I am so confused and frustrated
Feb 28, 2015 15:38:58 GMT -5
Post by lbey on Feb 28, 2015 15:38:58 GMT -5
Sorry guys, but it has been awhile I don’t post… Here is my update!
We had our first home study appointment! There were two social workers, one that represents us and another that represents the kids. They seemed very nice at first and then I guess they turned on their SW mode…
In one house of conversation, our SW determined that DH and I need marriage counseling. Why?
Well, just a little background, in the past, we had some trust issue. When we decided to go for adoption, we thought it was better to have counseling so we could start the process as strong as possible. It was very helpful for us and we felt like we were in a great place again after the sessions were over.
Now, going back to present, we took the Enrichment test as the agency requires and we scored really high on compatibility and satisfaction.
Our SW conclusion: We are in denial of our problems and we never solved our issue with the previous counseling. There is no way we are so happy with each other and we have a real big problem. We must do marriage counseling again and this time with a different person because the one we did was not good. H and I looked at each other very confused but we agreed to do the counseling, after all, she is the one who decides if we can have kids.
I got home, called my insurance. They don’t cover Marriage counseling (I have a new insurance). I wrote the SW back saying that and asked her if she can recommend someone because we will have to go private, which is okay as we don’t mind paying for it (anything for our kids).
SW writes back saying we are seeing it wrong and we must look into it more because she feels our insurance is wrong. She also said I cant take the sessions by myself, it has to be as a couple (wait, what???).
Please somebody tell me; Is this normal? Is this a test to see how serious we want It or how strong we are?
We had our first home study appointment! There were two social workers, one that represents us and another that represents the kids. They seemed very nice at first and then I guess they turned on their SW mode…
In one house of conversation, our SW determined that DH and I need marriage counseling. Why?
Well, just a little background, in the past, we had some trust issue. When we decided to go for adoption, we thought it was better to have counseling so we could start the process as strong as possible. It was very helpful for us and we felt like we were in a great place again after the sessions were over.
Now, going back to present, we took the Enrichment test as the agency requires and we scored really high on compatibility and satisfaction.
Our SW conclusion: We are in denial of our problems and we never solved our issue with the previous counseling. There is no way we are so happy with each other and we have a real big problem. We must do marriage counseling again and this time with a different person because the one we did was not good. H and I looked at each other very confused but we agreed to do the counseling, after all, she is the one who decides if we can have kids.
I got home, called my insurance. They don’t cover Marriage counseling (I have a new insurance). I wrote the SW back saying that and asked her if she can recommend someone because we will have to go private, which is okay as we don’t mind paying for it (anything for our kids).
SW writes back saying we are seeing it wrong and we must look into it more because she feels our insurance is wrong. She also said I cant take the sessions by myself, it has to be as a couple (wait, what???).
Please somebody tell me; Is this normal? Is this a test to see how serious we want It or how strong we are?