The married single mom
Feb 27, 2015 11:52:06 GMT -5
Post by mrsdee1982 on Feb 27, 2015 11:52:06 GMT -5
My husband is a restaurant manager, so his hours are opposite of mine. I work M-F 6:30-3:00, he works nights and weekends for the most part. And he works a ton of hours.
Back in September, he took a new job because at his old job, he was working between 80-90 hours per week, plus an hour commute both ways. It was just insane. His new job seemed very promising. Less hours (a 50 hour a week contract - 5 10 hour days per week), with mostly opening shifts, so he'd be home most nights.
Well, it hasn't really worked out that way. He opens most of his shifts, but he ends up having to stay until 10 or 11 at night. Like yesterday for example, he got to work at 9:00 am. He did not get home from work until 11 pm. I was fast asleep by then. This is a pretty normal occurrence now. We do not see each other 5 days out of the week.
Tomorrow (Saturday), he was supposed to go into work at noon, which means he won't be home from work until probably midnight or later. Well, at least we would have to morning with each other.
Nope. Now he has to go into work for a meeting 2 hours before his shift starts. So that means he will leave the house at 9:30 am and not be home until after midnight (at best).
I just don't see this changing anytime soon, and definitely not by the time little girl makes her arrival. So that means, at least 5 days out of the week, I am going to be the married single mom. It's going to be just me there to do all of the parenting, 5 nights out of the week.
Is anybody else in the same boat as me? How do you, or how do you think, you are going to handle this?
Back in September, he took a new job because at his old job, he was working between 80-90 hours per week, plus an hour commute both ways. It was just insane. His new job seemed very promising. Less hours (a 50 hour a week contract - 5 10 hour days per week), with mostly opening shifts, so he'd be home most nights.
Well, it hasn't really worked out that way. He opens most of his shifts, but he ends up having to stay until 10 or 11 at night. Like yesterday for example, he got to work at 9:00 am. He did not get home from work until 11 pm. I was fast asleep by then. This is a pretty normal occurrence now. We do not see each other 5 days out of the week.
Tomorrow (Saturday), he was supposed to go into work at noon, which means he won't be home from work until probably midnight or later. Well, at least we would have to morning with each other.
Nope. Now he has to go into work for a meeting 2 hours before his shift starts. So that means he will leave the house at 9:30 am and not be home until after midnight (at best).
I just don't see this changing anytime soon, and definitely not by the time little girl makes her arrival. So that means, at least 5 days out of the week, I am going to be the married single mom. It's going to be just me there to do all of the parenting, 5 nights out of the week.
Is anybody else in the same boat as me? How do you, or how do you think, you are going to handle this?