Fml moments...

[redlipz]

Fml moment: I decided to give my husband some action and we closed/locked the door while the kids were napping and guess who walked in on us....MY FOUR YEAR OLD DAUGHTER!! I locked it! I swear!!! Ugh! Thank goodness we were "spooning" and she didn't see much but holy fuck I felt so horrible!!! I quickly pulled the blankets and said I was so cold. Sorry husband but absolutely no more sexy time for you...EVER till the kids move out...maybe.

What your fml moment?? And have you ever had anyone walk in on you?

[maddib]

Yes!! My son has walked in on us and I swore I had locked the door too!! Omg I didn't know what to do!! I think he saw a nice view of DHs backside... It was so traumatic!! Mainly for me!

[wegrowsheep]

My 5 year old DD happily skipped in on us one morning JUST as we had finished, but the blanket kept her from asking questions. She just wanted to share her two little owl erasers with me, lol. "Here Mommy, two little tiny owls! Aren't they cute??" and then she happily left, and we died laughing.

[tiffbot]

This hasn't happened to me yet, but my sister walked in on my parents when she was in high school! She never said a thing, I found out from my mom awhile later lol!

[redlipz]

I'm just glad my legs weren't in the air because if she would've walked in a few minutes earlier she would've got a side view and would've seen dads penis in moms vagina. Nope nope nope. No more sex. I don't want to traumatize her or any of my kids. Lol yuck!!

[bruunk]

Oh man - I've wondered how this works (sex after children). I walked in on my parents when I was under 5 and didn't care/know what was happening. I was horrified though when I realized what it was that I'd seen when I remembered later in life (I was 16, and for the record my mom laughed when I told her my "horrific" childhood memory. She was obviously concerned...)

[Widget123]

We've had sex while DD was sleeping on the bed next too us- is that creepy? The only time she ever woke up and saw it she was terrified but she isn't even 2 yet so that's way better than a 4 or 5 year old plus seeing it

ETA: replaced never with next.

[nicolec78]

Our dd walked in on us. She started laughing and asking what we were doing and why daddy wasn't wearing a shirt. She was maybe 7. Guess who knocks now.

Turns out that if you turn the lock before you shut our door it doesn't latch.

[carolyngrace]

Maybe I'll change my mind when they're MY kids, but as of now I really don't think walking in on your parents having sex is a big deal (esp for a little kid. As a teenager that would suck, but not be "traumatizing"!)

There are way worse things a kid can experience than their parents expressing a loving relationship. I'm not saying you shouldn't TRY to keep it private, but cut yourselves some slack ladies

[mathistm]

I agree carolyngrace. Maybe it's because we see and hear about things that are much more traumatizing? I've never had someone come in to talk about experiences and mention walking in on their parents unless they were teenagers and it just happened. I think the adults are probably more traumatized than the kids are when it happens!

[bruunk]

Mar 18, 2015 7:20:45 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

Maybe I'll change my mind when they're MY kids, but as of now I really don't think walking in on your parents having sex is a big deal (esp for a little kid. As a teenager that would suck, but not be "traumatizing"!)

There are way worse things a kid can experience than their parents expressing a loving relationship. I'm not saying you shouldn't TRY to keep it private, but cut yourselves some slack ladies

Agreed!! Especially now that I'm an adult, I'm happy to know that my parents still like, and love each other, enough to have a physical relationship. We still catch them making out in the kitchen (again - mortifying when you're 14, but not the end of the world - and we siblings all kinda like it, since it means they still love each other!)

[nicolec78]

Mar 18, 2015 10:39:42 GMT -5 bruunk said:

Mar 18, 2015 7:20:45 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

Maybe I'll change my mind when they're MY kids, but as of now I really don't think walking in on your parents having sex is a big deal (esp for a little kid. As a teenager that would suck, but not be "traumatizing"!)

There are way worse things a kid can experience than their parents expressing a loving relationship. I'm not saying you shouldn't TRY to keep it private, but cut yourselves some slack ladies

Agreed!! Especially now that I'm an adult, I'm happy to know that my parents still like, and love each other, enough to have a physical relationship. We still catch them making out in the kitchen (again - mortifying when you're 14, but not the end of the world - and we siblings all kinda like it, since it means they still love each other!)

We are regularly affectionate with each other in front of the kids.  Our son is 19 going on 20 he knows what we have been up to...we like to embarrass him!

[nicolec78]

Also before my fil passed you could regularly catch my inlaws making out! I loved it!

[redlipz]

There's a big difference between making out/kissing/being Lovey in front of the kids and them seeing dads penis in moms vagina. I guess my fears come from my childhood and growing up.

[nicolec78]

Mar 18, 2015 11:48:23 GMT -5 redlipz said:

There's a big difference between making out/kissing/being Lovey in front of the kids and them seeing dads penis in moms vagina. I guess my fears come from my childhood and growing up.

No one wants to see that.  We just double check our door now.

[redlipz]

Mar 18, 2015 3:31:17 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

We've had sex while DD was sleeping on the bed next too us- is that creepy? The only time she ever woke up and saw it she was terrified but she isn't even 2 yet so that's way better than a 4 or 5 year old plus seeing it

ETA: replaced never with next.

When I was pregnant with my son I used to go on another app and they were having a similar conversation about sex and how it will work after kids. There was a girl who said she would many times latch baby on her breast while her SO went down on her and that she had experienced orgasms that way before... Even if baby isn't old enough to know what was going on, I found that disturbing.

[tatersalad]

Mar 18, 2015 11:52:22 GMT -5 redlipz said:

Mar 18, 2015 3:31:17 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

We've had sex while DD was sleeping on the bed next too us- is that creepy? The only time she ever woke up and saw it she was terrified but she isn't even 2 yet so that's way better than a 4 or 5 year old plus seeing it

ETA: replaced never with next.

When I was pregnant with my son I used to go on another app and they were having a similar conversation about sex and how it will work after kids. There was a girl who said she would many times latch baby on her breast while her SO went down on her and that she had experienced orgasms that way before... Even if baby isn't old enough to know what was going on, I found that disturbing.

That is just disgusting. And disturbing. Some people are wack.

[redlipz]

Mar 18, 2015 11:50:50 GMT -5 nicolec78 said:

Mar 18, 2015 11:48:23 GMT -5 redlipz said:

There's a big difference between making out/kissing/being Lovey in front of the kids and them seeing dads penis in moms vagina. I guess my fears come from my childhood and growing up.

No one wants to see that.  We just double check our door now.

Definitely double, triple, quadruple checking the doors now.

I just had bad experiences in my childhood and though I know my children are in a much better situation than I was and it most likely won't have the same affect on them as it did for me, it still kinda triggers some fear for me I guess.

[redlipz]

Mar 18, 2015 11:50:50 GMT -5 nicolec78 said:

Mar 18, 2015 11:48:23 GMT -5 redlipz said:

There's a big difference between making out/kissing/being Lovey in front of the kids and them seeing dads penis in moms vagina. I guess my fears come from my childhood and growing up.

No one wants to see that.  We just double check our door now.

Definitely double, triple, quadruple checking the doors now.

I just had bad experiences in my childhood and though I know my children are in a much better situation than I was and it most likely won't have the same affect on them as it did for me, it still kinda triggers some fear for me I guess.

[carolyngrace]

Mar 18, 2015 13:10:52 GMT -5 redlipz said:

Mar 18, 2015 11:50:50 GMT -5 nicolec78 said:

No one wants to see that.  We just double check our door now.

Definitely double, triple, quadruple checking the doors now.

I just had bad experiences in my childhood and though I know my children are in a much better situation than I was and it most likely won't have the same affect on them as it did for me, it still kinda triggers some fear for me I guess.

Without getting details it sounds like whatever situation you were in was... unique. Sorry it left you scarred in some way! Hopefully hearing some of us say that accidentally witnessing that once in a while is NOT a big deal can ease SOME of your fears with your kids, anyway. Sounds like you're trying to have good boundaries, and that will reflect well in them for sure! 

[maddib]

Mar 18, 2015 13:58:17 GMT -5 @demanda88 said:

Mar 18, 2015 11:52:22 GMT -5 redlipz said:

When I was pregnant with my son I used to go on another app and they were having a similar conversation about sex and how it will work after kids. There was a girl who said she would many times latch baby on her breast while her SO went down on her and that she had experienced orgasms that way before... Even if baby isn't old enough to know what was going on, I found that disturbing.

What the fuck. No. Just no. This is so revolting & disturbing on so many levels.

Ya that is messed up on so many levels. And personally I don't think I could ever have sex with my kids in the bed with me... That just seems a bit too much.. And weird..

[Widget123]

I think im going to have nightmares now, thanks redlipz lol

[redlipz]

Mar 18, 2015 14:28:53 GMT -5 carolyngrace said:

Mar 18, 2015 13:10:52 GMT -5 redlipz said:

Definitely double, triple, quadruple checking the doors now.

I just had bad experiences in my childhood and though I know my children are in a much better situation than I was and it most likely won't have the same affect on them as it did for me, it still kinda triggers some fear for me I guess.

Without getting details it sounds like whatever situation you were in was... unique. Sorry it left you scarred in some way! Hopefully hearing some of us say that accidentally witnessing that once in a while is NOT a big deal can ease SOME of your fears with your kids, anyway. Sounds like you're trying to have good boundaries, and that will reflect well in them for sure! 

Yes, I've definitely held my parenting skills and decisions at very high standards because of my own growing up experiences and I'm learning that the situations are different and that it's ok to not be so hard on myself and that as long as I try my best that my kids will be more than ok. Thank you(:

[redlipz]

Mar 18, 2015 14:32:12 GMT -5 maddib said:

Mar 18, 2015 13:58:17 GMT -5 @demanda88 said:

What the fuck. No. Just no. This is so revolting & disturbing on so many levels.

Ya that is messed up on so many levels. And personally I don't think I could ever have sex with my kids in the bed with me... That just seems a bit too much.. And weird..

Exactly. She said it was the best way to do things when they were in the middle of it and baby started crying. How about you stop, sooth baby and then continue elsewhere.

[maddib]

Mar 18, 2015 14:54:48 GMT -5 redlipz said:

Mar 18, 2015 14:32:12 GMT -5 maddib said:

Ya that is messed up on so many levels. And personally I don't think I could ever have sex with my kids in the bed with me... That just seems a bit too much.. And weird..

Exactly. She said it was the best way to do things when they were in the middle of it and baby started crying. How about you stop, sooth baby and then continue elsewhere.

Oh ya. That's the first thought I would have had!!! Take care of baby and then do your thang!! Lol

[leenziepops]

Mar 18, 2015 11:52:22 GMT -5 redlipz said:

Mar 18, 2015 3:31:17 GMT -5 Widget123 said:

We've had sex while DD was sleeping on the bed next too us- is that creepy? The only time she ever woke up and saw it she was terrified but she isn't even 2 yet so that's way better than a 4 or 5 year old plus seeing it

ETA: replaced never with next.

When I was pregnant with my son I used to go on another app and they were having a similar conversation about sex and how it will work after kids. There was a girl who said she would many times latch baby on her breast while her SO went down on her and that she had experienced orgasms that way before... Even if baby isn't old enough to know what was going on, I found that disturbing.

[dmoney]

FML- I attended a training for 2 weeks straight, one of my colleagues attending the SAME training. Yet she insists that its not her responsibilities... NEWS FLASH everyone who was in that class has the same responsibilities. get your head out of your butt and start doing your own work and stop pushing it on me to do./

[dmoney]

Mar 19, 2015 1:46:41 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

Mar 18, 2015 11:52:22 GMT -5 redlipz said:

When I was pregnant with my son I used to go on another app and they were having a similar conversation about sex and how it will work after kids. There was a girl who said she would many times latch baby on her breast while her SO went down on her and that she had experienced orgasms that way before... Even if baby isn't old enough to know what was going on, I found that disturbing.

 This just SCREAMS Child neglect or abuse or IDK what, but WTF thats just wrong in so many ways. If i wasnt 28 weeks pregnant i would loose my appetite but im hungry so im going to eat anyway.

[wormgerm]

Mar 19, 2015 11:20:54 GMT -5 dmoney said:

Mar 19, 2015 1:46:41 GMT -5 leenziepops said:

 This just SCREAMS Child neglect or abuse or IDK what, but WTF thats just wrong in so many ways. If i wasnt 28 weeks pregnant i would loose my appetite but im hungry so im going to eat anyway.

I think it screams really warped and fucked up boundries. Lack of respect for both your child and your intimate time with your husband. Those are VERY seperate relationships and should NEVER cross paths. That's disgusting. A nursing baby is not a sex toy.