Updated: 11w left turns into 7w (June baby becomes May baby)

[tahitiandreamin]

I finally got in to see an obstetrician about a c section for my complete placenta previa (I had been under a midwife's care). Not only did he manage to put even more fear into me (and restrictions) but my 11weeks left vanished into 7 weeks left. My early June baby will now be a May baby. I'm SO not ready for this yet!  And I'm not supposed to drive anymore.  He doesn't want me working anymore (although I neogiated 1-2 days per week in the office). I'm also not allowed to be alone with dd (3) anymore.  I'm trying so hard to keep breathing and not freak out knowing all of the possible things that can go wrong. It's not good whe your Dr gets this look on his face before he speaks...  


Murphy is having fun with me right now. I had plans to be super fit during pregnancy - now I can't exercise. I had plans for a nice med-free birth - now I'm having a c-section. I had plans to eat super healthy this time - stress and nausea really aren't positive contributors to that. I think it's time to stop planning so much and just learn to go with the flow (like that's easy for my Type A personality)!

UPDATE
Well, wouldn't you know it, I spotted today and got to trek into triage. Everything turned out ok. Nothing serious, although my BP was a bit high which I can guarantee is from the stress of the last week knowing how bad and serious this can be. I'm now in this crazy limbo state of not knowing if my midwife is still involved with my care or not (and she's away for the next two weeks) or if I am only under the dr's care. I know either way that I am I good hands. I am SO hoping right now that my midwife can still be involved. She has kept me sane for the past 2.5 months. I really hope that she can be there in some capacity through to the end. 

You our ladies are the BEST!  You are all completely amazing!  Your thoughts and support really mean the world to me (especially because I'm not the most prolific of posters). I've been here crying just reading your posts. Thank you all!!!!!

[bruunk]

I'm so sorry you're feeling stressed! I hate it when a doctor, while sometimes coming from a good place (your health and LO health) scares the heck out of you. I'll be thinking about you! Please know we're here for you, if you need to vent, freak out, etc. I hope you can go with the flow (I too am a Type A, plan to the minute person - it's hard not to do it!)

[noeliav]

((( hugs ))) mama. Even though your plans have been up-ended, you are in good care and you and LO are going to be great. Hang in there!

[mrskblack11]

I can imagine the stress you must be feeling to have 4 weeks cut off the timeline plus all of the added restrictions. Life rarely follows our "plans" but it sounds like the OB has your best interest in mind and is taking all the necessary precautions. FX that things go smoothly for you.

[wormgerm]

Aw I'm sorry things are changing so much so fast. Hopefully you find peace with all of this sometime before delivery, if not at least after you have a healthy baby in your arms. Best of luck to staying relaxed in the coming weeks.

[mathistm]

So sorry to hear you are so stressed! I would be freaking out as well! Since you are a planner, I'm sure you will be okay-just a slight change in plans! If the news is new it might take a little time to sink in but you get to meet your little baby soon!

[pghtruelove]

Sucks for all the changes and nothingn going according to plan. Just remember it will all be worth it in the end!

[belle0720]

Mar 16, 2015 12:26:48 GMT -5 tahitiandreamin said:

I finally got in to see an obstetrician about a c section for my complete placenta previa (I had been under a midwife's care). Not only did he manage to put even more fear into me (and restrictions) but my 11weeks left vanished into 7 weeks left. My early June baby will now be a May baby. I'm SO not ready for this yet!  And I'm not supposed to drive anymore.  He doesn't want me working anymore (although I neogiated 1-2 days per week in the office). I'm also not allowed to be alone with dd (3) anymore.  I'm trying so hard to keep breathing and not freak out knowing all of the possible things that can go wrong. It's not good whe your Dr gets this look on his face before he speaks...  


Murphy is having fun with me right now. I had plans to be super fit during pregnancy - now I can't exercise. I had plans for a nice med-free birth - now I'm having a c-section. I had plans to eat super healthy this time - stress and nausea really aren't positive contributors to that. I think it's time to stop planning so much and just learn to go with the flow (like that's easy for my Type A personality)!

I'm so sorry that this is stressing you out and things aren't going as planned. Try to focus on the fact you are still healthy and will have that beautiful baby in your arms in May. H's sister had placenta previa with her first and had an early scheduled C-section. Her daughter was/is healthy and there were no complications. Hang in there for the next 2 months, I'm sure it's going to fly by. (hugs)

[laurenlou83]

I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of this. I know it isn't easy when things don't go according to plan, but it sounds like the doctors have you and your LO's best interest in mind. At the end of the day, the health of you and your LO is all that matters! Keep us posted on everything!

[tiffbot]

So sorry for all the changes, but I'm glad it sounds like a plan is in place to keep you and baby safe. GL with everything!!

[Widget123]

Yikes, if I were in your shoes this would be really hard for me to handle. I think the most extreme thing is not being allowed to be alone with your DD.

Well hang in there and focus on having a healthy baby!

[nettje]

I'm sorry about all of your changes. FX you have an uneventful journey for the rest of your pregnancy!

[billyhorrible]

Sounds like a lot to take in at once. Hope it's smooth sailing for the next 7 weeks!

[teenybird]

So stressful! Sorry things are really quite the opposite of what you imagined too I hope that everything continues to go okay, May or June! It is really hard to go wth the flow when you envision your birth happening a certain way. I hope you're able to find empowerment and joy in your birth experience, no matter what it looks like. Sending a hug and some good juju your way, mama.

[ladysif]

Well yeesh, those are some major restrictions! Sorry you have to have the stress of this but it will be worth it. Babies certainly have a way of taking things out of our control. Take it easy and accept as much help as you can get!

[erbear]

I'm sorry things aren't going as planned and that you're so stressed over this. I'm thinking of you & baby!

[upandbelow]

Mar 16, 2015 12:26:48 GMT -5 tahitiandreamin said:

I finally got in to see an obstetrician about a c section for my complete placenta previa (I had been under a midwife's care). Not only did he manage to put even more fear into me (and restrictions) but my 11weeks left vanished into 7 weeks left. My early June baby will now be a May baby. I'm SO not ready for this yet!  And I'm not supposed to drive anymore.  He doesn't want me working anymore (although I neogiated 1-2 days per week in the office). I'm also not allowed to be alone with dd (3) anymore.  I'm trying so hard to keep breathing and not freak out knowing all of the possible things that can go wrong. It's not good whe your Dr gets this look on his face before he speaks...  


Murphy is having fun with me right now. I had plans to be super fit during pregnancy - now I can't exercise. I had plans for a nice med-free birth - now I'm having a c-section. I had plans to eat super healthy this time - stress and nausea really aren't positive contributors to that. I think it's time to stop planning so much and just learn to go with the flow (like that's easy for my Type A personality)!

Part of me wanted to like this, not because of what you're going through but because of the way you finished your post.  I am so sorry for what you're going through and all the changes that you're having to face, but it sounds like you're adapting and facing this with a degree of humour and sensitivity and I admire that.  As a planner, I worst-case scenario everything and plan my responses, but I've learned that once this is done it's best to throw it all to the wind and let what comes come.  I wish you all the best!

[flbabychin]

I'm sorry you're having to go through all of this. It really sucks when things don't go according to our plans. I can definitely relate - being type A myself, if this pregnancy has taught me anything, it's that I cannot plan everything and often things just have a way of somehow working themselves out, even if it's opposite from what I want. I would be crushed with some of the news from your doc, if it was me, but I agree with PPs that you're handling it with humor and authenticity. You will get through it!

[leenziepops]

I definitely know how you feel about things not going to plan. It would do my head in. You have a good 7 weeks to adjust to the plans though, some women don't get that and have a change of plans all in a rush at the last minute. So hopefully once you get your head around it, we can all get excited and squeeeee about you getting to meet your precious LO in May!!

[kemdupuis]

Thinking of you- i know I would be freaking out if I were in your shoes. Look on the positive side: you get to meet your gorgeous, perfect LO before the rest of us do! Praying everything turns out ok and that you find a way to feel more at peace with this.

[santoki77]

tahitiandreamin,i know how you feel. trying to let go and trying to relax is so damn hard sometimes. try to take it slow and breathe. I don't know how far along you are bu i'm sure your OB is making the best decision for you and your little one. my T&Ps are with you.

[fuccimama]

Sorry to hear your LO has to come early, but praying LO thrives and everything is okay in the weeks to follow!

[ombradellarosa]

Sorry to hear about all the curveballs being thrown your way right now! As another super-planner I can imagine how difficult that has to be for you. Kudos for your good attitude toward it all. I hope that you are able to find peace with the changes and that something good comes of it that you never expected!

[trixi282]

I'm sorry your doc freaked you out and that your entire "plan" for this pregnancy and delivery has gone out the window... that sucks.

The only positive is that you are finding this out now, so although you don't feel ready, you can prepare knowing that baby is coming early now.  Not everyone gets that heads up!

I hope all goes well from here on out and you can have a very uncomplicated csection and recovery!