Any other bed sharers on the board? Not to be confused with co-sleeping, I'm talking about all night long cuddle fest with your LO.
I was against any type of bed sharing until DD1 came along and made it a necessity. I needed sleep and she needed to touch me while she slept.
Once I could see the writing on the wall with DD2 I opted for the same thing again. Poor DH is on the couch however it's better than getting woken up a bunch I think. At least This LO actually let's me move away from her and I can sleep how I want rather than being frozen in an uncomfortable position for hours.
We had to bed-share with DD when she was about 6months to about 18 months when she decided to sleep in a big girl bed. We still let DD fall asleep with us and we wake her up and move her to her own bed when we go to sleep. She stays there once we move her. She still needs that reassurance and comfort of being close to her mama when she is falling asleep.
With DS we are working on routine and napping in the crib from day one to try and not have to bed share again. Even though it worked with our first, it was exhausting!
We're bed sharing. LO sleeps in my arms all night. I didn't want to do it initially, but we found she sleeps for longer stretches in bed with us. DH is now on board with it as well.
Can I ask how you all are sharing? Is LO just in with you and do you just keep the sheets/blankets away? We had horrible sleep last night and I told DH this morning I was considering one of those side sleepers for DD so I can touch her or grab her in the middle of the night instead of having her in the pack n play. I just can't have such little and broken sleep I am fading fast today and it isn't even 8!!
Post by hollydfromtn on Mar 14, 2015 19:27:43 GMT -5
We're bed sharing too. DS is still nursing every 2 hours almost to the minute. After two weeks of me only sleeping for 30-45min blocks in between feedings, I finally gave in to bed sharing. I just tuck him beside me like xoxolicia. DH still isn't on board with it though, so I attempt the RNP every night. We can usually get one good stretch in it but that's it.
Post by allonsy221b on Mar 14, 2015 20:28:33 GMT -5
I start ds in his rock and play and then we bed share when he wakes to eat. Dh has been sleeping in our dd room. We use the same blanket or I swaddled him and lay him on top of the blankets.
We went through stretches of bed sharing with DS. He went through a couple of stretches early on (in the first 3 months) where he had to be held at all times, day and night. Then when I went back to work when he was about 6m he started having hardcore separation anxiety. So he'd start out in his crib but wake up before midnight and we'd bed share the rest of the night, which lasted until he was about 16m. Even now, when DH gets up to go to work, probably half or more of the time, DS will come into our bed and go back to sleep.
With DD, she slept well in the RNP from the beginning. I usually bring her into bed for snuggles when she first starts to stir for her morning feeding and that will often get me another half hour or so. But she's been sick this past week and extra clingy, so we've been bed sharing this week.
Usually I just have the sheets and blankets pulled lower so that they can't get up near the baby's face.
I really don't know the difference between co-sleeping and bed sharing.... but I digress. DS sleeps with me in the master bed. DD, sleeps in her own room now, but asks every night if DS is big enough for her to sleep in the "big" bed with DS and I. DH sleeps in the master, until DS and I get things figured out. He normally sleeps on my chest the majority of the night, then I move him at some point next to me, either on his side or his back. He gets no covers. Frankly, he doesn't like them anyway and just kicks them off. Our house is pretty warm as it is, so I know he's not cold. At some point we will transition into him being in his crib, however, its probably not any time soon. Im aware of the naysayers on the subject, but to each their own. Im exclusively BF, so it works for us.
We bed share here. Both DH and I were totally against it in the beginning, but it's so much easier to bf at night. There's abut half the amount of crying as there would be otherwise...for me and for LO lol It also didn't help that he hates his bassinet, he will only nap in it, occasionally, and at night will scream the second he's laid down. I have him under the covers with me because he is really good about flailing around anytime a blanket gets near his face, even when he's asleep.
We try to have DD sleep in her little baby nest between us in the bed (with her own cover) but occationally she and I both fall asleep while BFing and then I wake up and feel bad about it and angry at myself. She is more comfortable though, and sleeps longer streches when she gets to have contact with me or DH. I'm just terrified that I will crush her in my sleep. But it is super cosy and secretly I love it as much as she does.
I bed share with both of my kiddos. DS will be four soon and has slept in the bed with me since day one. When I got pregnant with DD we upgraded to a king so that we would have more room. H has back issues that have had him sleeping on the couch (his preference even though I pushed to get the right mattress for him so he could sleep in the bed with me again) since before DS was born so I like having the company. I sleep in between the kids because DS isn't old enough to be aware of where the baby is and I just tuck the blankets under DD so that they don't get up around her face.
Post by sleepymama29 on Mar 19, 2015 15:57:39 GMT -5
I bedshare with both daughters. Oldest is 2 1/2. I sleep in between then. I try not to use a blanket but if I do I tuck it in around me so I don't have to worry about youngest DD. We sleep in odd's "big girl bed" which is our old queen size bed and DH gets the nice king size bed to himself. I have to admit I really miss sleeping with DH but I have yet to figure our how to get ODD to sleep all night without me
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