We attempted to dtd last night. And it hurt about as bad as I was expecting despite lube and some red wine. At least the first try is out of the way now ... DH has been doing most of the motn stuff but got up today, changed the dictator and put him back down, while he was still cry fussing. This is after I asked him to change/feed the baby at his first wake up because I was asleep and he was just playing a video game. And he let the baby fuss then cry for awhile before feeding him. I went in, grabbed the baby, and said I'll do it since your game is obviously more important. Gr.
Bbq later on at a coworkers house. LO is ktfo and i don't know why the eff I'm still up.
I'm excited about the iced coffee I got at target today. The one that comes in the quart and ready to serve. I'm that lazy. Can't even bother to make my own coffee.
We attempted to dtd last night. And it hurt about as bad as I was expecting despite lube and some red wine. At least the first try is out of the way now ... DH has been doing most of the motn stuff but got up today, changed the dictator and put him back down, while he was still cry fussing. This is after I asked him to change/feed the baby at his first wake up because I was asleep and he was just playing a video game. And he let the baby fuss then cry for awhile before feeding him. I went in, grabbed the baby, and said I'll do it since your game is obviously more important. Gr.
Yeah. This is how DH has been. It's irritating but I'm trying a new thing where I don't give him the silent treatment. It hasn't been working. Lol
Our friends were nice and brought us lunch yesterday. I ate all the delicious food before I realized that I probably shouldn't have because it was spicy Indian food. Crap. Poor baby has been so fussy and gassy. It's not fair that what I eat affects my milk. For me or baby.
I have 4 little bears, just like my name says. 2 girls 2 boys ages 8,5,3, and my newest babe. 2 of my little bears have life threatening food allergies, feel free to ask me more about that!
Post by 4littlebears on Mar 8, 2015 6:37:59 GMT -5
Yay.... Time change.... It definitely feels like S' normal 5:30 feeding, but now it's 6:30 and it's pointless for me to go back to sleep after this. We're always late for church, so I'll just have to get in the shower when he's done so I have a head start. It'll only be like 15 mins earlier than normal. Boo. At least the days will be longer now! We do enjoy the extra light in our house
I have 4 little bears, just like my name says. 2 girls 2 boys ages 8,5,3, and my newest babe. 2 of my little bears have life threatening food allergies, feel free to ask me more about that!
I wish pumping didn't take so long. That's easily my least favorite thing about it. Why are we not funding something that will just suck all the milk out gently in two minutes tops. So much more convenient
Post by funinthenorth on Mar 8, 2015 7:38:39 GMT -5
Also - last night I had 2 glasses of wine and got on fb - I thought I was so witty. I might stay off fb next time I decide to go all crazy on a Saturday night
Man, this daylight savings is messing with me. LO only slept 4 hours last night, but I guess I'm to blame because I let her sleep in the momaroo for too long instead of putting her to bed. I wasn't ready for bed yet because I had some cleaning to do. We're having my family over today for an overdue birthday celebration for 5 of us. I'm so tired and not feeling it. Also, BIL is in the ICU so the timing really couldn't be worse. My husband is going to see him this morning, then coming back for the get together. I know he won't be feeling it, but I appreciate him not canceling today. I really hope BIL has some better days coming up. This whole thing is just really sad.
Post by tomorrowisanotherday on Mar 8, 2015 9:11:42 GMT -5
I think it is funny that we have gone from talking about all the sleep we weren't getting to now all the sleep we are getting! Yay for sleeping babies It is so reassuring to be able to hop on here and see what is "normal" and what is going on with other babies LO'S age. I don't think you could have this size of support/community IRL and I just wanted to say that I appreciate you gals!
tomorrowisanotherday Just to keep things familiar I'll whine about the sleep I'm not getting...I only get about 45 minutes to an hour at a stretch. I'm exhausted, we all have colds, and I've still done nothing about my hurt back. Woe is me...
My ILs are still here, and things are going fine. Just minor annoyances. For example, I nurse in my bedroom so I can get some alone te with DS. The second I get downstairs MIL comes up to me with her arms out wanting to take the baby away. She also wears a lot of scented product, so not only does the whole house smell like her, so does LO...I change his clothes often. Really minor stuff, and I know I'm lucky. FIL just annoys me. He's super high strung. But the kids love them, so ultimately I'm glad they're here.
This is my third random of the day but I had a dream I had to kill a baby because it was a demon baby and now am so upset at myself for doing that in my dream.
Holy shit Z slept for 9 hours! She fussed once around 6am but went back to sleep when I gave her a binki. I feel like a new woman! Our plans to go have lunch with a friend of mine and her daughter were canceled this morning. Her little one isn't feeling well so we are going to visit daddy at work instead. I'm really bummed. I haven't seen her since Z was born and I was really looking forward to catching up.
tomorrowisanotherday Just to keep things familiar I'll whine about the sleep I'm not getting...I only get about 45 minutes to an hour at a stretch. I'm exhausted, we all have colds, and I've still done nothing about my hurt back. Woe is me...
My ILs are still here, and things are going fine. Just minor annoyances. For example, I nurse in my bedroom so I can get some alone te with DS. The second I get downstairs MIL comes up to me with her arms out wanting to take the baby away. She also wears a lot of scented product, so not only does the whole house smell like her, so does LO...I change his clothes often. Really minor stuff, and I know I'm lucky. FIL just annoys me. He's super high strung. But the kids love them, so ultimately I'm glad they're here.
My MIL smells like smoke; she doesn't visit very often, but I hate letting her hold LO.... And she's coming today
tomorrowisanotherday Just to keep things familiar I'll whine about the sleep I'm not getting...I only get about 45 minutes to an hour at a stretch. I'm exhausted, we all have colds, and I've still done nothing about my hurt back. Woe is me...
My ILs are still here, and things are going fine. Just minor annoyances. For example, I nurse in my bedroom so I can get some alone te with DS. The second I get downstairs MIL comes up to me with her arms out wanting to take the baby away. She also wears a lot of scented product, so not only does the whole house smell like her, so does LO...I change his clothes often. Really minor stuff, and I know I'm lucky. FIL just annoys me. He's super high strung. But the kids love them, so ultimately I'm glad they're here.
I nurse in the bedroom too for the alone time. I usually cuddle him for a few extra minutes before I come out because I know my MIL will want him as soon as I get to the living room.
Post by shannjohnston on Mar 8, 2015 10:47:55 GMT -5
Grab your beverage of choice - this will be a long one.
Backstory 1 - I went out for dinner and a concert with my parents last night. I left the house around 5:30 and was home around 11:30. Backstory 2 - DS has a cold and LO has been on a two day fussiness bender Foreshadowing - I have tickets for another concert this Thursday with my siblings. Plan is to leave around 5 and do drinks after, potentially getting home really late.
Main Story - DH is in charge of the kids for the night. I have bottles ready - both full 4oz ones and 'emergency' 2oz ones. FIL has offered to help out. I am out the door and enjoying some without-the-kids time. Awesome dinner, had a couple drinks, off to the show. Figure I should be a good wife and text DH, see how it's going. Response is not good. DS did not eat anything for dinner, refusing to go to sleep. LO has been crying non-stop. Dog keeps wanting to go out only to bark her face off at nothing. I can tell from the tone of the texts DH is losing his shit. FIL is a wonderful man, but is a very gentle soul and is not much help other than an extra set of hands. Now I'm anxious, but I'm doing my best to enjoy the concert. I check my phone again as we're heading home. DH says DS didn't go to sleep until 10. He got really mad at the dog and smacked her in the face. LO has gone through all the milk, including the emergency bottles, is still unhappy, he has resorted to ear plugs. Not cool DH. DS could have been calmed to sleep by FIL. Don't take the anger out on the dog - just stop letting her back outside. I know upset baby can be a mind fuck when there is no obvious reason to the crying, but you can't just give up and let her scream. You also knew she's been super fussy the last couple days, and I'm sorry you didn't get an easy night where you could just play NHL while the kids slept, but sometimes you've got to man/dad up. I get home. LO isn't crying anymore, but I can tell she has been. A lot. My boobs hurt from skipping a nursing session, and though she definitely doesn't need the milk, she needs to calm down and get some sleep. So we all head up, I get ready for bed (instead of pumping), nurse her until she falls asleep (almost instantly) and then fall asleep myself. Since she's been up most of the day, she sleeps until 6:30am, skipping another feed. My boobs are rocks. She nurses only from one side, falls asleep again. I am still tired, so I fall asleep again. DS gets up at 8:15, and my boobs HURT, so I get up with him. It takes almost 30 minutes to pump out what remains in my boobs, but I'm finally feeling ok. DH gets up with LO around 9:30. Everyone has now had enough sleep and has eaten/drank breakfast and we're back on track.
Cliffhanger - what is going to happen Thursday? My parents have been put on notice to help out. DH says he "can't handle both kids, especially not in the middle of the night" because he has work the next morning. Ok, I can get behind that, but what is your plan then? He wants to give the kidlets to my parents for the night and wash his hands of it all. I don't think that is solving the bigger picture of DH learning how to manage being a dad to two. I get that it's a challenge, it's been a steep learning curve for me too, but you're only going to get better if you try. Andplusalso, my parents are not set up to have both DS and DD stay over. Could we buy/bring all the things they need? Sure, but that's a logistical nightmare. Flip side: I also know how hard it is to get everyone back on schedule after a chaotic day/night. I also hate skipping multiple feedings, having to pump rock boobs, and getting little sleep. I'm still going to the concert, but maybe I skip out on drinks? But I also really want to 'make' DH step up his game. Stay tuned for the next instalment...
shannjohnston I'd say your husband needs to suck it up. Go to your concert, get your drinks, and enjoy yourself. Everyone will live. I've had times when I've thought twice about leaving my husband with LO, but what good is that going to do? He needs to learn how to parent, too. The whole household can't crumble when mom isn't around.
So my random #2 for the day. I sneezed and sent LO into a fit. Seriously would not stop crying. She can be so dramatic sometimes.
We're going to the coast today, going to see the Goonies house. It's a 2 hour drive from where we live but LO does so well in the car I'm not too worried about it. It's nice to get out of the house with DH; he gets so lazy sometimes it bugs me.
shannjohnston I'm with you on this one. Hubby needs to step up his baby game and figure it out. I'm in a situation where DH takes the easy way out and usually hands her back to me almost immediately or sets her down and gives her the bunny (is a binky with a bunny on it). And he wonders why she cries when he tries to hold her. Grr.
shannjohnston I'm team DH needs to suck it up. He's going to have to learn eventually. My DH loves to call his mother to come pick up our 2 yr old DD when he has to be alone with DS. Drives me crazy!
I got super excited this morning thinking DS had given us a 5 he stretch ( would have been first ever)..... Then remembered the time change... Sad face
tomorrowisanotherday I'd hate it if my baby smelled like a smokey MIL. hopefully she doesn't hold your baby too long. Good luck!
hollydfromtn I guess stealing the baby is a MIL trick. I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one hiding out in my bedroom. I also wear DS a lot, and she has a harder time taking him then. Usually she'll just follow me around, looking sad until I give her the baby.
shannjohnston I agree that DH needs to step up. Does he at least appreciate how good you are when you have them both on your own? Could you just have your mom or a friend come over to help out for bedtime? It seems like the logistics of getting both kids to your parents overnight would be incredibly complicated.
shannjohnston I say enjoy yourself! I agree your husband needs to figure it out.
hazelnut my lo doesn't appreciate sneezes either. I sneezed 3 times in a row while nursing him and each time he promptly unlatched, made a pouty face and cried the most mournful cry ever.
We finally hit 40 degrees yesterday and took lo for his first walk! It's going to be 40-50 degrees all week so I see lots of walks in our future! It'll be nice to get moving, our treadmill stopped working so it's been hard to be active when it's been so cold out.
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