Getting tubes untied

[daisy818]

ETA OP since we had a DD (I didn't just post a random link, promise!)

OP: "Hi, me and my husband just got married a year ago.  I have 2 kids and he has 2 kids.  I got my tubes tied after my daughter in 2012.  Me and my husband want to have a baby together.  What is the process to get them untied?  What it hard? Thank you."

lmgtfy.com/?q=tubal+ligation+reversal

[treble]

I don't have any knowledge on tubal reversal. Can you talk to your doctor?

[nerdykitten]

There are a lot of factors that go into a doctor's decision to perform a tubal ligation reversal so you are better off having a consultation to go over everything with your doctor. Also most insurances do not cover the procedure so you will want to look into that as well.

[pumpkin0918]

She's looking for anyone who has gotten their tubes untied and asking for personal experiences with it. Were they able to get pregnant or was there too much damage? Did they end up having to do IVF?

I know OP, so I'm helping clarify what she meant.

[LadyNymeria]

Feb 26, 2015 12:09:53 GMT -5 daisy818 said:

lmgtfy.com/?q=tubal+ligation+reversal

That's awesome. I've never seen lmgtfy before. I'll have to save that for the future.

[Rama]

Feb 26, 2015 12:14:21 GMT -5 pumpkin0918 said:

She's looking for anyone who has gotten their tubes untied and asking for personal experiences with it. Were they able to get pregnant or was there too much damage? Did they end up having to do IVF?

I know OP, so I'm helping clarify what she meant.

I think what she meant was understood already, personally.

She really does need to talk to her doctor, though.  They have a lot more knowledge about what it will do to her than random lady A who got totally pregnant on the first shot or random lady B that was unable to get pregnant, even with IVF after reversal.  Other people's experiences don't really mean much in the grand scheme of things; what they experience can just as easily be the opposite of what you experience as the same.  Or you could have something completely SEPARATE happen.

Suggesting she talk to the person that knows her health better than the rest of us isn't bad advice nor is it misunderstanding her question.

[pumpkin0918]

Feb 26, 2015 12:20:43 GMT -5 Rama said:

Feb 26, 2015 12:14:21 GMT -5 pumpkin0918 said:

She's looking for anyone who has gotten their tubes untied and asking for personal experiences with it. Were they able to get pregnant or was there too much damage? Did they end up having to do IVF?

I know OP, so I'm helping clarify what she meant.

I think what she meant was understood already, personally.

She really does need to talk to her doctor, though.  They have a lot more knowledge about what it will do to her than random lady A who got totally pregnant on the first shot or random lady B that was unable to get pregnant, even with IVF after reversal.  Other people's experiences don't really mean much in the grand scheme of things; what they experience can just as easily be the opposite of what you experience as the same.  Or you could have something completely SEPARATE happen.

Suggesting she talk to the person that knows her health better than the rest of us isn't bad advice nor is it misunderstanding her question.

My response was more towards the comment to Google it, since Googling it won't really help her, either. But the same could be said about anything where different experiences are possible. She's planning on talking to her doctor, but just wanted to know other people's experiences, since she has no idea what to expect and doesn't really have anyone to relate it. I'm still TTC for my first, so I can only offer so much support/insight to what she'll go through. Is there a better board she could post on where she might meet other people who have decided to get their tubes untied?

[pismoduo]

Feb 26, 2015 12:28:35 GMT -5 pumpkin0918 said:

Feb 26, 2015 12:20:43 GMT -5 Rama said:

I think what she meant was understood already, personally.

She really does need to talk to her doctor, though.  They have a lot more knowledge about what it will do to her than random lady A who got totally pregnant on the first shot or random lady B that was unable to get pregnant, even with IVF after reversal.  Other people's experiences don't really mean much in the grand scheme of things; what they experience can just as easily be the opposite of what you experience as the same.  Or you could have something completely SEPARATE happen.

Suggesting she talk to the person that knows her health better than the rest of us isn't bad advice nor is it misunderstanding her question.

My response was more towards the comment to Google it, since Googling it won't really help her, either. But the same could be said about anything where different experiences are possible. She's planning on talking to her doctor, but just wanted to know other people's experiences, since she has no idea what to expect and doesn't really have anyone to relate it. I'm still TTC for my first, so I can only offer so much support/insight to what she'll go through. Is there a better board she could post on where she might meet other people who have decided to get their tubes untied?

Well, Googling might actually help. It might direct her to a forum specifically for women going through her exact situation. I would be willing to be that a lot of people who find an online support group find it by Googling their situation. It might also give her an idea of what to expect from the process, and what might happen afterwards.

I think it's entirely possible for us to be supportive without being in her exact situation. OP - just join in and get to know everyone.

[Rama]

Feb 26, 2015 12:28:35 GMT -5 pumpkin0918 said:

Feb 26, 2015 12:20:43 GMT -5 Rama said:

I think what she meant was understood already, personally.

She really does need to talk to her doctor, though.  They have a lot more knowledge about what it will do to her than random lady A who got totally pregnant on the first shot or random lady B that was unable to get pregnant, even with IVF after reversal.  Other people's experiences don't really mean much in the grand scheme of things; what they experience can just as easily be the opposite of what you experience as the same.  Or you could have something completely SEPARATE happen.

Suggesting she talk to the person that knows her health better than the rest of us isn't bad advice nor is it misunderstanding her question.

My response was more towards the comment to Google it, since Googling it won't really help her, either. But the same could be said about anything where different experiences are possible. She's planning on talking to her doctor, but just wanted to know other people's experiences, since she has no idea what to expect and doesn't really have anyone to relate it. I'm still TTC for my first, so I can only offer so much support/insight to what she'll go through. Is there a better board she could post on where she might meet other people who have decided to get their tubes untied?

I don't know, to be honest.  Though this is probably as good a board as any to post the question on.  Maybe Parenting, if she wants to cross-post?

Where she is, though, it's really hard to say "what to expect"s.  It's a waiting game to find out what's going to happen to (general) you and I think being as supportive as you are is awesome of you, even if you don't have the experience. 

alaliberte14, I hope your appointment with a doctor goes well and s/he can give you some insight on what to expect -- good or bad.

[pumpkin0918]

Feb 26, 2015 12:35:56 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

Feb 26, 2015 12:28:35 GMT -5 pumpkin0918 said:

My response was more towards the comment to Google it, since Googling it won't really help her, either. But the same could be said about anything where different experiences are possible. She's planning on talking to her doctor, but just wanted to know other people's experiences, since she has no idea what to expect and doesn't really have anyone to relate it. I'm still TTC for my first, so I can only offer so much support/insight to what she'll go through. Is there a better board she could post on where she might meet other people who have decided to get their tubes untied?

Well, Googling might actually help. It might direct her to a forum specifically for women going through her exact situation. I would be willing to be that a lot of people who find an online support group find it by Googling their situation. It might also give her an idea of what to expect from the process, and what might happen afterwards.

I think it's entirely possible for us to be supportive without being in her exact situation. OP - just join in and get to know everyone.

Very true. I directed her here for support on various parts of her journey (parenting for the kids she has, TTC after she gets her tubes untied, etc.), so I just didn't want her to get discouraged from this one post. It was worth a shot for the tubal ligation reversal, but you're right - she might be better off finding a separate forum for that part.

Alaliberte - I swear this place is supportive, lol.

[pismoduo]

Feb 26, 2015 12:44:10 GMT -5 pumpkin0918 said:

Feb 26, 2015 12:35:56 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

Well, Googling might actually help. It might direct her to a forum specifically for women going through her exact situation. I would be willing to be that a lot of people who find an online support group find it by Googling their situation. It might also give her an idea of what to expect from the process, and what might happen afterwards.

I think it's entirely possible for us to be supportive without being in her exact situation. OP - just join in and get to know everyone.

Very true. I directed her here for support on various parts of her journey (parenting for the kids she has, TTC after she gets her tubes untied, etc.), so I just didn't want her to get discouraged from this one post. It was worth a shot for the tubal ligation reversal, but you're right - she might be better off finding a separate forum for that part.

Alaliberte - I swear this place is supportive, lol.

See now, maybe I'm just cranky, but the last line kind of rubbed me wrong.

She was supported. Sometimes support is saying "You know, I don't know, but maybe someone else does". Yea, the let me google that for you was a bit sarcastic, but that's what we do here. It's in our job title, man. The rest of the comments she got were legitimately good advice.

[♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪]

Feb 26, 2015 12:09:53 GMT -5 daisy818 said:

lmgtfy.com/?q=tubal+ligation+reversal

Favorite website ever.

[alaliberte14]

I plan on talking to my doctor. But was just looking for personal experience. Thank you for all your insight

[alaliberte14]

Pumpkin0918 is my best friend. That's why she is replying. I'm not on this forum all the time. Which is why she is commenting for me.

[pumpkin0918]

Feb 26, 2015 12:49:10 GMT -5 pismoduo said:

Feb 26, 2015 12:44:10 GMT -5 pumpkin0918 said:

Very true. I directed her here for support on various parts of her journey (parenting for the kids she has, TTC after she gets her tubes untied, etc.), so I just didn't want her to get discouraged from this one post. It was worth a shot for the tubal ligation reversal, but you're right - she might be better off finding a separate forum for that part.

Alaliberte - I swear this place is supportive, lol.

See now, maybe I'm just cranky, but the last line kind of rubbed me wrong.

She was supported. Sometimes support is saying "You know, I don't know, but maybe someone else does". Yea, the let me google that for you was a bit sarcastic, but that's what we do here. It's in our job title, man. The rest of the comments she got were legitimately good advice.

Sorry! Didn't mean it that way. She was kind of turned off to the whole forum, so I was just commenting to let her know it is supportive. I know people get turned off to it when there's snark/sarcasm. Some of the supportive comments have showed up while I'm commenting and switching tabs around, so I don't see them until after I've posted. But yes, this post has turned out to offer good advice.

[heatherj9603]

Op, I have no personal experience. But I think a trip to your obgyn might be in order. Def way out the pros and cons of the surgery, speak with your insurance about coverage, etc.

[nachobutt]

Big girls can speak for themselves. We're not so scary if you just take the time to participate.

[kellybenelly83]

Yeah being turned off the whole forum because of one comment is a bit ridiculous. OP either participate or not, its your choice, but use your own voice.


It's also worth mentioning that you posted this on TTC. the likelihood of there being a woman here TTC after a reversal is pretty low. Many of us have never even been pregnant yet. Keep that in mind.

Also for the record Google really might have helped some of the more basic information, so dont knock it as a suggestion.

[♪♫choppinbroccoli♫♪]

Feb 26, 2015 13:08:28 GMT -5 nachobutt said:

Big girls can speak for themselves. We're not so scary if you just take the time to participate.

I can new-person confirm this.

[moutonrouge]

A lot will depend on the method used on both ends - what kind of method was used to tie your tubes and how it will be reversed. There are some methods which are more easily reversed than others. Your doctor will know more about the procedure and its success rate both generally and in your specific case than we would.

[daisy818]

To be fair, her initial question was also about the process of how a tubal ligation reversal works. The first few posts on the google search are to very good websites (like Mayo Clinic) addressing the procedure, process, and prognosis. Sorry if my mild sarcasm scared her away from what was actually a real response. But honestly, showing up and having your first post be about something that Google would be much better suited for does rub many of us the wrong way.

[nerdykitten]

Feb 26, 2015 13:18:28 GMT -5 moutonrouge said:

A lot will depend on the method used on both ends - what kind of method was used to tie your tubes and how it will be reversed. There are some methods which are more easily reversed than others. Your doctor will know more about the procedure and its success rate both generally and in your specific case than we would.

This is why I suggested the doctor consult because of the multiple factors. There are even male fertility side factors that might weigh into any decision you make. Most of my knowledge is secondhand and the person decided not to do the procedure. I hope that you can find a group that can give you more personal accounts of this procedure and the outcomes.

[alaliberte14]

Feb 26, 2015 13:31:55 GMT -5 daisy818 said:

To be fair, her initial question was also about the process of how a tubal ligation reversal works. The first few posts on the google search are to very good websites (like Mayo Clinic) addressing the procedure, process, and prognosis. Sorry if my mild sarcasm scared her away from what was actually a real response. But honestly, showing up and having your first post be about something that Google would be much better suited for does rub many of us the wrong way.

[be


Are you kidding me?

[kellybenelly83]

Hi, me and my husband just got married a year ago. I have 2 kids and he has 2 kids. I got my tubes tied after my daughter in 2012. Me and my husband want to have a baby together. What is the process to get them untied? What it hard? Thank you.


This is what you asked. You asked the process. Google could have helped immensely. Not a bunch of ladies who are ttc and likely havent gone through this. What did you honestly think we were going to reply?

[nachobutt]

Feb 26, 2015 13:38:07 GMT -5 alaliberte14 said:

Feb 26, 2015 13:31:55 GMT -5 daisy818 said:

To be fair, her initial question was also about the process of how a tubal ligation reversal works. The first few posts on the google search are to very good websites (like Mayo Clinic) addressing the procedure, process, and prognosis. Sorry if my mild sarcasm scared her away from what was actually a real response. But honestly, showing up and having your first post be about something that Google would be much better suited for does rub many of us the wrong way.

[be


Are you kidding me?

Nope.

[daisy818]

Feb 26, 2015 13:38:07 GMT -5 alaliberte14 said:

Feb 26, 2015 13:31:55 GMT -5 daisy818 said:

To be fair, her initial question was also about the process of how a tubal ligation reversal works. The first few posts on the google search are to very good websites (like Mayo Clinic) addressing the procedure, process, and prognosis. Sorry if my mild sarcasm scared her away from what was actually a real response. But honestly, showing up and having your first post be about something that Google would be much better suited for does rub many of us the wrong way.

[be


Are you kidding me?

Nope.  Your OP: "What is the process for getting them untied?"  I answered that by giving you a link to a bunch of helpful sites.  I also pointed out that if you ask a question that is for Google I will point it out.  If you aren't actually inquiring about the process of getting the reversal, then don't ask it - all we can go by are the words you type.

[daisy818]

Feb 26, 2015 13:38:07 GMT -5 alaliberte14 said:

Feb 26, 2015 13:31:55 GMT -5 daisy818 said:

To be fair, her initial question was also about the process of how a tubal ligation reversal works. The first few posts on the google search are to very good websites (like Mayo Clinic) addressing the procedure, process, and prognosis. Sorry if my mild sarcasm scared her away from what was actually a real response. But honestly, showing up and having your first post be about something that Google would be much better suited for does rub many of us the wrong way.

[be


Are you kidding me?

Also, if you are going to get all upset by mild sarcasm, I wouldn't go around saying things like this to what was a perfectly reasonable post.

[BrewGirl]

I side eye a pumpkin username. Just sayin.

Good luck on your tubal reversal OP. I don't really have any advice to offer. Sorry.

[risscaboobs]

We really need to start quoting for proof...

[daisy818]

Feb 26, 2015 13:54:07 GMT -5 risscaboobs said:

We really need to start quoting for proof...

Luckily someone did - I ETA the OP in my post, which is now the first one.