I am going to be a parent realization.

[missjenniebean]

Sooo....I am up early and thinking about all that needs done for baby. As a first time mom, even an experienced mom I am assuming, I feel overwhelmed. Well, I was thinking about a crib, diaper situations, touring daycare...classes...and then it hit me. I AM A PARENT/WILL BE A PARENT.

SO and I went to our baptism class for LO last night. I signed up for breastfeeding classes. I am looking at daycare. Baby proofing the house. Figuring out finances. Thinking about how SO and I will mold this LO into a wonderful human being. Which books, movies, music are okay to listen, watch, and read, watching our bad behaviors to make sure baby doesn't catch them. It is easier to connect with my customers BC now im not just some 25 year old, I'm a mom to be with joys and trials ahead of me. What I can eat for baby now and what baby will eat when he/she arrives.

When did this happen and how come it didnt hit me in the face a long time ago?! Is it such an easy transition that you don't notice at first, this new stage and maturity. Anyone else have this realization or re-realization?! It is kind of mind blowing.

[wormgerm]

I realized the overwhelming weight of it all after I had the stomach flu a week or 2 ago. I was like oh shit I have to take care of a baby/child next time this happens, how do people survive? It's crazy but I'm still excited to meet him and start out crazy crazy journey in June.

[missjenniebean]

I know! I keep going in between excited and terrified. Cant wait to meet the lil one!

[leenziepops]

Right there with you. I got all panicky and freaked out for the first time when I hit 3rd trimester. How the hell will i be able to look after an entire tiny human?!?!

[nicolec78]

I've been a parent for almost 20 years so my freak out is a little different. i got really excited that we got one child to 20 and started panicking we are doing it again. I'm tired but excited.

[Widget123]

Mar 19, 2015 5:02:34 GMT -5 missjenniebean said:

Sooo....I am up early and thinking about all that needs done for baby. As a first time mom, even an experienced mom I am assuming, I feel overwhelmed. Well, I was thinking about a crib, diaper situations, touring daycare...classes...and then it hit me. I AM A PARENT/WILL BE A PARENT.

SO and I went to our baptism class for LO last night. I signed up for breastfeeding classes. I am looking at daycare. Baby proofing the house. Figuring out finances. Thinking about how SO and I will mold this LO into a wonderful human being. Which books, movies, music are okay to listen, watch, and read, watching our bad behaviors to make sure baby doesn't catch them. It is easier to connect with my customers BC now im not just some 25 year old, I'm a mom to be with joys and trials ahead of me. What I can eat for baby now and what baby will eat when he/she arrives.

When did this happen and how come it didnt hit me in the face a long time ago?! Is it such an easy transition that you don't notice at first, this new stage and maturity. Anyone else have this realization or re-realization?! It is kind of mind blowing.

IMO you don't have to worry so much about the parts I put in bold right now.  The things that overwhelm you may very well be the small things, not these big picture things, like how all of a sudden your life revolves around the eating, pooping, and sleeping of another human being.  It will be amazing and terrifying all at once.

[bendherova]

Mar 19, 2015 5:23:18 GMT -5 wormgerm said:

I realized the overwhelming weight of it all after I had the stomach flu a week or 2 ago. I was like oh shit I have to take care of a baby/child next time this happens, how do people survive? It's crazy but I'm still excited to meet him and start out crazy crazy journey in June.

The first time I had a stomach virus after giving birth, DS was 21 months. DH can't just take time off to help out in times like this, so I called my mom at 1am and said I needed help. She was at the airport at 730am and at my house by 11am that day. (I'd been able to get DS to daycare that morning).

Thank heavens for retired and financially able parents.

[bendherova]

Also, the hard parts of parenting- discipline etc come on gradually. bc Baby won't be testing limits for almost a year after birth.

Sure, it's hard to get a baby to sleep at times (i had no idea how hard!), but you can't spoil an infant. You can't hold them too much. making sure they are fed and warm with a dry bum will be what your life revolves around for awhile.

[carolyngrace]

Mar 19, 2015 5:23:18 GMT -5 wormgerm said:

I realized the overwhelming weight of it all after I had the stomach flu a week or 2 ago. I was like oh shit I have to take care of a baby/child next time this happens, how do people survive? It's crazy but I'm still excited to meet him and start out crazy crazy journey in June.

This is me, too. It really hits me when I'm sick, tired, or fighting with DH. I think omg, very soon I'm going to have to do this with a CHILD around me all the time! When things are going well and I have energy, I feel excited to be a parent!

[mrskblack11]

It's so exciting and terrifying all at the same time.

We were watching baby kick last night and it still amazes me that he is in there.

Part of me thinks it won't really hit me until I am giving birth and finally have him in my arms.

I have a sense of calm about becoming a parent. People have been doing this since the beginning of time. I trust myself to do the best I can in raising him.

[Bluedaisy]

I think I'm still in denial. This baby was very much planned but it is still really surreal to me.

[sugarkissed]

I have an 18 month old and sometimes I still have those moments of "whoa... I'm a mom!"

The fact that in just over 2 months I'll have 2U2 is overwhelmingly exciting and terrifying. How am I going to manage both when my toddler is already such a handful?!

[Widget123]

Mar 19, 2015 5:23:18 GMT -5 wormgerm said:

I realized the overwhelming weight of it all after I had the stomach flu a week or 2 ago. I was like oh shit I have to take care of a baby/child next time this happens, how do people survive? It's crazy but I'm still excited to meet him and start out crazy crazy journey in June.

You would be surprised how much you can handle when you are caring for a small child and are sick at the same time.  Women are stronger in this sense than a lot of men like DH are.  I posted over the weekend how I had the stomach flu and DH was being a jerk and refusing to help me out much with DD.  I was still able to feed her, bathe her, watch her, on little food and after vomiting several times... But if you are so sick that you are possibly getting a PICC like JBC you really are going to need outside help.

ETA to Add: DH has been sick since Monday, has helped me with literally nothing, and all he has done was lay in bed and watch tv all day.

[wegrowsheep]

I didn't have any freak our moments with my first til that first night in the hospital, when the responsibility and exhaustion hit me together. And I totally cried big, selfish, ugly tears to mourn the loss of my me-centered world. What had we done??! And then I felt guilty for crying. And then DH got her to stop crying, and I fell asleep. Morning was much better.

Don't feel bad for the freak outs and overwhelming attitude adjustments. They are normal.

[tjanca22]

I had a freak out last week listening to two coworkers talk about their 1year olds. They were talking about weaning their kids from bottles and changing bathing routines. I thought to myself, shit, how often do you bathe a newborn or even a toddler for that matter? It hit me that I know pretty much nothing when it comes to raising a child. I told DH when I got home and he said we can bathe it when it smells worse than us. Not helpful!!

[holliberry28]

tjanca22, I was also like to DH, oh my god, I don't even know how to bathe this little guy. And his response was, I'm sure it's just like taking care of Lucy and Maggie (our cats) except we won't clean litter boxes but change diapers instead. Love his simplistic view of his role lol

[baytosa2013]

I just had this moment in the last week as well. I felt a little overwhelmed at first thinking "oh no what did we doooo!!!" because life will never be the same as it is right now. I'm so nervous about doing things wrong, making terrible mistakes, etc but my DH calms me and I know that he's going to be a fantastic dad so tht helps.