How Do We Want to Do Weekly Check-Ins?

[healz413]

Hey Folks!
kevinandjesse has suggested that our group is big enough now for separate weekly check-ins. What do we all think? Should we do separate check-ins (at least for long enough to see how it goes) or stick with one?

[RM80]

Ok- I voted to keep us together. As someone who's TTC I feel so 'alone' and not part of the group sometimes when we're all separate and I've been in the TTC check-in a long time so people come/go and dealing with the turnover can be hard. *sigh* probably just a TwoMomsInTX problem!

That said- I'm happy to separate as well if its better for the group, I agree we're getting larger and more people checking in too, which is wonderful, but can make the thread a bit lengthy & harder to follow.

[RM80]

Trying to propose something new as a middle of the road type solution, perhaps we can 'firm' up the check-in just a little. Create a list in the initial post of who's in what bucket & then have folks add a common 'header' to their check-in?

Something like...


Today's check in- blah, blah...
QOTW: xyz


TTC
TwoMomsInTX

Pregnancy
someone here

Parenting
someone else here
etc.

And a header at the top of your post might be simple:

*TTC- IUI*
*TTC- benched*
*Pregnancy- surrogate*
*Pregnancy- 23weeks*
*Parenting 6m and 3yo*
*Pregnancy and Fostering*

You get the idea...

ETA: Changed Pregnant to Pregnancy to try to be more inclusive of those partners who aren't pregnant! SORRY!  Open to other words, not my strong suit and want this to be as inclusive as possible!

[kh826]

I want everyone to be comfy, and I don't have a personal preference myself, so I am happy to do whatever the group wants on this one! For me it would be one update instead of two (once I get more into TTC), but it really doesn't matter to me. I shall go with the flow!

[ionaerebor]

I really like RM80's idea. Although the group is probably big enough to be worth having separate check-ins, and even though I'm new, I like seeing how everyone else is doing.

[wittyandwaiting]

I'm down for whatever but I like RM80's idea.

Can we try that for two weeks and re-evaluate?

[esquette]

I like RM80's idea! But whatever works. :-)

[Deleted]

Ok I voted for separate- but now I like 2moms suggestion. I think a quick reference would be helpful.

[amberreva]

For now I still like the check-ins being combined simply because even on TB the pregnancy check-in was one of the slower check-ins and I would always end up ready all check-ins regardless. Plus it is nice getting to know everyone in our community as it continues to grow. That said I like the idea of having a header of some kind before your check-in so people can skip over your check-in if it may be a trigger or if they are only interested in people going through the same stage as they are.

[karlamo]

My type A personality would love some organization with the check ins. I think headers would be a great idea!

[manada]

I also support RM80's idea.

And I also think it warrants a mention that perhaps the check-in thread isn't the place to post bump pics or baby pics? I'm just thinking that maybe if we want to keep it a safe place for those people who are TTC then keeping the triggering images to a minimum so that people can just scroll past a post if they are having a bad week might be a nice idea?

I also support another thread for bumps & babies pics if people want to share there.

[mahler5]

Headers sound great. I like it combined right now but could see the benefit of separate, although I don't know if there are really enough people in each group for separate now. There are definitely more but it's still not as many as we were getting in one parenting check in on TB. Plus, the TTC check in would definitely be on the small side right now.

[healz413]

Thanks, everyone, for the thoughtful feedback!

kevinandjesse and others who haven't weighed in or whose preference is for a combined check-in--- how do you feel about the suggestion of trying a combined check-in for a couple more weeks following RM80 suggestion of having a header at the top of new check-ins to make them easier to follow and manada's suggestion of not including bump, ultrasound, or baby pics in the check-in?

[kevinandjesse]

I absolutely love RM80, idea! And what a great point... I'm also part of a board (Third Party Reproduction) that isn't as active and know what you mean by "not part of the group". I'm so glad you thought of the headers because that sounds like the perfect solution. As amberreva, said, the headers let people skip over check-ins that might be triggers to others and keeps things organized. I love it!

manada, brings up a very good point about the baby bump and baby pictures... I think one of my main motivations for asking for the seporate groups was because there is a lot I would like to share but feel guilty doing so because I remember what it is like TTC. So the headers, combined with a seperate thread to post bump/baby pics sounds like the perfect solution.

I'm all aboard!

[twotxmommies]

im down for whatever. TwoMomsInTX idea sounds great.

[kona]

Feb 26, 2015 8:57:33 GMT -5 karlamo said:

My type A personality would love some organization with the check ins. I think headers would be a great idea!

This!

[Stringy]

Doesn't matter to me. But some structure would help me read them cuz sometimes it's hard to read so much text at once! (Lazy)