Adopting Sibling Groups - What do you know?
Feb 25, 2015 14:13:50 GMT -5
Post by persianmaman on Feb 25, 2015 14:13:50 GMT -5
The longer we go through this process, the more and more I really want to adopt a sibling group. DH is on the fence about this and there is no way we'll move forward with the idea unless we're both comfortable that we can go from no kids to 2 kids. (He has little experience with child, and worries the adjustment would be too big) I do not want to pressure him either, but I would love some information about adopting siblings groups if any of you guys have good resources? I've done some searching and have so far come up with pros/cons:
PRO
CON
Ideas? Thoughts? DH wants to adopt from China for our second adoption, but I really think it might be more important to at least adopt from Africa (if not South Africa itself) again so both children can connect over their ethnic background and look like one another.
PRO
- Biological connection with someone in the family.
- Someone who looks like them (same ethnicity).
- Huge needs for sibling adoption.
- Financially, adopting two doesn't increase the cost of paperwork, just travel, which gives us more money in the long run to support our family (we're planning on adopting two, no bio kids).
CON
- Delayed attachment, as they are more likely to seek comfort from each other. Faster attaching sibling usually slows to the pace of the more shy kiddo.
- Sibling trauma - when kids have experience trauma together, sometimes being with one another can exerbate memories/experiences.
- Adoptive kids needs more individual attention from parents that we could give one kid vs. two kids.
Ideas? Thoughts? DH wants to adopt from China for our second adoption, but I really think it might be more important to at least adopt from Africa (if not South Africa itself) again so both children can connect over their ethnic background and look like one another.