I had a coworker tell me around 20 weeks that I was "huge already" and she never got that big with her daughter. Thanks for making me feel even more whale-like than I already do, and completely negating the positive comments I received earlier in the day.
I had a coworker tell me around 20 weeks that I was "huge already" and she never got that big with her daughter. Thanks for making me feel even more whale-like than I already do, and completely negating the positive comments I received earlier in the day.
She probably had a magical birth experience, her daughter was potty trained at 1 and is a genius. People are aholes.
Two weeks ago at a birthday I had everyone telling me I don't look pregnant (yes my bump is on the smaller side, especially compared to my friend who is only a few weeks behind me and having twins).
Last night I was at a different party but with a lot of the same people. One of them commented on how my bump looks real now. My favorite from last night was that I had someone tell me "oh that was quick for you guys." I gave her a weird look and said something like we've been married for a year and a half. What's even more confusing is that she's a few years younger than me and just had a baby herself. I must have missed the memo on this magical timeline I'm supposed to follow. Apparently, us both being ready isn't sufficient timing. Oh well.
Even if the baby hadn't been planned, we'd be very excited. We literally had the conversation about 2 months into dating (since I wasn't on the pill), how if I accidentally got pregnant we'd be just as happy (although probably more stressed, ha!).
Had a family dinner tonight. Most of my family hasn't seen me since about 16 weeks (no bump). I posted last night a picture showing how if I look down I can't see my feet with out leaning forward. Most people were very sweet tonight - several people said your bump isn't THAT big, you have small feet. Thank you? Also, I still can't see them... So half my family thinks I'm bigger than I should be or I'm not that big. Oh well.
Our entire office has tile floors and you can hear people when they walk down the hall. This is a professional office so people generally wear dress shoes/heels. Well heels are loud on tile floors and when I walked into the kitchen my coworker says "Oh you're walking heavy today!" I wanted to tell her "Well I'm 6 months pregnant bitch. What's your excuse?" but decided not to start drama at work. Ugh....
I "borrowed" my parents' extra verismo to make hot water for tea at work. I'm sick, and I'd rather drink tea than take meds, but my boss swears $5/month for a hot water dispenser in the break room is too expensive. So I finally said to hell with it and asked if I could use their extra one (we have one, but we only have one, and we use it routinely at home...neither of theirs ever gets used...this one has been sitting in a box in their garage since Christmas).
My "favorite" airhead coworker is bitching because the machine is too loud. I've used it ONCE, since I just brought it this morning.
She can STFU and deal with it. I'm sick at work, she can deal with it vibrating the desk for 2 minutes a couple times a day!!
Also, I'm really debating switching mine for theirs when I return it. Theirs is red and matches my kitchen lol.
I have a cousin whom I do not get along with that I had to see at a family event this weekend. EVERYTHING with her has to be a competition. I mentioned to my aunt that DS was starting speech therapy this week and my cousin chimed in and said "Oh man. Well, DS is behind in reading." SERIOUSLY?? Competition is that fierce that you have to bring up your 10 year old's reading delay at the family dinner table in FRONT of him? STFU.
Was going to make a thread about this but I figure it's kind of relevant to this topic. I do wish they would STFU.. SO's manager who has just had a baby boy last November is pissing me off. After going to the work and talking to him (She's on maternity leave) she offered us baby clothes, which I'm grateful for but I politely declined them as it's our first and I have my pride and would like to purchase his clothes. I haven't accepted anything else from anyone else. I am grateful I just want to do it myself. She then continued to text him later that day saying have you spoken to anyone about fiances ect. Excuse me? But am I wrong in thinking SO fiances and my own are personal and private between us? It's none of her business, we're fine thank you. It's SO and my baby, nothing to do with her. SO says I'm being paranoid and ridiculous. I feel uncomfortable with it. I don't know exactly why I just do. He also texted her a few days after the scan announcing the sex because she asked him to tell her a few weeks before. It just bugs me. Am I being stupid. I've made my discomfort with this very clear to him. He brought it up the other day that maybe we should take the stuff. I flat out said no, as I don't want to encourage her to stick her nose in. He said okay, as he doesn't want to upset me. I have this sick feeling that he'll keep entertaining her though when she asks questions. Should I just ignore it, as I have been recently. I guess since he knows how strongly I feel then he'll take that into consideration. I just don't think she would have liked me texting her SO on how to go about our baby... Hmp..
EDITED:- because my lovely little grandmother just said 'oh, ..your belly is like a balloon.' Thanks gran
I had a friend's boyfriend tell us: "Don't take this the wrong way, but I really hope you're not opposed to using corporal punishment if necessary."
Like, WTF, how do I even respond to that? We were in mixed company, so I didn't want to start an argument one way or another, so I simply said "We'll be doing what works best for us and this baby."
I had a friend's boyfriend tell us: "Don't take this the wrong way, but I really hope you're not opposed to using corporal punishment if necessary."
Like, WTF, how do I even respond to that? We were in mixed company, so I didn't want to start an argument one way or another, so I simply said "We'll be doing what works best for us and this baby."
Uh, what? What is the "right" way to take that?? I'd be pretty pissed! "Don't take this the wrong way, but I'm really hoping you plan to parent the way I would parent if this was my kid."
@jimbobcooter, I'm going to play devil's advocate here but a close friend congratulated a coworker on her pregnancy (she was definitely pregnant) and then, HR did a broadcast announcement saying it was inappropriate to approach a pregnant lady about her pregnancy. As it was, the coworker didn't want the baby and was highly offended that someone had the nerve to congratulate her. *raised eyebrow*
Sheesh, these posts make me grateful for the majority of people I work with. They actually tell me I look cute, even on the days when I look like death haha.
I really wanted to hang up on my MIL this weekend. After everything that happened on Friday, I didn't want to make more of a big deal about it, because I needed to chill out. DH called his mom and told her anyway, then ends up putting me on the phone. So I have to re-hash everything all over again and tell her we're okay for now, but I'd love some peace and quiet at this point in the pregnancy. I don't think she really meant to, but she made me feel like a total attention whoring beast because she went on for several minutes about how DH needs the peace and quiet more than anyone because of his schoolwork/exams, etc. Um duh...I know this. I'm not supporting her son just because I think he needs some damn time to putz around for six to seven years of his adult life. Even thinking about that conversation makes me crave chocolate to cope haha...
Post by whoopsadaisy on Mar 2, 2015 18:47:03 GMT -5
Small or large or whatever I just do NOT understand where people get off commenting on a pregnant woman's size. (Or actually, really, any person - can we stop size-shaming people in general?) Today my co-worker who is adorably 7 months pregnant with her third baby (in three years, bless her sleep-deprived heart) was told by a another colleague, "You're way bigger than you ever were with the first two already. I can't believe you have two more months to go. You look like your ready to pop now!" I just stood there blinking and my sweet preggo colleague muttered something about every baby being different. If I hadn't been so shocked I think I would have slapped the other girl. I mean, how is that okay? Are you even thinking about how that comment would make her feel?
Small or large or whatever I just do NOT understand where people get off commenting on a pregnant woman's size. (Or actually, really, any person - can we stop size-shaming people in general?) Today my co-worker who is adorably 7 months pregnant with her third baby (in three years, bless her sleep-deprived heart) was told by a another colleague, "You're way bigger than you ever were with the first two already. I can't believe you have two more months to go. You look like your ready to pop now!" I just stood there blinking and my sweet preggo colleague muttered something about every baby being different. If I hadn't been so shocked I think I would have slapped the other girl. I mean, how is that okay? Are you even thinking about how that comment would make her feel?
Every time I catch myself THINKING "oh she's getting so big!" about a pregnant coworker in a how cute/ love it/ sqeee way I always make sure to SAY "oh you look so good!" Can't go wrong.
To everyone - the things people have said to you are incredible!! I can't believe half them. So far no one has said anything whacky to me (aside from my mother's constant comments about how big I'm getting...lady, at least I have an excuse for my big belly...), but I have one for a friend:
My BFF got married July 2013, she had just started her career (speech pathologist) and she and her husband moved and they had a lot of stuff going on. She also had a couple of health issues she was dealing with and because she is self-employed had to start paying in to employment insurance in order to be eligible for mat leave. (You have to have been paying in for 12 months before you make a claim.)
ANYWAY, she is and has been very very open with pretty much everyone about the fact that they are now ready to start a family and are working on it. (Read: pulled the goalie.) When I went for lunch with her the other day she said her dad was talking about her and her sisters birthdays and said they were going to do a "40 and Fabulous" thing for her sister, and "30 and still no children" for her.
I seriously just sat and stared at her for a minute before I could even process it. She said she started to cry and her dad got upset with her for being "too sensitive" about it. Uh, dude, if you know someone is working on starting a family don't f-ing make a stupid comment like that - what if the reason she's not pregnant yet is because she can't get pregnant, or maybe was pregnant and lost the baby?? ARRGH. Normally I would trade my parents for hers in a second but that comment pretty much made me say "nope"!
Post by ombradellarosa on Mar 4, 2015 13:18:45 GMT -5
I think people in general really don't know what a pregnant woman is meant to look like and they make comments anyway. First of all, there's a wide range. But so many people have been told at 9 months that they look like they should have popped already that my only conclusion is, they don't know what pregnancy looks like. My mum keeps telling me I'm huge, which may get on my nerves eventually but right now is just countering all the people that said I wasn't showing. Including my SIL-"Your dad said you were showing, but oh, not really!" So not only are you denying that I'm showing (which I definitely am by most accounts now) but calling my father a liar? STFU with that. In slightly more amusing news, I finally announced publicly on Facebook last week. One girl said she's "been waiting for this." Her husband asked us if we even wanted kids when we had been married for two years and hadn't had any yet. So ridiculous and insensitive. So now that we've been married four years and I've finished my degree and we feel ready, no one has asked us if it's an accident. That girl and her husband probably think we've been struggling and finally got pregnant. Just because they've had a baby a year starting immediately after they got married. People are different, okay?
In slightly more amusing news, I finally announced publicly on Facebook last week. One girl said she's "been waiting for this." Her husband asked us if we even wanted kids when we had been married for two years and hadn't had any yet. So ridiculous and insensitive. So now that we've been married four years and I've finished my degree and we feel ready, no one has asked us if it's an accident. That girl and her husband probably think we've been struggling and finally got pregnant. Just because they've had a baby a year starting immediately after they got married. People are different, okay?
Preach! I can't even count how many people would come up to me and DH and say "No kids yet?" or "Don't you want children?" which is really super awesome for someone who was apparently infertile. When it comes to children/pregnancy people really have no filter.
Exactly! The only thing worse than the assumption that we didn't want kids because we hadn't had them yet was, what if we had been trying and it was really sensitive? For all he knew I went home and cried that night! We know people that have struggled with infertility, so I would expect him to be more sensitive about that instead of being a (albeit accidental) big dumb jerk.
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