In today's episode of Please Just STFU....

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In court this morning we were all sitting around waiting and I was talking with our County Attorney about scheduling cases to be heard before I left on leave.   The social worker at the table with him looked at me and said "Oh, you're pregnant?"   I smiled and patted my belly and said yes.    She then said, "Oh, soooooooo.... should I say congratulations or.... "  Uh, or what?!  What is the other alternative?  My condolences?  Why would you NOT say congratulations?  I stared at her blankly for a second and asked "Well we spent over two years trying and had to do treatments to get here so yes, congratulations."  Which made her turn about 20 shades of red.   But let's assume this wasn't planned.   Would it being a surprise somehow make it tragic?   Just WTF?

[pickles]

Omg. People are just unbelievable! All of my patients assume that this baby was "an accident" and start asking inappropriate questions and then most of them say something about how my weight loss 2 years ago probably helped my infertility issues. Do I really need a PSA to explain to everyone that yes I've been married for 11 years and my decision to get pregnant now was our choice.

[laurenlou83]

Good for you for saying that to her @jimbobcooter! Some people, I swear they just don't have manners, or just common social etiquette.

My episode of please STFU...

We were all gathered around our break room table earlier today for a co-worker's birthday celebration. A co-worker (who annoys the shit out of me) says "Ohhh you're looking even larger today!". Not, ohhh you're belly is growing or something "cute". Nope, just that I'm larger. Oh, thank you! I'm growing a human, which means my stomach is going to continue to grow. Asshole.
Another co-worker piggy backed on that and said "You aren't going to be able to wear that shirt you take your weekly pictures in much longer either!". I had posted a pictured on FB comparing 18wks vs 24 wks yesterday wearing the same shirt and she was referring to that. Oh, and thank you, asshole #2. I may be overly emotional these days, but it took every ounce of me not to burst into tears

What makes people, especially other women who are mothers themselves, think it is okay to judge/make comments to a pregnant women on her body like that??

[pickles]

And I have to be nice instead of telling people that I wasn't too fat to get pregnant and maybe I've just enjoyed 11 years of fucking my husband and trying not to get pregnant until now.

[maddib]

Oh my freaken Jeeze.. This woman on my fb group Moms of trach babies posted two side by side pictures saying they just found out THIS morning she was pregnant. One pic is of her pee stick the other of her insanely huge fucking belly... I asked if that was an old pic. She said no that's from this morning I am showing like crazy already!! I said fuck it and said "that's just bloat.. Your uterus is no where near being above your pubic bone yet.. You are not showing baby!" She hasn't commented back yet. I mean seriously! STFU already. You say this is your third baby!! You just found out you are pregnant and aren't even 8 weeks yet but your fucking belly looks bigger then mine. Just fuck off you dumbass!!!!

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Feb 27, 2015 16:29:53 GMT -5 maddib said:

Oh my freaken Jeeze.. This woman on my fb group Moms of trach babies posted two side by side pictures saying they just found out THIS morning she was pregnant. One pic is of her pee stick the other of her insanely huge fucking belly... I asked if that was an old pic. She said no that's from this morning I am showing like crazy already!! I said fuck it and said "that's just bloat.. Your uterus is no where near being above your pubic bone yet.. You are not showing baby!" She hasn't commented back yet. I mean seriously! STFU already. You say this is your third baby!! You just found out you are pregnant and aren't even 8 weeks yet but your fucking belly looks bigger then mine. Just fuck off you dumbass!!!!

LOL! This is like my coworker who swore she already had a bump at 5 weeks because duhh it's her second baby! 

[maddib]

Feb 27, 2015 16:37:40 GMT -5 @littlebee said:

Feb 27, 2015 16:29:53 GMT -5 maddib said:

Oh my freaken Jeeze.. This woman on my fb group Moms of trach babies posted two side by side pictures saying they just found out THIS morning she was pregnant. One pic is of her pee stick the other of her insanely huge fucking belly... I asked if that was an old pic. She said no that's from this morning I am showing like crazy already!! I said fuck it and said "that's just bloat.. Your uterus is no where near being above your pubic bone yet.. You are not showing baby!" She hasn't commented back yet. I mean seriously! STFU already. You say this is your third baby!! You just found out you are pregnant and aren't even 8 weeks yet but your fucking belly looks bigger then mine. Just fuck off you dumbass!!!!

LOL! This is like my coworker who swore she already had a bump at 5 weeks because duhh it's her second baby! 

Ya I see this a lot. It's like that's your excuse for not sucking your gut in anymore. Just get real..

[mathistm]

I'm so happy at work for me, as a therapist, it's commonplace to always turn it back on my clients. When clients ask I can just easily say "therapy works best when we keep the focus on you and what is going on with you". Pisses a lot of people off but I will clearly talk to them about transitions/terminating when I am closer to having to do so. I have a teenager who seriously sulks because I am pregnant, for her full 50 minutes because she will have to change counselors and small children who draw pictures of me with a baby in my belly with xs for eyes. It's a strange field.

[Widget123]

STFU daycare, DD is not deaf, she is just ignoring you when you tell her to do things she doesnt want to do.

[kemdupuis]

STFU MIL- already shoving parenting advice down my throat. If you were such a wonderful mother, why have I had to train DH to function as a normal adult in society?!

[erbear]

I turned down cupcake today. Co-worker commented "but you're eating for two!" Yeah, until it's just me left with a ton of weight!

[hbanana18]

Some people - when I bought HPTs once, the cashier goes 'oh are we hoping for a baby or...' I think I just kind of stared at her and said 'uh yeah...' But how terrible is that to ask?!?

[Deleted]

@jimbobcooter good for you sticking up for yourself!! This has happened to me and I hate it! Since DH and I have only been married for 1.5 years, people like to say "wow! That didn't take long! Were you even trying?!" Which is so personal... I have started to say actually "yes, and we started our fertility journey before our wedding, so we were thrilled when the treatments finally worked, thank you for asking."

[wormgerm]

My husband on me requesting more lube for a foot rub I was promised yesterday (and didn't receive so I requested it today) and he's all "if you want it that oily we should just use oil instead of this $14 bar" which ok,
A. Fuck you
B. It was a fucking valentine's day gift to me
C. We have not used it yet, what's the point, just to look at it?
D. My feet hurt and are dry please just cough up the 10 minutes you OFFERED me

Edit: it's a Lush massage bar

[missjenniebean]

I always had people asking me if I was on BC or using condoms. I'm like... Idk you that well and noneyabusiness. People are so nosey.

[pickles]

Feb 27, 2015 20:54:13 GMT -5 missjenniebean said:

I always had people asking me if I was on BC or using condoms. I'm like... Idk you that well and noneyabusiness. People are so nosey.

Always tempting to say something like, "no, but we only do anal so we thought we wouldn't need BC" 

[mrskblack11]

Feb 27, 2015 20:58:00 GMT -5 pickles said:

Feb 27, 2015 20:54:13 GMT -5 missjenniebean said:

I always had people asking me if I was on BC or using condoms. I'm like... Idk you that well and noneyabusiness. People are so nosey.

Always tempting to say something like, "no, but we only do anal so we thought we wouldn't need BC" 

#buttbaby

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Wait first off, who says something like that??? I know. A socially awkward person who has no f*ing clue!!

[Bluedaisy]

Yikes! I've been lucky so far nobody has been really rude. One of my students did say "Your belly is getting bigger." But she's in grade one and had just hugged me.

[Deleted]

I've had so many people at work tell me 'wow, you're getting big'. If I hear it one more time I could completely lose it on someone.

[Deleted]

I had someone yesterday say "you definitely look pregnant now" but the manner in which she said it was completely unoffensive. It was just more along the lines of "you were able to hide it for a very long time..."

[megeliz1]

I get a lot of 'your going to have your hands full'. Well no shit. 2 babies in 15 months was not the plan but it's not impossible either, like everyone keeps trying to make it sound.

[tinavonsparkle]

In the coffee room at work and whatever I'm eating, whether it's fruit frikkin salad or a slice of co-workers birthday cake which everyone is scoffing somebody, ALWAYS makes a comment. Yesterday I was just not in the mood. 5 min lunch break because it was just too busy so I grab my 0% fat free natural yoghurt with a spoonful of honey and some dick in front of literally 20 people said "you eating again (Yes I have lunch most days - dosnt everyone?!?) - I can't believe how strict your diet used to be compared to what you eat now" (excuse me what?! If anything I'm more healthy, I'm just not starving myself like I used to pre pregnancy and why is it any of anyone's business?!) and then proceeds to ask me my breast feeding plans (que sniggers from immature 18yr old male porters) and asks if my nipples are leaking yet. There were no words.

[jcprn]

Feb 27, 2015 18:07:22 GMT -5 kemdupuis said:

STFU MIL- already shoving parenting advice down my throat. If you were such a wonderful mother, why have I had to train DH to function as a normal adult in society?!

Yes! Exactly!

[ktbear]

Feb 27, 2015 18:59:39 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

A girl I graduated with had her baby today. She named him Kale. KALE. Like the leafy green. Plus side here is that we all no longer have to worry about our baby names sucking. Because, unless one of us is planning on naming our kid Turnip or Strawberry, I think we're safe.

Omgosh, I know people that named their kid Kale! They said it was not after the veggie, they just thought it was a good strong name, but I don't understand!! It's not a name at all, let alone a "strong" name.

[sgarmand]

DH's cousin just had a baby in late January. She was overweight when she got pregnant and gained quite a bit more over her pregnancy. We were at DH's family function not too long ago and she made the comment to her husband as I was walking out of the room "I hope she gets really big, like really really fat." Well thanks for that, that does wonders for my already unhealthy body image!

[Widget123]

Feb 27, 2015 18:59:39 GMT -5 @pcrunk said:

A girl I graduated with had her baby today. She named him Kale. KALE. Like the leafy green. Plus side here is that we all no longer have to worry about our baby names sucking. Because, unless one of us is planning on naming our kid Turnip or Strawberry, I think we're safe.

That name was actually on Nameberry's list of baby name trends for 2015. Redic

[jcprn]

Feb 28, 2015 9:05:48 GMT -5 sgarmand said:

DH's cousin just had a baby in late January. She was overweight when she got pregnant and gained quite a bit more over her pregnancy. We were at DH's family function not too long ago and she made the comment to her husband as I was walking out of the room "I hope she gets really big, like really really fat." Well thanks for that, that does wonders for my already unhealthy body image!

Ugh, what a jerk! She's probably just insecure about her own issues. I feel like that's similar to the "just you wait" comments. Like people WANT you to be miserable at some point, ie pregnancy, labor, having kids in general.

[bruunk]

I commented on a friend's FB about measles, joking that is wanted a hazmat suit. An acquaintance responded telling me that germs are good for baby and will boost their immune system! A) no shit Sherlock B) i see no problem with a little dirt don't hurt - it's going to happen - but the common cold does not equate to measles!!

[brennaz]

I'm just going to strangle my spouse today. If I hear him say one more time, "you're pregnant" I'm going to murder him. I don't understand...did he not know I was pregnant? Is he surprised by the giant belly? Does he think I don't know that I'm pregnant? WTAF? It's like 2x a day now, and really freaking irritating.