I left work early since I got sick. When I started walking to my car it started to rain really hard. So as soon as I got home I changed my clothes and went to bed. I just woke up and still feel like crap. I habit to pick up LO in an hour
Post by Cherhorowitz on Mar 2, 2015 19:06:43 GMT -5
We're not going to HI for a few weeks. I just am already thinking I am crazy for taking a baby to HI with that insane time difference. We are actually headed to Disney this week!!
Sometimes I don't know why I live in a place that's so damn cold. We are under storm warning tomorrow. Last time I checked we are supposed to get 6 inches in as many hours.
Thanks for the love and good thoughts everyone. DH and I talked and I feel better. We've only been married about two and a half years, so I imagine having a baby so early in our marriage makes things a little more trying sometimes. We're working on our issues, thankfully nothing major, just not communicating well. I feel better after talking!
Thanks for the love and good thoughts everyone. DH and I talked and I feel better. We've only been married about two and a half years, so I imagine having a baby so early in our marriage makes things a little more trying sometimes. We're working on our issues, thankfully nothing major, just not communicating well. I feel better after talking!
I think adding baby into the equation is hard no matter how long you've been together. MH and I have been married almost 12 years (dated for 7 years before that). So we waited a long time before adding a baby.
As I thought about what I wanted to say to my husband tonight, I wondered if we would have figured out some of this stuff that was bothering me (boiled down to communication and sex) if we would have waited To have kids. I miss the passion and the romance we used to have.
We are both a little older (he's 32, I'll be 30 next month) and didn't want to wait too long to have kids. So we kinda jumped in with both feet and got pregnant a few months after our wedding. I have absolutely no regrets. But I think you're right, adding kids to the equation just makes marriage a little more difficult at any stage.
I think adding baby into the equation is hard no matter how long you've been together. MH and I have been married almost 12 years (dated for 7 years before that). So we waited a long time before adding a baby.
As I thought about what I wanted to say to my husband tonight, I wondered if we would have figured out some of this stuff that was bothering me (boiled down to communication and sex) if we would have waited To have kids. I miss the passion and the romance we used to have.
We are both a little older (he's 32, I'll be 30 next month) and didn't want to wait too long to have kids. So we kinda jumped in with both feet and got pregnant a few months after our wedding. I have absolutely no regrets. But I think you're right, adding kids to the equation just makes marriage a little more difficult at any stage.
I had DS when I was 19 and 5 months into my marriage. For us, it got worse before it got better.
@mothereffer her day was fabulous! We went to gym.class where everyone sang to her and her bff. Then she got her haircut. Then to toys r us for a toy of her choice. Then chick fila for lunch. Then playing at home until spaghetti dinner per her request and cookie cake!
Apparently M is a bully. Today when I picked her up there was an informational handout about biting in every kids cubby. I asked M if she had bitten anyone and her teacher said, "Uh huh, and pushing and elbowing and steeling toys too!" M is the smallest kid in her daycare class by far, and her teachers say, "That Maggie is a wild one, you don't mess with her! She is small but mighty!" Her teacher was not saying it in a bad or negative way or anything, just was telling me about it since I had asked. She did also say that the other kids seem to love her and are always surrounded around her. As I walked in to the room I did see her in action, she pushed another girl and then ran off dragging a riding toy behind her. DH just now told me that one morning when he dropped her off, a kid walked up to her, reaching out for her pigtail. The teacher said to the kid, "You better not do that, you know she's going to get you!" The kid just backed up and walked away. I have no idea what she did to "get him" the last time, but whatever it was I guess it was memorable for a toddler. The crazy thing is we have never seen her exhibit anything close to any aggressive behaviors at home. At home she extremely affectionate. I know it is very common toddler behavior which is why they were not making a big deal about it and just put a handout in the cubbies, but I have a mix of somewhat humored (at the idea that she is a tiny little bully and already learning to stand up for and defend herself), confused (as to how to discipline a behavior that I never see), and concerned emotions. Either way, I'm pretty sure I'm in trouble.
ggandlee I'm sure they talk to M about nice touches and the sort of thing. Since she doesn't do this at home maybe praise her for her gentleness and affection at home.
ggandlee I'm sure they talk to M about nice touches and the sort of thing. Since she doesn't do this at home maybe praise her for her gentleness and affection at home.
Yeah, this is a good idea. We always tell her to be "soft and gentle" with the dogs but I think we need to start more actively praising her for it and making a big deal about it when she does it well. I will ask her teachers tomorrow if they already talk about it and if not if they will start.
ggandlee Emmett has started hitting while at home when he's frustrated so I'm going to start praising his use of words and gentle behavior. DC said they haven't noticed him doing it there which, is a relief to me. I know it's normal but I am a little concerned about it, too.
ggandlee I think it is hard since our babies are alone at home. I know E is with older (not bigger) kids at dc so he is a bit rambunctious
You are probably right. I think maybe I need to find other moms with similar aged children to have some monitored play dates so that I can see the behavior and have the opportunity to correct it myself? Hmm... Maybe I can stalk the diaper aisle of the grocery store looking for good candidates? That would be weird and creepy.
Post by xolastunicornxo on Mar 2, 2015 22:36:40 GMT -5
Sunny41 I do the workouts but not the meal plan. I've been adding them in on top of my normal gym workout, which is running and weight training. I really like it because it's super quick (like like then 20 minutes) but I always end up sweating. It also makes me feel a lot less lazy on the weekends when I tend not to go to the gym but still get in at least a BBM workout. I've heard a couple people (I think mellochello?) say they do a few of the workouts a day… the are quick enough that that is totally doable.
I guess it depends on what your fitness level is. If your just starting out I think these would be great workouts to start with. They are tough enough to make a difference,e but I don't think they would be intimidating to someone who wasn't as fit. If you already are pretty active I would suggest adding them onto your normal routine or utilizing them on days you can't do your normal routine. I hope that helps!!!
Post by dreamingmommy4 on Mar 3, 2015 1:13:39 GMT -5
I'm only just now catching up on today's happenings as it was a busy day in our house! We had baby Aurora (the LO I am doing full-time daycare for) here for the first time and L was so sweet! She has always shown a love and gentleness towards other kids and it is just so amazing to watch how sweet and gentle she is even though A is a tiny little thing. it makes my heart happy that she will get to be a big sister this year and will be well practiced by the time her sibling arrives. It is definitely going to be an adjustment taking care of two and tomorrow will be a big challenge! We have L's well-child checkup in the morning and then have to hit the grocery store in the afternoon. My supermom skills will be really put to the test.
I am so sorry to hear that so many of you had such a rough day. I hope that everyone gets better/feels better/tomorrow is better soon!
Post by wineallthetime on Mar 3, 2015 8:19:58 GMT -5
Ok, more BBM talk. I've been doing them at the gym along with my regular weights/cardio. I don't do them in order, just pick one at random. Do you guys think it's more beneficial to go in order??
Thanks for the love and good thoughts everyone. DH and I talked and I feel better. We've only been married about two and a half years, so I imagine having a baby so early in our marriage makes things a little more trying sometimes. We're working on our issues, thankfully nothing major, just not communicating well. I feel better after talking!
I think adding baby into the equation is hard no matter how long you've been together. MH and I have been married almost 12 years (dated for 7 years before that). So we waited a long time before adding a baby.
Agreed. We had been together 9 years when I got my BFP, and married 4 1/2. We have faced a lot of struggles together and had 3 minor fights in that whole period. We're still doing okay, but nothing really could have prepared me for the stress a new baby and PPD would place on us. Hugs karadee. It's really hard figuring out how this whole thing will work once there is a very needy, completely dependent human added to the equation.
ggandlee I'm sure they talk to M about nice touches and the sort of thing. Since she doesn't do this at home maybe praise her for her gentleness and affection at home.
Yeah, this is a good idea. We always tell her to be "soft and gentle" with the dogs but I think we need to start more actively praising her for it and making a big deal about it when she does it well. I will ask her teachers tomorrow if they already talk about it and if not if they will start.
This is what we try, too. I have the kid that bites. The teachers haven't said he instigated anything, but if another kid tries to take a toy or something, he is not having it. At all. I think we'll just have to work on telling him if he is too rough and takes toys from his friends, they may not want to play as often. As far as I know, he's never tried to hit or kick another child.
I don't want him picking on anyone, but at the same time, I think this is a positive trait, especially given Maggie's size. To quote our pedi, "Your son is no shrinking violet, either in statute or personality. He certainly has no problem sticking up for himself." I like knowing his natural inclination is to make it clear when he doesn't like how someone is treating him, even if that means he makes it known that he thinks the world is ending when he has to wear socks or we wipe his nose.
Post by xolastunicornxo on Mar 3, 2015 14:32:50 GMT -5
wineallthetime I prefer to go in order, only because it holds me more accountable. Like,I know I will finish the whole 90 day program because i don't like to start anything and not finish it. If I was just picking random workouts I think it would be easier for me to quit.
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