Thursday Bitchfest...

[dmoney]

Not sure if any of you will know what this is, but If i post online (FB) That I am really craving Pitt Ham (its a Baltimore Speciality) don't tell me to go to a deli and get a corned beef sandwich... the two could not be any more different...and then don't tell me I am being picky because I have a craving for a specific food (ETA This was not my husband just a facebook "friend"). Hoping my hubby saw my post and brings it home for dinner because that's all that I want!!

[dmoney]

Mar 12, 2015 9:21:48 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

I really need to vent....

A friend of mine is a dental assistant and has been looking for a new job for some time. My older sister is the patient coordinator at an orthodontics office and said she would let me know if any dentists they dealt with were looking to a hire a new assistant.

My sister texts me this morning telling me that my friends fiancé is talking shit about her(my sister) because my friend apparently applied for a position at my sisters office which neither of us were aware of and he blames my sister for my friend not getting the job and losing my friends resume. My sister is one of the most organized people I know and I highly doubt she'd forget being given a resume, let alone losing it.

This shit sucks because my friends brother is my husband and I's best friend and we spend a lot of time with them. And I'm a bridesmaid in my friends wedding..

TL:DR
My friends fiancé is talking shit about my sister and causing a scene and I don't know if I should call him out on because I'm in their wedding and super closer with my friends family.

SOO Not cool of your friend. I would 100% reach out to him and ask him wtf is going on! But that is just me and I dont mind confrontation 

[mathistm]

Where I work my paycheck reflects hours that I see clients. Therefore I could schedule 40 clients in a week but if 11 don't show up it looks like I only worked 29 hours on my paycheck. Mind you, each "clinical hour" is actually 2 by the time I do case notes, treatment planning, letters, phone calls, etc. I just got totally fucked with my student loans because it appears as though I do not work full time. And my boss won't do a damnnn thing to help me out. Looks like someone won't be coming back after her (unpaid) maternity leave. Cool that no one actually cares about mental health. Cool that I have a masters degree and professional license and end up with shit positions for shit pay.

[wink568]

I called off work yesterday with a cold. One particular co-worker keeps stopping by my desk asking how I'm feeling. I'm pregnant not made of glass. I took a day off to fight off the bug and now I'm feeling pretty darn good, thanks. I don't think it's necessary to update you on my well being every time you walk past my desk.

[leenziepops]

Mar 12, 2015 10:39:12 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

I don't mind confrontation either, but it could start more drama than it's worth.

Agree! Though still annoying situation because it's your sister after all.

Tldr - My DH is awfully mean and im awake it's nearly 4am here.

My bitch. Its 3.48am and I've been up since 2.30am. DH woke me asking about painkillers. I took some for a killer toothache this week and left one. He cracked the shits at me for leaving only 1 tablet left in the house. I got out of bed and searched through bags and cabinets. He then shouts at me because now he has to get dressed and drive to 24/7 store. I finally find some. 3. Just enough for him to get through the night. Back to bed and 30mins he tells me how annoying i am. I was awake still because I was hurt from his yelling. Tells me off for not giving a shit. I'm on the couch now after eating a snack feeling sorry for myself and thinking what an asshole my DH can be when he's not feeling well.

[dmoney]

New Bitch for the day.. My sister is a lazy POS. I get that she just had twins back in January but she needs to stop making my mom do as much as she is doing. My mom has MS and has been told she can not do as much anymore. My sister doesnt like to listen to a word that ANYONE tells her because she thinks that she knows it all. Just got a call from my MIL who was taking my mom out to lunch who found my mom sitting on the driveway after she FELL. My mom says its because she lost her balance picking up the news paper, I know her balance can be rocky but when she gets the proper amount of sleep that she is supposed to get her balance is great. My mom also didnt want to call my sister to come help her up because she was sleeping.. So its okay for you a 31 year old who is perfectly healthy to take a nap and make your mother watch your new born babies where if G-d forbid something were to happen my mom is stranded because she can not walk and carry either of them let alone both of them. Wake your fucking ass up and help your mother down the driveway. Do your own fucking Laundry for once, clean your own house. Let your mother go out to lunch with friends (she wasnt allowed to go out on Sunday because my sister and BIL couldn't handle watching all 3 kids on their own.) News Flash, you did it for 3 weeks when our parents were back home in Florida, just because mom is up here now (Dad is supposed to be driving up in April) and now he is driving up this weekend I think because he cant say anything to my sister because she wont listen to anything anyone says. But if he is actually up here, he can tell her no.

Sorry for the rant, Im just so pissed at my sister for not realizing that my mom needs to take naps, and to take it easy. My sister for the most part chooses to ignore the fact that my mom is sick, and puts all of these demands on her which just piss me off beyond belief.

[mrskblack11]

Mar 12, 2015 11:53:28 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Agree! Though still annoying situation because it's your sister after all.

Tldr - My DH is awfully mean and im awake it's nearly 4am here.

My bitch. Its 3.48am and I've been up since 2.30am. DH woke me asking about painkillers. I took some for a killer toothache this week and left one. He cracked the shits at me for leaving only 1 tablet left in the house. I got out of bed and searched through bags and cabinets. He then shouts at me because now he has to get dressed and drive to 24/7 store. I finally find some. 3. Just enough for him to get through the night. Back to bed and 30mins he tells me how annoying i am. I was awake still because I was hurt from his yelling. Tells me off for not giving a shit. I'm on the couch now after eating a snack feeling sorry for myself and thinking what an asshole my DH can be when he's not feeling well.

BOOOOOO. I hope you can fall back asleep for a few hours. You are a good wife for searching the house for more pain pills. 

[nicolec78]

Mar 12, 2015 11:53:28 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Mar 12, 2015 10:39:12 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

I don't mind confrontation either, but it could start more drama than it's worth.

Agree! Though still annoying situation because it's your sister after all.

Tldr - My DH is awfully mean and im awake it's nearly 4am here.

My bitch. Its 3.48am and I've been up since 2.30am. DH woke me asking about painkillers. I took some for a killer toothache this week and left one. He cracked the shits at me for leaving only 1 tablet left in the house. I got out of bed and searched through bags and cabinets. He then shouts at me because now he has to get dressed and drive to 24/7 store. I finally find some. 3. Just enough for him to get through the night. Back to bed and 30mins he tells me how annoying i am. I was awake still because I was hurt from his yelling. Tells me off for not giving a shit. I'm on the couch now after eating a snack feeling sorry for myself and thinking what an asshole my DH can be when he's not feeling well.

I wouldn't have looked!

[nettje]

Mar 12, 2015 11:53:28 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Mar 12, 2015 10:39:12 GMT -5 @littlechivette said:

I don't mind confrontation either, but it could start more drama than it's worth.

Agree! Though still annoying situation because it's your sister after all.

Tldr - My DH is awfully mean and im awake it's nearly 4am here.

My bitch. Its 3.48am and I've been up since 2.30am. DH woke me asking about painkillers. I took some for a killer toothache this week and left one. He cracked the shits at me for leaving only 1 tablet left in the house. I got out of bed and searched through bags and cabinets. He then shouts at me because now he has to get dressed and drive to 24/7 store. I finally find some. 3. Just enough for him to get through the night. Back to bed and 30mins he tells me how annoying i am. I was awake still because I was hurt from his yelling. Tells me off for not giving a shit. I'm on the couch now after eating a snack feeling sorry for myself and thinking what an asshole my DH can be when he's not feeling well.

That would not fly with me. If DH said any of that to me (even not feeling well) he'd be getting a "come to Jesus" talk. I'm sorry your DH was acting like a complete asshole. Hugs.

[carolyngrace]

@jemomma, personally I like Morgan way better than Louise for the FN!

mathistm, that really sucks. I'm a licensed social worker and get paid the same way (based on client hours). But It's been clear from day 1 that it's a "part time" job (and I can't bill more than 30 hours/week). Was your job presented as "full time"? If so you should definitely be able to make something work in your favor! I frequently wonder if my masters' & license were worth it because of all my loans and how hard it is to find good full-time work.

[kemdupuis]

Mar 12, 2015 11:57:36 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

Mar 12, 2015 11:34:26 GMT -5 pbubblegum said:

Tell us the name!

The name we had decided on is Morgan Jean. But now I keep wondering if it's too masculine for a girl since both names are unisex. I am considering Louise Jean instead. I really want to keep Jean because it has special meaning for DH and his family.

FWIW I think Morgan Jean is a super cute name.

[Deleted]

Mar 12, 2015 16:11:25 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

@demanda88, kemdupuis, carolyngrace - thanks for your opinions! I really used to like the name too, I think my crazy hormonal brain is affecting my decision making skills :/

I also made the mistake of asking the baby name board and they were pretty rough.

I like Morgan Jean too! I have a step niece named Morgan and she's awesome.

[leenziepops]

Mar 12, 2015 13:07:41 GMT -5 mrskblack11 said:

Mar 12, 2015 11:53:28 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Agree! Though still annoying situation because it's your sister after all.

Tldr - My DH is awfully mean and im awake it's nearly 4am here.

My bitch. Its 3.48am and I've been up since 2.30am. DH woke me asking about painkillers. I took some for a killer toothache this week and left one. He cracked the shits at me for leaving only 1 tablet left in the house. I got out of bed and searched through bags and cabinets. He then shouts at me because now he has to get dressed and drive to 24/7 store. I finally find some. 3. Just enough for him to get through the night. Back to bed and 30mins he tells me how annoying i am. I was awake still because I was hurt from his yelling. Tells me off for not giving a shit. I'm on the couch now after eating a snack feeling sorry for myself and thinking what an asshole my DH can be when he's not feeling well.

BOOOOOO. I hope you can fall back asleep for a few hours. You are a good wife for searching the house for more pain pills. 

FML. I was up til 5am. Then DH's 5.30am alarm went off
Just woke up and super late for work. 8.35am now. He'll cop it tonight.

[baileybaileybne]

Mar 12, 2015 12:59:23 GMT -5 dmoney said:

New Bitch for the day.. My sister is a lazy POS. I get that she just had twins back in January but she needs to stop making my mom do as much as she is doing. My mom has MS and has been told she can not do as much anymore. My sister doesnt like to listen to a word that ANYONE tells her because she thinks that she knows it all. Just got a call from my MIL who was taking my mom out to lunch who found my mom sitting on the driveway after she FELL. My mom says its because she lost her balance picking up the news paper, I know her balance can be rocky but when she gets the proper amount of sleep that she is supposed to get her balance is great. My mom also didnt want to call my sister to come help her up because she was sleeping.. So its okay for you a 31 year old who is perfectly healthy to take a nap and make your mother watch your new born babies where if G-d forbid something were to happen my mom is stranded because she can not walk and carry either of them let alone both of them. Wake your fucking ass up and help your mother down the driveway. Do your own fucking Laundry for once, clean your own house. Let your mother go out to lunch with friends (she wasnt allowed to go out on Sunday because my sister and BIL couldn't handle watching all 3 kids on their own.) News Flash, you did it for 3 weeks when our parents were back home in Florida, just because mom is up here now (Dad is supposed to be driving up in April) and now he is driving up this weekend I think because he cant say anything to my sister because she wont listen to anything anyone says. But if he is actually up here, he can tell her no.

Sorry for the rant, Im just so pissed at my sister for not realizing that my mom needs to take naps, and to take it easy. My sister for the most part chooses to ignore the fact that my mom is sick, and puts all of these demands on her which just piss me off beyond belief.

That's crazy. I can't understand when grown people treat their parents as 'the help'. I know some people are lucky enough to have parents who can give help with baby sitting and even some who do day care duty for a day a week but imposing on them all the time, and giving no thought to their own well being? That's just acting like a toddler themselves. I hope your mum can try to stand up to them a bit more. I know my mum really struggles to say no to anything my siblings ask of her so it's not easy. And I know you can't do much as a bystander but I totally see where you're coming from. I would be really mad too.

[wink568]

Mar 12, 2015 16:11:25 GMT -5 @jemomma said:

@demanda88, kemdupuis, carolyngrace - thanks for your opinions! I really used to like the name too, I think my crazy hormonal brain is affecting my decision making skills :/

I also made the mistake of asking the baby name board and they were pretty rough.

I know more female Morgan's than male.  I mean, it's been used for girls since before my time, so I feel it's legit.

Out of context I asked DH "If you meet a Morgan is it a boy or a girl?" He said "Could be both, but first thought is girl."

I followed up with "Morgan Jean?" and he said "Definitely a girl."  I can't thing of a single male with Gene as his middle name, but Jean is much more often used as a middle name for girls.  Morgan > Louise, IMHO.

[leenziepops]

I am having such a bad day.

After lack of sleep. Then a colleague telling me what I shouldn't be eating and patting my belly.
Now this happened....
Just got off the phone with my mum. I want to do the traditional Chinese one month party on Sunday July 19th to celebrate my new baby and to honor old traditions. The party has to be a Sunday because my dad works on Saturdays. Called my mum to find out if she was okay with it being on her birthday thinking that it should be fine. I have found a great hall free on that date at a great price and location. Can you freaking believe she has a problem with it being on her birthday. WTF. She’s just turning 59 so really does she need the whole day to be about her. Oh sorry, I just give birth every week so this isn’t a big deal to me at all. Arrrrrghhhhhh.
A week earlier puts a risk of it being too soon if I’m late on EDD. A week later my older sister could pop with her EDD being July 29th. So July 19th was quite perfect. She’s being so difficult. She even goes, "Well then do I have to do anything to help that day??" When just a week ago she agreed to making food and helping me out. Then she's telling me to book July 10th which is Friday?!?! Then in a tone she says, "just do what you want then." Yeah right, so you can sulk for the entire day of my first baby's one month celebration. Seriously. She’s my mum. WTF WTF WTF. Not a good day. Does anyone have any ice cream? 

[Widget123]

Mar 12, 2015 21:54:29 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

I am having such a bad day.

After lack of sleep. Then a colleague telling me what I shouldn't be eating and patting my belly.
Now this happened....
Just got off the phone with my mum. I want to do the traditional Chinese one month party on Sunday July 19th to celebrate my new baby and to honor old traditions. The party has to be a Sunday because my dad works on Saturdays. Called my mum to find out if she was okay with it being on her birthday thinking that it should be fine. I have found a great hall free on that date at a great price and location. Can you freaking believe she has a problem with it being on her birthday. WTF. She’s just turning 59 so really does she need the whole day to be about her. Oh sorry, I just give birth every week so this isn’t a big deal to me at all. Arrrrrghhhhhh.
A week earlier puts a risk of it being too soon if I’m late on EDD. A week later my older sister could pop with her EDD being July 29th. So July 19th was quite perfect. She’s being so difficult. She even goes, "Well then do I have to do anything to help that day??" When just a week ago she agreed to making food and helping me out. Then she's telling me to book July 10th which is Friday?!?! Then in a tone she says, "just do what you want then." Yeah right, so you can sulk for the entire day of my first baby's one month celebration. Seriously. She’s my mum. WTF WTF WTF. Not a good day. Does anyone have any ice cream? 

I am sorry you are having a bad day, but I think you are getting yourself upset prematurely about this.  Who knows when you or your sister will actually have your babies and July is still far enough away.  do you really need to reserve a hall now?  Stop and take a deep breath

[leenziepops]

Mar 13, 2015 3:22:05 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

Mar 12, 2015 21:54:29 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

I am having such a bad day.

After lack of sleep. Then a colleague telling me what I shouldn't be eating and patting my belly.
Now this happened....
Just got off the phone with my mum. I want to do the traditional Chinese one month party on Sunday July 19th to celebrate my new baby and to honor old traditions. The party has to be a Sunday because my dad works on Saturdays. Called my mum to find out if she was okay with it being on her birthday thinking that it should be fine. I have found a great hall free on that date at a great price and location. Can you freaking believe she has a problem with it being on her birthday. WTF. She’s just turning 59 so really does she need the whole day to be about her. Oh sorry, I just give birth every week so this isn’t a big deal to me at all. Arrrrrghhhhhh.
A week earlier puts a risk of it being too soon if I’m late on EDD. A week later my older sister could pop with her EDD being July 29th. So July 19th was quite perfect. She’s being so difficult. She even goes, "Well then do I have to do anything to help that day??" When just a week ago she agreed to making food and helping me out. Then she's telling me to book July 10th which is Friday?!?! Then in a tone she says, "just do what you want then." Yeah right, so you can sulk for the entire day of my first baby's one month celebration. Seriously. She’s my mum. WTF WTF WTF. Not a good day. Does anyone have any ice cream? 

I am sorry you are having a bad day, but I think you are getting yourself upset prematurely about this.  Who knows when you or your sister will actually have your babies and July is still far enough away.  do you really need to reserve a hall now?  Stop and take a deep breath

The lack of sleep and fight with DH sure didn't help my mood at all. It was mainly my mum's attitude that upset me. Didnt expect her to be so possessive over her birthday day when it came to her grandchild.
Had a facial and power napped through it. Feeling much better. Not going to think about this one month party thing this weekend.

[Widget123]

leenziepops do you celebrate 100 days as well? My Korean SIL's family is big on that one.

[dmoney]

Mar 12, 2015 16:39:00 GMT -5 baileybaileybne said:

Mar 12, 2015 12:59:23 GMT -5 dmoney said:

New Bitch for the day.. My sister is a lazy POS. I get that she just had twins back in January but she needs to stop making my mom do as much as she is doing. My mom has MS and has been told she can not do as much anymore. My sister doesnt like to listen to a word that ANYONE tells her because she thinks that she knows it all. Just got a call from my MIL who was taking my mom out to lunch who found my mom sitting on the driveway after she FELL. My mom says its because she lost her balance picking up the news paper, I know her balance can be rocky but when she gets the proper amount of sleep that she is supposed to get her balance is great. My mom also didnt want to call my sister to come help her up because she was sleeping.. So its okay for you a 31 year old who is perfectly healthy to take a nap and make your mother watch your new born babies where if G-d forbid something were to happen my mom is stranded because she can not walk and carry either of them let alone both of them. Wake your fucking ass up and help your mother down the driveway. Do your own fucking Laundry for once, clean your own house. Let your mother go out to lunch with friends (she wasnt allowed to go out on Sunday because my sister and BIL couldn't handle watching all 3 kids on their own.) News Flash, you did it for 3 weeks when our parents were back home in Florida, just because mom is up here now (Dad is supposed to be driving up in April) and now he is driving up this weekend I think because he cant say anything to my sister because she wont listen to anything anyone says. But if he is actually up here, he can tell her no.

Sorry for the rant, Im just so pissed at my sister for not realizing that my mom needs to take naps, and to take it easy. My sister for the most part chooses to ignore the fact that my mom is sick, and puts all of these demands on her which just piss me off beyond belief.

That's crazy. I can't understand when grown people treat their parents as 'the help'. I know some people are lucky enough to have parents who can give help with baby sitting and even some who do day care duty for a day a week but imposing on them all the time, and giving no thought to their own well being? That's just acting like a toddler themselves. I hope your mum can try to stand up to them a bit more. I know my mum really struggles to say no to anything my siblings ask of her so it's not easy. And I know you can't do much as a bystander but I totally see where you're coming from. I would be really mad too.

So i confronted my sister about it VIA text because i couldn't deal with her on the phone (can hardly deal with her through texts half the time) And i simply said, did you see mom fall. she was like I was inside nursing the twins (She gave birth on January 19th) I said that not what I asked, She was like are you asking if i saw our mother fall and do nothing about it? I said I'm asking if you saw our mother fall. She was like, I was inside nursing the twins so i either didn'tsee it happen or I saw it happen and didn't do anything about it are you implying that i didn't do anything about it? I said to be honest I don't know what to think anymore. She then responded with I cant believe you think that little of me.  I said I don't think that little of you but I do think that you are asking mom to do way to much and she is going to have an attack if she keeps up at this pace.  She never responded which in true form means she knows that she is in the wrong and doesn't have anything else to say about it.

My mom is coming to my house for dinner tonight and I plan on having her sit on her ass and do NOTHING. My pup will be happy to see her and will be jumping all over her. But when you are a guest in someones house you don't put them to work. She has had my mom doing laundry and making dinner and a whole slew of other things.  She even leave the babies at home with her when she goes out for 3 hours at a time.  My mom raised all 3 of us and we are all fine, but the fact remains she now is almost 65 years old, her MS is getting worse and she walks with a walker 75% of the time and the other 25% she uses a crutch.  If G-d forbid something were to happen and she needs to get out of that house, she can barley get out of the house alone, let alone carrying two newborns.  My sister just doesn't give two shits about this, she just says okay were going out and leaves it at that.  My sister has always been selfish and only thinks about her needs, and this is a prime situation where she is not looking at the bigger picture.

My dad comes up on the 27th and I cant wait, hes not afraid to tell my sister no, but for some reason my mom is. 

[wormgerm]

It's Friday but I just have to say fuck teething. Fuck it.

[leenziepops]

Mar 13, 2015 5:20:31 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

leenziepops do you celebrate 100 days as well? My Korean SIL's family is big on that one.

Traditional Chinese is one month. We've never done 100 days.

[redlipz]

It's not Thursday but I gotta just vent a little.

Monday I went to the doctor half hour away alone, which is fine. I happen to run into a guy friend across the hall from my doctors office as he was coming out of the optometrist, I also had to get the glucose test done and we just started talking and he said he had nothing to do so he walked with me to the lab and waited with me till I got blood drawn. There was a ton of people there and among those people was one of my SIL's friends who immediately texted her telling her that I was with a guy that wasn't my husband and then apparently there was another one of her friends there too and she too texted her about it. Of course she told my husband and my he asked me about it and I told em that I ran into him there and that he just hung out with me till I got blood drawn, no need to lie. He wasn't mad or anything.

It just irritates me how quick ppl are to judge and how fast stuff gets around. (I'm not super close to my sil and she always has something to say) I just laughed and told my husband that I can't even fart without the world knowing. Ugh stupid ppl.

[leenziepops]

redlipz Some people really have nothing going on in their lives but to just gossip! How irritating!