Weekly Check-In (3/2/15)

[Stringy]

Thanks you guys. I'm currently just fully pissed off that every doctor/nurse I see seems to tell me a different plan. The doc who did the SHG said not to come in today (day 11) cuz my follicles were still small. But she didn't tell me when to come in - said my doc would call me yesterday. Well she didn't. So I just spent a half hour trying to get someone to tell me something. But there seems to be nothing in my chart and of course doctors never have time to call anyone back. This is not what I needed. karlamo is it always like this? I thought they were supposed to be great about setting up a plan to follow but I've yet to see one.

[kevinandjesse]

Mar 2, 2015 8:23:32 GMT -5 kevinandjesse said:

*Pregnancy- surrogate - 20w+1d*

a/s is this Wednesday morning!!! I feel so late compared to all my pregnant friends who knew between 15-18 weeks... but still, I just can't wait to see how much the LO has grown! I can't wait to hear that little heartbeat again! I can't wait to find out if LO is a boy or a girl. We are all getting boy vibes, all the old wives tales are pointing to boy, gender chart=boy... but who knows This will be an exciting week Half Way!!!!

It's a boy!!!!! Called it from day 1

[officerofthelaw]

Beta today-195

[healz413]

Congrats kevinandjesse! Does that mean that the anatomy scan went smoothly? Good news all around?

officerofthelaw, congratulations! Fingers crossed for doubling. When do you go in again?

[karlamo]

Mar 4, 2015 10:13:06 GMT -5 Stringy said:

Thanks you guys. I'm currently just fully pissed off that every doctor/nurse I see seems to tell me a different plan. The doc who did the SHG said not to come in today (day 11) cuz my follicles were still small. But she didn't tell me when to come in - said my doc would call me yesterday. Well she didn't. So I just spent a half hour trying to get someone to tell me something. But there seems to be nothing in my chart and of course doctors never have time to call anyone back. This is not what I needed. karlamo is it always like this? I thought they were supposed to be great about setting up a plan to follow but I've yet to see one.

I'm sorry this is your experience with them. If you're going to FS they have 4 female dr's. I saw Dr. K. She always called me either around 1pm or after 4pm. We also dealt with their main office not the satellites. As you probably know, you see which ever dr is covering that days office. They then report back to your dr who calls you with the next step. I've never had anyone other than my own dr tell me what to do next. They always deferrd to my dr.
We only did one medicated cycle with them which was IUI #5, so I don't remember exactly what that looked like. They gave us a printed calander with a generic time frame and then after each u/s or blood draw they called same day to tell us when to come back. Most of the calls came late afternoon after they got results back.
It's weird you're having trouble since I was just there 6 weeks ago and felt like we talked to them daily!
Hope you get this straightened out. I have been know to show up without an apt and had them do bloodwork or u/s. I'm very assertive like that, though I know not everyone is comfortable doing that.

ETA: I should clarify and say one medicated/monitored IUI with them. The rest was 4 IVF cycles with them.

[kevinandjesse]

Mar 4, 2015 12:41:34 GMT -5 healz413 said:

Congrats kevinandjesse! Does that mean that the anatomy scan went smoothly? Good news all around?

officerofthelaw, congratulations! Fingers crossed for doubling. When do you go in again?

Yes, all went very smoothly! The little guy was squirming around so much he really made the nurse work for it! But everything checked out spot on. He is a little small (24th percentile) but Dr. said nothing to worry about. Healthy baby boy so far! Great news! it is a good day

[healz413]

That's excellent, kevinandjesse! Congrats!

[leftitblank]

**Pregnant-31 weeks**
Sorry for the late update, a little busy the last few days.

Had a two week check-up on Monday and everything is going smoothly. Most of the hime work our MW assigned to us we had already started that morning so it's good to know we're on the right track. (Finding a pediatrician, touring the hosp, making sure we're signed up for a class)

Also stopped by Buy Buy Baby to finally get a glider. Little boys room is starting to come together, just waiting on the baby shower to finish it up!

Also spent Tuesday morning making our gym room into a bedroom. I'm usually the muscle so it was hard to kind of just sit back and watch my wife. I did move the 5lb dumb bells though!!! But now we have a room for the grandparents and great grandparents when they come up in May. No ones left to an air mattress.

QOTW: Both of us love to travel so we've taken quite a few trips, but if I had to pick one trip, I would have to go with our honeymoon to Tahiti and Bora Bora. It has always been a dream vacation and we were able to pull it off. 5 days in Tahiti where we did the excursions and then 5 days n Bora Bora where we mainly just enjoyed our over the water hut and personal jacuzzi. It was so relaxing and more beautiful than any postcard can show!

Tahiti


Bora Bora

[mahler5]

Congrats kevinandjesse!!! Glad the scan went well.

[Stringy]

Mar 4, 2015 12:47:48 GMT -5 karlamo said:

Mar 4, 2015 10:13:06 GMT -5 Stringy said:

Thanks you guys. I'm currently just fully pissed off that every doctor/nurse I see seems to tell me a different plan. The doc who did the SHG said not to come in today (day 11) cuz my follicles were still small. But she didn't tell me when to come in - said my doc would call me yesterday. Well she didn't. So I just spent a half hour trying to get someone to tell me something. But there seems to be nothing in my chart and of course doctors never have time to call anyone back. This is not what I needed. karlamo is it always like this? I thought they were supposed to be great about setting up a plan to follow but I've yet to see one.

I'm sorry this is your experience with them. If you're going to FS they have 4 female dr's. I saw Dr. K. She always called me either around 1pm or after 4pm. We also dealt with their main office not the satellites. As you probably know, you see which ever dr is covering that days office. They then report back to your dr who calls you with the next step. I've never had anyone other than my own dr tell me what to do next. They always deferrd to my dr.
We only did one medicated cycle with them which was IUI #5, so I don't remember exactly what that looked like. They gave us a printed calander with a generic time frame and then after each u/s or blood draw they called same day to tell us when to come back. Most of the calls came late afternoon after they got results back.
It's weird you're having trouble since I was just there 6 weeks ago and felt like we talked to them daily!
Hope you get this straightened out. I have been know to show up without an apt and had them do bloodwork or u/s. I'm very assertive like that, though I know not everyone is comfortable doing that.

ETA: I should clarify and say one medicated/monitored IUI with them. The rest was 4 IVF cycles with them.

Thanks - yea I know I'll see whoever is in the office I go to on that day - but the whole "report back to my doc and have her call" part hasn't really happened. I most certainly have not received a calendar - and I did consider just going in tomorrow morning. But we will see.

Congrats kevinandjesse,  !

[karlamo]

Strings, being nosy here so no need to respond.
Is the fact that your follies still small on this CD a sign that maybe you've been doing your IUI's too early? Or have been doing them later in your cycle?

[Stringy]

Mar 4, 2015 13:50:30 GMT -5 karlamo said:

Strings, being nosy here so no need to respond.
Is the fact that your follies still small on this CD a sign that maybe you've been doing your IUI's too early? Or have been doing them later in your cycle?

I think my average positive OPK is like 15 or 16 - though once it was 11. I'm so happy to have more concrete evidence to do this.

And after two more phone tags I have it figured out to go in tomorrow. Then I will barrage them with more questions. And I think I'm gonna trigger this time cuz it can't hurt.

Did I say happy bday to R yet? Yay for toddlers!

[karlamo]

Mar 4, 2015 14:21:29 GMT -5 Stringy said:

Mar 4, 2015 13:50:30 GMT -5 karlamo said:

Strings, being nosy here so no need to respond.
Is the fact that your follies still small on this CD a sign that maybe you've been doing your IUI's too early? Or have been doing them later in your cycle?

I think my average positive OPK is like 15 or 16 - though once it was 11. I'm so happy to have more concrete evidence to do this.

And after two more phone tags I have it figured out to go in tomorrow. Then I will barrage them with more questions. And I think I'm gonna trigger this time cuz it can't hurt.

Did I say happy bday to R yet? Yay for toddlers!

Do the trigger. I like to leave nothing second guessing my chances.

Toddlers are a whole new breed! I keep forgetting he can walk and I set him down thinking I can do xyz and he runs away. I need to watch him like a hawk.

[03mrstn]

so today was my beta and we got a BFN. I'm taking it in stride. I'm sad but it's only our second time trying, so i'm doing my best not to be too down. we don't when we are going to try again. What i do know is that i'll be having a glass of wine tonight.
Everyone else in the two... GOOD LUCK!

[wittyandwaiting]

Mar 4, 2015 9:15:24 GMT -5 jgy said:

wittyandwaiting, one of the great things about this group is that no one would ever judge you for having a "Bad attitude." No matter how many times or for how long! Sounds like your benched cycle could be therapeutic for you, especially with access to booze.

If you'd like to share, I know I'd love to hear more about your DS! I'm sure others would too.

Thanks for this! You're right - That's why I really appreciate having this space and all of you!

My DS a totally awesome human being...I'll make a point to share more. Because he's older and not having the same type of milestones sometimes I don't think of sharing; but he has one or two hairs growing out of his chin this week....that's new and I keep looking at him and thinking "Holy Crap! My baby is a total dude!" but I don't want him to notice me noticing and get all weird teenage boy about it. LOL

[wittyandwaiting]

Mar 4, 2015 14:54:42 GMT -5 03mrstn said:

so today was my beta and we got a BFN. I'm taking it in stride. I'm sad but it's only our second time trying, so i'm doing my best not to be too down. we don't when we are going to try again. What i do know is that i'll be having a glass of wine tonight.
Everyone else in the two... GOOD LUCK!

03mrstn - That sucks! Enjoy your wine and good luck when you try again.

(Note: Edited because I misread something and my response didn't make sense)

[kona]

Parenting 7 month old girl and pre TTC #2

This week has been a whirlwind. I have worked the past 12 days and I think that is making everything worse this week :-( I also had an evening meeting at work last night and got home late. I have probably mentioned this a thousand times but we paid off M's student loan which had been a huge goal and I thought I would be a lot happier about it. But it doesn't change much on a monthly basis, we still can't live on my salary so she still has to work. It is nice to not have us hanging over us but I thought I would feel different somehow. I keep searching for a way to make more at one full time job and not have to work 2 and still feel like it's not enough.

Our washing machine broke Saturday (after we had it fixed 6 weeks ago). It was old so we bought a new one delivered Monday. I did one load of laundry and the new machine stopped working. Such a pain. Hopefully it will be fixed this afternoon. I hope we didn't get a lemon of a machine. It just put a wrench in the week with laundry all over my house and struggles to get the cloth diapers cleaned as usual.

And it's March and the weather here still SUCKS. I'm so over it. My birthday is Saturday, turning 35 and I'm just so blah about it.

Well this was a downer of a post and I apologize. I'm hoping a few days off will improve my mood!

QOTW:
We went to Hawaii a few years ago and took a 2 week cruise to different islands. It was awesome, we saw live lava flowing, that was one of the coolest things I have seen/done.

[RM80]

kevinandjesse, YAY for a healthy baby boy!!

Stringy- I hope you get things worked out soon, this is not stress you need to be having!

03mrstn- Sorry for the BFN

[RM80]

HAHAHA- I just noticed your screen name is different Stringy, and it seriously made my laugh out loud at my desk! I love it!

[Stringy]

Apparently you can change them anytime and easily here - although that sometimes makes for mass confusion. Your original name stays for tagging or something. I think. And it doesn't change on tapatalk....

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kevinandjesse, Congrats on the boy! Glad to hear he's healthy and well in there. my boy: sensitive and smart, courageous and yet needs hugs and snuggles. He picked out some Elsa kitten heels yesterday... Hes a stellar mix of his own choosing and I cant imagine anyone else being my son. Just a love fest to everyone parenting boys today. Almost everyone on our block and in our world is parenting girls. SO we carve out what it means to be a boy in our own way. I hope Im doing justice to the little person next to me.

[kevinandjesse]

@sherminator, I hear you there with the girls! Almost everyone in my family and around me was having girls there for awhile... I was starting to wonder if they still made boys anymore! haha. Can I just say how much I admire the way you raise and love your LO? I think sometimes we live in a world that is attempting to squash creativity and expression. So to see a family supporting their child in defining himself rather than letting society tell him who he is... that fills my heart! #PerentalWinning