Article ... I think many of us can relate to some of it...
Mar 12, 2015 16:52:10 GMT -5
Post by chicago on Mar 12, 2015 16:52:10 GMT -5
www.canadaadopts.com/hardest-part-waiting-adoptive-parent/
What would add to the list?
Here’s a list of some of the hardest ones, in no particular order.
1. Not having a set due date.
2. Always wondering if there’s something more you could or should do
3. Asking yourself “why me?”
4. Hearing about someone else’s match and wondering “Why not me?”
5. Remembering the person and the couple you were before you decided to start a family.
6. Wishing you could hold your new niece, or any baby for that matter, without feeling like a complete mess afterwards.
7. The fear that your spouse may not be as gung-ho about adopting as you are.
8. Wanting to go away on a trip but worrying that you may miss out on a situation while you’re gone.
9. Asking yourself why didn’t you start your family sooner.
10. Fighting the urge to erupt into tears every time someone asks you how many children you have.
11. Feeling bitter that a couple who started the adoption process after you has just adopted and then feeling guilty about it.
12. Wondering whether you should tell your friends the real reason you can’t make it to their baby shower.
13. Writing about what a great parent you’ll be in your adoption letter without feeling like a fraud.
14. Not knowing whether the expectant mother who has chosen you to raise her child will change her mind.
15. Trying to sound upbeat and excited even when you’re not.
16. Hoping your child will be healthy without feeling guilty for thinking about it.
17. Not looking for a new job even though you don’t like your current one because you may need to take parental leave at any moment.
18. Finding a service that promises to make your online profile “stand out” only to discover that there are hundreds of other profiles just like yours on it.
19. Dealing with professionals who are either too perky or too pessimistic.
20. Always being on high alert, with your bags packed and ready to go, just in case “the Call” comes.
21. Worrying whether you’ll ever get another referral after you’ve turned one down.
22. Arriving at the hospital just in time for your baby’s birth without worrying about whether the staff will make you feel like you belong there.
23. Trying to calculate whether you’ll have enough money left over to parent after you’ve paid all of your adoption fees.
24. Wondering if the wait will be worth it.
What would add to the list?
Here’s a list of some of the hardest ones, in no particular order.
1. Not having a set due date.
2. Always wondering if there’s something more you could or should do
3. Asking yourself “why me?”
4. Hearing about someone else’s match and wondering “Why not me?”
5. Remembering the person and the couple you were before you decided to start a family.
6. Wishing you could hold your new niece, or any baby for that matter, without feeling like a complete mess afterwards.
7. The fear that your spouse may not be as gung-ho about adopting as you are.
8. Wanting to go away on a trip but worrying that you may miss out on a situation while you’re gone.
9. Asking yourself why didn’t you start your family sooner.
10. Fighting the urge to erupt into tears every time someone asks you how many children you have.
11. Feeling bitter that a couple who started the adoption process after you has just adopted and then feeling guilty about it.
12. Wondering whether you should tell your friends the real reason you can’t make it to their baby shower.
13. Writing about what a great parent you’ll be in your adoption letter without feeling like a fraud.
14. Not knowing whether the expectant mother who has chosen you to raise her child will change her mind.
15. Trying to sound upbeat and excited even when you’re not.
16. Hoping your child will be healthy without feeling guilty for thinking about it.
17. Not looking for a new job even though you don’t like your current one because you may need to take parental leave at any moment.
18. Finding a service that promises to make your online profile “stand out” only to discover that there are hundreds of other profiles just like yours on it.
19. Dealing with professionals who are either too perky or too pessimistic.
20. Always being on high alert, with your bags packed and ready to go, just in case “the Call” comes.
21. Worrying whether you’ll ever get another referral after you’ve turned one down.
22. Arriving at the hospital just in time for your baby’s birth without worrying about whether the staff will make you feel like you belong there.
23. Trying to calculate whether you’ll have enough money left over to parent after you’ve paid all of your adoption fees.
24. Wondering if the wait will be worth it.
