
I don't remember who posted this but it is my first response to all labor related texts. It cheers me up, especially if it's the third or fourth time I've texted it to the same person that day. (Hope image isn't huge - on mobile app.)
Am I a bad mother because I get bored at home with my newborn? I mean, I seriously love cuddling this little life, but I need some actual brain stimulation at some point. I'm actually heading to the in-laws today in an attempt to curb my cabin fever a bit. If you knew my inlaws, you'd know how desperate that makes me.
This is so me too!!! I actually thought about going to the ILs too. I took a nap instead. I also thought about learning to knit. But no, not a bad mother.
TL;DR DH got frustrated with DD not falling asleep last night, he was exhausted which didn't help, and he slept in another room. Having trouble coping emotionally.
Yesterday and last night was really rough on DH. The night before last DD just refused to sleep unless he was holding her, and then by the time he was able to put her down around 4am (I guess, I was asleep) he figured he might as well just stay up, since I had an early doctor's appt to follow up on my c-section. After we got home from the appt and running some errands, he took a 3-4 hour nap after lunch. I was pretty tired from the night before as well, because I kept waking up while DH was trying to settle her down. I managed maybe a 30 minute nap in the afternoon after I got DH up.
So around 9 while DD was awake after a bottle, knowing she wouldn't go down to sleep until closer to midnight, I asked DH if I could head to bed which he said was fine. I got a couple hours of sleep and then at midnight I woke up because DD was making noise from her pack n play where she sleeps in our room. DH came to bed but DD wouldn't quiet down (she normally fusses and will calm down after a few minutes as long as she doesn't start actually crying). She didn't quiet down quick enough for DH and the exhaustion had just been wearing on him yesterday, so he got frustrated and upset and went to go sleep in the nursery where there is another bed. He has really sensitive hearing, so every little noise she was making was stressing him out. The ironic part is that almost immediately after he left she fell asleep...
I'm just having a hard time with the fact that I feel like he just abandoned us. Granted, she was just fine the rest of the night and she went back down after her 4am feeding very quickly so it's not like I needed his help at all. This is also the first time that we've slept separately when we were both in the house. I'm not mad at him, I know he really needed to get some uninterrupted sleep because apparently he just can't handle it as well as I have been. I'm just sad, thinking that this may become a regular habit until she gets moved to her own room.
ETA: I can't even imagine how he would have dealt with some of the much more difficult babies some of you ladies have. DD sleeps for at least 3 hours when she goes down, and regularly goes up to 4 during the night. She never had her days and nights switched. And she's formula fed, so neither of us is dealing with the stress of breastfeeding and how that seems to be more of an 'every two hours' sort of thing. I'm frustrated that he isn't coping better, which is really selfish of me.
Hope you and your DH start feeling better soon, misshart00! No fun at all.
modernfairytale8709, I hoping SimCity will be enough to combat the mental boredom for me when the time comes. I love me some experimental tax structures.
Welp, I have my 40 week appt this afternoon. They had to schedule it special because they didn't think I'd last this long. HAHAHAHAHAHA. I'm hoping it'll turn out to be one of those legendary appointments where you go in, they tell you, "Hey! You're in active labor and didn't even know it! Let's get you admitted!" Yeah, that'd be nice. Otherwise induction on Monday.
Am I a bad mother because I get bored at home with my newborn? I mean, I seriously love cuddling this little life, but I need some actual brain stimulation at some point.
I hear you on this. I was just thinking, what do I do with him? Am I supposed to be "playing" to get him some stimulation? Or is it really just eat, sleep, poop? I try to get out at least once a week, but it's hard now since it's so cold out now.
My spam: I am just in awe at the amount if squeaks and grunts that baby makes. Seriously, it seems like some would hurt his throat? And the gas! OMG. And it's funny, so I laugh and if I'm holding him, he shakes, and then farts some more.
Hola! And happy Wednesday. DD is alert baby today which always makes it a little tougher to post here as I try not to be stuck to electronics when she is awake.
My dad booked me a flight for Sarah and I to visit my parents last night. It will be a month from now. Better start making my packing lists. I am not scared of flying with DD but it is a whole new experience so I know I would be planning what to take a night long.
dacora *hugs* sounds like a rough 24+ hours for all involved. I hope today is better. Getting some uninterrupted sleep in another room may be just the thing your husband needs to better cope / help / support / bond with you and LO today and tonight, not necessarily a habit for the rest of her infancy.
Post by michelle142 on Feb 25, 2015 9:11:29 GMT -5
Confession: when DS was a baby, I literally Googled "what do I do with a newborn?"
I had no clue! He was a very alert baby from the beginning, so I wasn't sure if I was supposed to be doing things to stimulate his little mind or not. DD is so sleepy, my plan is just to follow her lead as far as "activities" go (toys, play mats etc.)
Confession: when DS was a baby, I literally Googled "what do I do with a newborn?"
I had no clue! He was a very alert baby from the beginning, so I wasn't sure if I was supposed to be doing things to stimulate his little mind or not. DD is so sleepy, my plan is just to follow her lead as far as "activities" go (toys, play mats etc.)
Thank you for sharing that! I definitely Googled the same thing yesterday. Every time dd is awake I worry I'm not talking to her enough or stimulating her mind enough. Glad to know I'm not the only one who has done that.
dacora *hugs* sounds like a rough 24+ hours for all involved. I hope today is better. Getting some uninterrupted sleep in another room may be just the thing your husband needs to better cope / help / support / bond with you and LO today and tonight, not necessarily a habit for the rest of her infancy.
I second this. Also keeping the lines of communication open is important right now. I know a lot of things that upset me, my DH is completely oblivious about until I come out and tell him. It's not always easy but it helps. Best of luck!!!
Post by unconventionalatbest on Feb 25, 2015 9:55:07 GMT -5
I have been having timetable and painful contractions since Monday. They don't feel like they did with my last two babies though, so I keep thinking they are just false labor contractions. They actually did get to the crampy real ones last night but turned back into these this morning. Im slightly afraid these are real and just different that I'm used to and I'll end up delivering a baby by myself or something crazy.
Last night was tough as we got the full brunt of punishment from schedule fiddling. DH took the early shift and I think we went through about 3 complete outfit changes last night. Have to do some laundry today because of it.
I love these! I can't wait until it's warmer out and I can take my LO out in the backyard to look at the grass and trees and watch the doggy frolic and the cat roll in the dirt until he's filthy.
Post by seamonster on Feb 25, 2015 10:41:50 GMT -5
Did our squishy newborn pictures today. I loved our photographer and know they turned out great. I'm glad DH put his foot down about his dad and stepmother wanting to be there for the pictures and they stayed at their hotel this morning.
I'm secretly glad not to be entertaining them until tonight when we go out to dinner. I think I'm finally getting through to DH about always wanting to take LO out and about when he's barely a week and half old and how that's a bad idea given that he's not immunized against anything and we're already battling a case of pinkeye. I know he wants to take his family out and show them the city and a nice time, but I want to keep our baby from getting sick from the unwashed masses.
Am I a bad mother because I get bored at home with my newborn? I mean, I seriously love cuddling this little life, but I need some actual brain stimulation at some point. I'm actually heading to the in-laws today in an attempt to curb my cabin fever a bit. If you knew my inlaws, you'd know how desperate that makes me.
Not at all. I was going crazy within the first week of being home. California really hasn't had a winter and so I have been taking LO and our black lab on a 2 mile walk to the park. The dog gets stir crazy when he is not exercised every day.
Confession: when DS was a baby, I literally Googled "what do I do with a newborn?"
I had no clue! He was a very alert baby from the beginning, so I wasn't sure if I was supposed to be doing things to stimulate his little mind or not. DD is so sleepy, my plan is just to follow her lead as far as "activities" go (toys, play mats etc.)
Thank you for sharing that! I definitely Googled the same thing yesterday. Every time dd is awake I worry I'm not talking to her enough or stimulating her mind enough. Glad to know I'm not the only one who has done that.
I have that issue too. I feel like whenever he is awake I should be talking or something to him, but it feels kindof weird still since he doesn't react at all. DH is really good about reading to him when he gets home at night. He started in on the hobbit
Today my mom and I are taking LO to Bj's. Aside from going to the pedi, this is LO's first trip out. Very exciting. We were going to go yesterday and then realized that today will be the 2nd time above freezing since LO was born 3 weeks ago. Yesterday's high was around 19, so we decided to wait. Its so balmy out. The heat hasn't even come on this morning yet.
Post by kaydee0402 on Feb 25, 2015 10:48:40 GMT -5
Last night the husbandman did not snore and I was able to get a full night of sleep. Or at least as full of a night as you can get at 40+ weeks pregnant.
Rarity, glad to see you made it over from The Dump! I can't handle the shit show that is F15 anymore That humble brag about losing weight too fast after pregnancy ticked me off.
Post by boxerrrmama85 on Feb 25, 2015 10:51:48 GMT -5
1. It's snowing in TEXAS! I was about to head out to my first barre class pp and when I opened the garage door I realized it was snowing. I grew up in WI, so driving in snow doesn't phase me-- but chose to stay home because TX drivers can't deal! 2. I downloaded "spark baby" app that gives you a list of activities to do with baby at all different stages of development! It has definitely helped me keep myself and baby stimulated. I only started it once she was about 3 weeks old and was having longer awake stretches and not just eating, pooping, and sleeping! Being at home during cold and flu season is not very fun for mommas!
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