MIL, wtf...

[bluerainfire]

so. apparently the dh had some argument with his mom last weekend- some arguments were exchanged, and she yelled at him, or so on- I have no idea what he said back, or how quickly he left her house-

so she is suppose to watch our daughter tomorrow so i can go to work, and take the big on to school- and i had him text her, to make sure she is doing this- because I have no idea whats going on in her head- she is passive aggressive- and she hasn't texted back...
Plus after ten years of being together with my dh- I am not sure if she even likes me...

for one i am sure she is convinced i keep her grandkids away from her- I don't, she could call at any time and request me to bring them over- she never does this. My parents both of them call to see what were up to, or I call them...and my mom is a wee bit crazy..so i got enough on my plate, plus my parents are 13 years older then she is-

I am not her daughter, it is not my responsibility to call her. I go out of my way to make sure she's included in things- she says she loves watching our daughter, but bitches, I mean bitches every time I pick her up about how tired she is....
about six months ago she had the nerve to ask my 8 year old if I was fighting with my dh, and if we were still togeather, really wtf. That really hurt my feelings...
this was out of the blue-


so now my dh might have to call of work tomorrow, I can't call off because I used all my attendance days this quarter, and would be placed on warning..and she only watches the little one every other monday, and hasn't in a long while because of holidays and the snow...

I guess I just had to get that out, I am just really frustrated...and i don't think its my job to say hey dh call your mom- i dont get that much quallity time with him..because we trade kids for work,school, and work some more...

[vlagroupie]

wow, I've got a passive aggressive MIL too, so I feel your pain. My MIL also does the same thing, she never calls and asks us to do anything but acts sad when she hasn't seen her granddaughter in a little. Hope it all works out for you.

[sstwinklinglites]

bluerainfire - I'm sorry you're dealing with this! Hearing stories like this make me so glad to live far away from family. I hope things work out and your DH doesn't have to take the day off.

[chunkymonkeylvr]

How frustrating. You DH needs to step in and have a conversation with his mom. If this is an on going issue with her using her watching the kids when she agrees to as a barter tool, or a way to get back at you or DH, then you might want to look at other child caring options.

[bazingaa]

Yeah, I second having DH handle this one. His mom, his mess to clean up. Sorry you are going through it though!

[ladytiffany24]

Man, this sucks. If there's one thing I can't stand, it's people being passive aggressive. My MIL does it often but in a way where she comes off as soooo nice and with a smile on her face. I hate it.

I agree with PP. DH has to deal with this mess!! Sorry you're having to deal with this.

[nachomomma]

What a crappy situation. Hopefully she acts like an adult, and doesn't take her argument with your husband out on your child.

[bluerainfire]

I let the Dh handle the mess. I don’t know what time she responded or not. Just drives me insane, how passive aggressive she is. I am glad I am not the only one in these shoes. Problem is she is our closet relative, and my parents are aging and can’t handle our toddler. I occasionally like going on dates with my husband, and don’t want to burden my friends all the time with my kids…

[sstwinklinglites]

Mar 2, 2015 12:18:24 GMT -5 bluerainfire said:

I let the Dh handle the mess. I don’t know what time she responded or not. Just drives me insane, how passive aggressive she is. I am glad I am not the only one in these shoes. Problem is she is our closet relative, and my parents are aging and can’t handle our toddler. I occasionally like going on dates with my husband, and don’t want to burden my friends all the time with my kids…

I hear ya. When we were in Miami, I refused to let DS stay at MIL house. She's a hoarder, not to an extreme where you can't walk into her house, and she keeps the house relatively clean, but nonetheless, not suitable for children, so unless my mom could keep DS so DH & I could go out while we were there, it just wasn't happening. Here, we have yet to go anywhere without DS.

[bluerainfire]

I feel ya- My parents have watch my kids at our house, but there house I feel is unsafe for my busy toddler without me present. My Ds may go over there to spend the night with grandpa, but he's older, and doesn't need constant supervision at all times...
The dh and I have agreed that we need some date nights, because we rarely see each other with our work schedules- but emmm that hasn't happened in a while.

anyhow, I have no clue whats going on with the crazy mil, quote from my husband- i feel alien to my mother, or i was dropped off by alienss-sigh-