BFF is pregnant *vent*

[germaphobe]

I really am happy for her. I am. I have no where else to talk about this.. we were supposed to be pregnant together.... I obviously hope she has a successful and healthy pregnancy, but I am so angry, frustrated, jealous so many emotions.... sorry for venting. Thanks for listening. 

I feel horrible for feeling anything but happy for her.

[barackollama]

You'll get there even if it takes some time. Sometimes it doesn't matter who makes the announcement, it just plain sucks to hear.

[mrssqueegy]

I totally get exactly how you feel and I imagine that most (if not everyone) on this board would feel the same in this situation. We might not tell anyone (other than this board) but we all totally get it. Sending you so much love.

[babyzebra]

I totally get what you're feeling. It's ok to feel that mix of emotions. ((Hugs))

[followthesun]

I'm in a similar situation. It sucks

[rablissful]

((hugs)) We've all been there. It's perfectly normal. You'll get there in time, and you can try telling her you're very happy for her but to keep the preggo talk to a minimum since you're still really upset about your mc. I'm in a very similar situation with my older sister.

[cabgirl]

Please don't feel bad. This is a terrible situation to be in, and your feelings are normal and nothing to feel bad about. My husband has a friend whose wife (who I am friendly with and see fairly often at events - my H and her's are band mates and often play shows together) is pregnant and due in July, and I've been avoiding going to shows because I can't bear to see her. I can't even imagine how much stronger those jealous, sad, angry feelings would be if it were my best friend who was pregnant. I'm sorry you're dealing with this.

[hollyberry]

I am sorry, that sucks so much. I have quite a few friends at the moment who are just about to give birth or just have ( they were all close to my first loss edd) so I completely get where you are coming from. Just be honest with her, I am sure she will understand the feelings.

[amandaree]

It's ok to feel what you are feeling. My grief counselor told me during my last miscarriage that we cause anxiety when we try to negate what we really feel. So own your feelings, recognize them for what they are. You can be happy for her and sad for you. It's a terrible confusing rollercoaster. I'm sorry you're going through it. Don't let yourself feel guilty for feeling the way you do and if you need to give yourself some time and distance, be kind to yourself and give yourself the space you need to heal.

(((HUGS)))

[shytimes]

Sending you so many hugs. We totally get it and are here for you!

[Ann612]

As I'm sure you see from all the responses, this is a totally normal feeling. And certainly one I have felt as well. You can be thrilled for her, but sad for yourself. That feeling of "should have" is a particular bad one for me. "I should have been pregnant with this person..." or "I should have been pregnant on this trip..." Gets me every time.

Don't be too hard on yourself, the emotions are there, better just to feel them and try to deal with them. Maybe do something nice for yourself this weekend?

[vivela]

Mar 13, 2015 7:03:44 GMT -5 Ann612 said:

As I'm sure you see from all the responses, this is a totally normal feeling. And certainly one I have felt as well. You can be thrilled for her, but sad for yourself. That feeling of "should have" is a particular bad one for me. "I should have been pregnant with this person..." or "I should have been pregnant on this trip..." Gets me every time.

This, definitely. I'm sorry for what you are going through. This is all hard and sometimes it takes awhile to cope with new challenges.

[danenikki]

Don't feel bad I think we all feel this way. I'm angry seeing birth announcements and pregnancy updates too.

[nikolie93]

All the other ladies said what I would, I just wanted to say sorry that you're going through this and to offer *hugs*

[ronniesgirl]

In a very similar boat. It sucks.