Social Media and your LO

[mands1125]

I think it's a reasonable request. I know a good friend of mine made a similar request.

[krispy83]

I think if you're limiting what you post as far as pictures, it's not unreasonable to ask others to do the same. It's a personal preference that, as parents, you are certainly entitled to have. I'd be annoyed too.

[abb1701]

I get annoyed by the same thing. I'm a FTM I take lots of pics to send to family but only post a few online. I learned very quickly that any pics I send to my SIL are immediately posted online. So now I only send the pics I post online. I haven't said anything to her because I can control what she sees.

I would say something if it really bothers you. It's your LO not hers. It's your right to control what is or isn't posted.

[tee]

I'm not posting a ton mainly (3 pics maybe??). What bugs me is when my sil and aunt share all of my photos. Grrr. I post much less because of that.

[flyster]

Trigger warning: Loss mentioned)


I'm posting less then I would have because I have a good friend who lost her baby at 22 weeks who was due the week after me. My MIL posts more then I do, but I actually like it That said, i think you are totally within your rights to request less or no posting. I would just suggest as with all things MIL related that Hubby communicates the request from both of you.

[mrszee]

DH is not on fb but I am and both of us agree that we do notwant pics of DD on fb before she can decide if she wants to be on social media/we decide it is okay. My mom does not understand privacy on fb AT ALL (yes, she is one of those people who tags herself AT HOME and you can actually see my parents house, why don't you just leave the key out for robbers??) and DH laid down the law with her saying no pictures on fb when we saw them at the holidays.

This led to a passive-aggressive fb post about how DD's dad won't allow pictures when she was born. You would think my mom has thousands of followers who care, but she doesn't and no one even liked her status that DD was born. I guess that's narcissism for you??

[hollydfromtn]

DH and I got rid of our Facebook accounts years ago. So I have no way of telling what others have posted. I still post pics on Instagram though.

One thing that has worked with our family, as far as sharing pictures goes, was setting up a Dropbox folder and inviting all of our family to it. This way my family that lives over 2hrs away still get to see him growing without me having to blast his pics all over social media. Everybody has access to it and they can upload any pictures they've taken as well.

[aggiebug]

MIL posts more pictures of DD than we do, it not my preference to have her post so many but it isn't a battle I choose to fight. I think it is within your right to request them to limit/ stop, it's just not worth it to me.

[Mom2Ms]

I have posted pictures of baby on FB and Instagram. So has DH. We both have private/blocked accounts on both.... We have asked others to NOT post pictures. We feel that at least with our own accounts we can regulate things. The biggest issue is DHs mother who will post anything and everything to everyone....

[osumegs]

I have a fb account but dh does not. We decided we didn't want her pictures all over the place. We've posted maybe two (I think), though the newborn photographer was a friend of ours and she posted some. we made our view pretty clear to family and everyone but sil has been ok with not posting. We just explained that I don't know everyone on their friend lists, so I'm not comfortable with them having lots of pictures of my child.

That said,my husband's extended family is coming in a few weeks and they post multiple pics and videos a day of their 3 month old. They've already made some passive aggressive comments about daughter needing to have more pics online for out of town family, so I have a feeling we will be having the same convo with them.

[dacora]

DH and I really don't have problems with her pictures being online, at least while she's this little. I'll probably be more wary once she's older, though. I also have my Facebook set to Private so no one can see my pictures unless they're friends (this also applies if someone tries to Share my post; only people on MY friends list can see the Shared post).

MIL posted a bunch of pics while they were down here but so far I haven't felt like I need to talk to her about posting stuff. When DD gets older though, I am going to be a lot more selective about what kinds of pictures get posted. I don't want anything online that might embarrass her later. And the second she expresses any dislike of posting pictures online I'll stop doing it and expect everyone else to respect her wishes too. I know that after a certain age I got camera shy and would have hated the idea of my mom posting pictures of me online for her friends.

[dreemkin]

We are not on social media like FB or instagram and for safety reasons, do not want our daughters' pics on it. Since we can not control family and/or friends' privacy settings we ask them not to post pics.

We actually just had to deal with this with my H's sister. She kept posting a lot of pics on social media she thought we wouldn't know about but we found out. We had to tell her again not to post pics sigh. I just don't want some creeper on the internet looking at my girls pictures....

[flyster]

Mar 10, 2015 11:47:54 GMT -5 hollydfromtn said:

DH and I got rid of our Facebook accounts years ago. So I have no way of telling what others have posted. I still post pics on Instagram though.

One thing that has worked with our family, as far as sharing pictures goes, was setting up a Dropbox folder and inviting all of our family to it. This way my family that lives over 2hrs away still get to see him growing without me having to blast his pics all over social media. Everybody has access to it and they can upload any pictures they've taken as well.

We have a google drive for him that family is invited to also. Although no one else really understands it, so we are the only ones that upload to it